Who are you closest to?

PreciousDove

PreciousDove

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Simply put are you closer to one family member than any other?
If so, can you tell us about your relationship with that person?
I just love hearing about families.

When Mom was alive, I was definitely closest to her for many reasons.
Now that my parents are gone I'm closest to 1 of 4 older siblings.

It's my youngest brother. I'm the baby of the family.
Even though he lives far away from me I try to make sure i talk with 1 or 2 times a month.
I hope and pray that I will get to see him again in person before we pass.
He's been there when others haven't.

I used to be closest to my sister but now haven't talked to her in 11 yrs..
She's the black sheep of the family.

What about you?
 

Well I have one son so I would say I am closest to him. He is a disabled adult and lives about two blocks from me so I see him often. My brother lives about 20 miles from me and I do not see him very often. Sometimes he calls me but I stopped calling him because he never has time to talk. So I wait for him to call me. I have cousins who I talk to on fakebook but right now I am banned from that site so not keeping up with them. One of them does see me more than the others.
 
Now that our parents are gone, we don't associate with relatives. My hubby is the oldest of 5. Most live out of state. The only sibling of his that lives close (40 miles) hasn't spoken to us in 10 years. She got mad at us for something (not sure what it was) and has not responded to calls, Christmas cards, sympathy cards (her husband died last year)..nothing. She once told us we needed to do things with our own family. This was when we were traveling and spent the summers in a campground and she'd invite us for gatherings and meals. Her kids don't have anything to do with us, either. Hubby's kids live in CA and AZ (we're in PA) so we don't see them. No grandkids on either side.

I'm an only child so no brother's or sister's. My son has not spoken to me in years. That's another story.

So...we're not close to anyone but, honestly...we don't miss the drama that family can bring :(
 
Colleen said:
Now that our parents are gone, we don't associate with relatives. My hubby is the oldest of 5. Most live out of state. The only sibling of his that lives close (40 miles) hasn't spoken to us in 10 years. She got mad at us for something (not sure what it was) and has not responded to calls, Christmas cards, sympathy cards (her husband died last year)..nothing. She once told us we needed to do things with our own family. This was when we were traveling and spent the summers in a campground and she'd invite us for gatherings and meals. Her kids don't have anything to do with us, either. Hubby's kids live in CA and AZ (we're in PA) so we don't see them. No grandkids on either side.

I'm an only child so no brother's or sister's. My son has not spoken to me in years. That's another story.

So...we're not close to anyone but, honestly...we don't miss the drama that family can bring :(
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I'm sorry to hear this.. Doesn't anyone realize with all that's happening in the world family is very important to have?
Some people aren't fortunate in having family and are afraid to frow old and alone.
If there's ever a day that you wish things to change in your situation, I'll pray for you it happens.
 
katlupe said:
Well I have one son so I would say I am closest to him. He is a disabled adult and lives about two blocks from me so I see him often. My brother lives about 20 miles from me and I do not see him very often. Sometimes he calls me but I stopped calling him because he never has time to talk. So I wait for him to call me. I have cousins who I talk to on fakebook but right now I am banned from that site so not keeping up with them. One of them does see me more than the others.
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I wish my brother was living closer because I'm the disabled one.
I'm doing fine though and can take care of things myself. So not to worry.:)
 
Of course it is not physical distance we are taking about here. Feeling closest to a family member is quite common. A strong bond that is special between two family members is also quite common and they come in all kinds of combinations. They are not necessary for survival but they are heart warming for those who have such a connection. Halleluiah! :)
 
Paco Dennis said:
Of course it is not physical distance we are taking about here. Feeling closest to a family member is quite common. A strong bond that is special between two family members is also quite common and they come in all kinds of combinations. They are not necessary for survival but they are heart warming for those who have such a connection. Halleluiah! :)
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Don't forget though that if you're the youngest you can gain hopefully good wisdom from the older ones.
Sometimes they can even learn something from you.;)
 
I'm closest to my only child, my son. We both have crazy senses of humor and keep each other laughing. That is especially healing during this time since we are both still grappling with the loss of his wife, who transitioned in December. She was like a daughter to me and we were extremely close. We also lost her twin.
 
I am closest to my younger daughter, my older sister and my dearest friend of nearly 40 years. But that leaves out other people that I love dearly so I can't really limit it to just three people.

My other daughter has disengaged from the entire family a long time ago and has cut off all contact with my younger daughter, myself, my ex-husband (her father) and almost all cousins, aunts and uncles.
 
My oldest niece, Julie. The same one I have mentioned here often. We are just 14 years different in age ,and I have always been the cool, fun aunt.
story,in her 20s she had some addiction issues and had to go to rehab. All fine now. Found out later that she BEGGED her dad (my brother) not to tell me, as she thought I would be mad. I did find out, and was not mad
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PreciousDove said:
Simply put are you closer to one family member than any other?
If so, can you tell us about your relationship with that person?
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Hands down, my 2nd son
the commercial fisherman

He's always had so much gusto

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Did a little something on him years ago

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He's showing signs of wear, and rightfully so
Cares for his daughter 24/7
She's not expected to see her teens

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He takes her fishing
She busies herself with feeding egg noodles to the sharks


More recent;

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I'm closest to my hubby. He has been there for me through thick and thin (and there were some really "thin" times). I am also close to a wonderful woman who worked for me for 11 years. We were both let go from our company in June 2020. When we worked together, we shared our deepest, darkest secrets and we still chat regularly.

I'm an only child and both of my parents have passed. I have one cousin that I communicate with every few months. We grew up together, but we are at opposite ends of the religious and political spectrums. I am also close to my sister-in-law, although we only see each other once a year. They both live in other states.

My lesson from this is that I don't expect anyone, including my hubby, to take care of me when I need help. I am responsible for my future.
 
I always wanted to be close with my Mom, she was my favorite of all family members but from the time I was 8, when my Dad ran her off, I hardly got to see her at all. I, and only I, was in the room with her when she died and what helped with the grief--a small help, but--was the feeling that I'd been missing her most of my life so this was more of the same. That's just the way it is for some of us: when it comes to family, some people get shortchanged.
 
dseag2 said:
I'm closest to my hubby. He has been there for me through thick and thin (and there were some really "thin" times). I am also close to a wonderful woman who worked for me for 11 years. We were both let go from our company in June 2020. When we worked together, we shared our deepest, darkest secrets and we still chat regularly.

I'm an only child and both of my parents have passed. I have one cousin that I communicate with every few months. We grew up together, but we are at opposite ends of the religious and political spectrums. I am also close to my sister-in-law, although we only see each other once a year. They both live in other states.

My lesson from this is that I don't expect anyone, including my hubby, to take care of me when I need help. I am responsible for my future.
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We are kindred souls @dseag2 as I feel exactly the same!
 
PreciousDove said:
Simply put are you closer to one family member than any other?
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I'm getting low on kinfolk, I've got my son, my brother and a granddaughter that I wish for a closer relationship with. But my son and I have a good relationship, we get together every so often for hiking or just visiting and of course a meal. My son and his partner are getting married next year, so my family is going to grow a bit!
 
I was very close to both my parents who are gone. I am close to 2 of my 3 sons and my best friend. I email my siblings occasionally. They are very different from me.
 

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