Why do bad things happen to good people?

davey said:
Paco Dennis - we can only really talk of our own experiences especially other PN sufferers. I have had it probably at least 10 yrs - it just started out of the blue - I tried home rememdies for the pain - no hope. The doc in our smallish town happened to be on the ball and first put me on schedul 10 drugs - narcotics - I was floating on clouds fantastic - during the second or third month he said "I cannot keep prescribing these for you without state authority and they are not the final answer."

not sure what happened next but I did see a neurologist who was a 'pig' but he diagnosed me correctly and recommended Lyrica [ Pregabalin 150mg twice a day] - it is also used for epilepsy and of course works very well there. I have been fine ever since for 10 yrs - sometimes I miss doses and now have a box of over a 100 spares [must throw them out soon] - and despite missing doses the single dose still keeps me going till next day. I would seriously give them a try if you haven't already and asap??
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I am sorry that you have PN and it sounds acute, or was for a long while. It is really tough. I have PN Zoom support groups 3 times a month. About 40 people show up, all with different symptoms and levels of pain/numbness. What works for one person might not for another. I am very glad yours is manageable. I do think the 1800mg's of Gabapentin has helped. But as it is I have two pretty bad flairs a day...after I sleep at night and my nap. I am getting used to living with about a level3-4 of pain. One of life's little pranks it plays with us, all.
 

Shit happens is a slang sentence that is used as a simple existential observation that life is full of unfortunate unpredictable events, similar to "c'est la vie". The sentence is an acknowledgment that bad things happen to people seemingly for no particular reason.[1][2]

It can also be said less vulgarly, including phrases such as "it happens" or "stuff happens".[3]

History​

The fact that people have been remarking that shit happens has been attested from 1964, when Carl Werthman quoted an example in his UC Berkeley masters thesis; the relevant excerpt was published in The American City (edited by Anselm L. Strauss) in 1968.[4]
 
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I would paddle with my arms. It was beautiful. I was all alone with towering evergreen trees on both sides . The sound of the stream was so interesting and the beauty of the river winding down the mountain with all it's colors and shapes. The smell was even heavenly. I loved being there. As I travelled I encounter some real tough spots. I had to paddle furiously at times to avoid a dangerous looking rapid. I did tip over several times in those rapids. I learned how to survive them. It was a 1/2 hour of excitement that lasted the rest of the day. When I would finish I would lie on my back in the bright sun, close my eyes and listen and be with the river.
 
When I am in pain or depressed I try to detach myself from the situation and go to a place in my such as you describe later in this thread. Fond memories give us hope and relief from the unpleasantries of everyday life. I cannot take THC but I suggest getting a similar product for daytime use, I think it might do you some good.
Hang in there, dear friend and thank you for sharing
 
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See what surprises are associated with your surname at : https://coadb.com/
 
Ridiculous choices for my maiden name. I don't get it. Given about 20 choices, most with crosses, which is, as I said, ridiculous as my maiden name is among the first of the last names assigned to Jews.

My married name, which I use, makes more sense and is similar, though not the same, to the Coat of Arms I discovered while doing serious work on it years ago.

This site is really just for selling your "coat of arms" on coffee mugs and t shirts.
 
Things are not bad, they are a part of life and life is perfect the way it is. Death and illness has its place in life and so it is with disasters. Everything serves a purpose although we may not understand why.
 
Mr. Ed said:
Things are not bad, they are a part of life and life is perfect the way it is. Death and illness has its place in life and so it is with disasters. Everything serves a purpose although we may not understand why.
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When I stated this diary I was full of self-pity about getting the neuropathy. The Title about why "bad" things happen to "good" people was my feelings about all the good things I enjoyed in life had stopped, and there was nothing but pain to look forward to. It is a form of crying over your fate. Now, over 2 years later. I have become aware of the daily struggles of a majority of people. It seems everyone, good or bad, suffer.

We humans are very adaptable. We somehow find a way to survive. Everyone has their own maladies and their own solutions. We do the best we can. Like you say, pain is part of the universe for us biological, chemical creatures.. If we can live with our challenges we can learn a lot about being resilient. We can learn new ways of living and reacting as we adapt.
 
Because that "good person" after leaving the public restroom stall upon noticing no one else was inside to see him, was lazy, so left without bothering to wash his hands. Then pigeons on the telephone wires above, left a white message on his black Cadillac's hood.
;)
 
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After 2 and 1/2 years we might be getting close to understanding why my ears and sinus area is in so much pain. The damage of the nerve root between the C3 and C4 vertebrae are the same nerves that go up my jaw into my ears and sinus area.

Dermatome Correlation
The C3-C4 dermatome typically includes:
Lower jaw
Area up to the ear
Back of the head
Parts of the neck
These areas do correspond to sinus locations and could potentially be linked to various head and neck symptoms.
Implications
Neural compression at C3-C4 could lead to:
Pain or discomfort in the lower jaw, ear area, and back of the head
Sensory changes or paresthesia in these regions
Potential referred pain to sinus areas
The moderate spinal stenosis at this level, while not directly impinging the cord, could still contribute to neurological symptoms.
The severe foraminal narrowing, especially on the right side, suggests a high likelihood of nerve root compression.

I am asking my Primary today if she can do something or suggest a neurologist she knows to get a referral.? :)
 
Dennis, we are grateful every day we hear from you, and you are appreciated more than you know.
For what it's worth, I will share a little something of meaning that has helped me on life's journey.

One sunny morning I was going out for my usual walk. It was pleasant, the sun was on my face and illuminating my path.
I was taking in the beauty all around me.
I happened to look behind me, and as one would expect, there was my shadow.
It occurred to me that you never see it when you are facing the light, only when you turn away from it.
Not that shadows are bad, but I equated it to the darker side of life (The hardships) that tend to accompany us.
To me, it was a just a reminder that any day I was viewing my shadow, I wasn't looking where I should be.

Please understand that this isn't directed at you in any way. It was just something that popped into my head that has helped me, and I thought maybe it may do the same for you and what you're going through. The light can be anything you want it to be that makes life worth living (Music, friends, family, pleasant memories, or something spiritual). Whatever imparts comfort and thankfulness. Turn towards that whenever possible. All the best my friend.
 
@Paco Dennis
I'm glad that you are updating this thread.

It's good to know how you are doing with these challenges.

I understand what you're talking about in your post,
And in addition,
what about the trigeminal nerve, as well?
 
Kaila said:
@Paco Dennis
I'm glad that you are updating this thread.

It's good to know how you are doing with these challenges.

I understand what you're talking about in your post,
And in addition,
what about the trigeminal nerve, as well?
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I hope we do discuss it. It is all so new right now. I have to go through the appropriate channels. This is down the road a ways. I will keep trying different approaches to relieve the pain daily. It does remind me often that life is a mixture of yin and yang. :)
 
Paco Dennis said:
I have hesitated to start this diary because this forum seems to emphasize happiness and joy about life.
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That's the best reason to be here. When the worst happens to us we can only get through it by finding a reason to be positive. Even if we have to fake being positive it's good because if we keep at it, eventually it won't be fake any more.
 
Paco Dennis said:
@Kaila Yes, the trigeminal nerve is involved. I have an appointment Jan 14th to see a spine surgeon. I will let you know what he says.
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Yes, thank you for that reply, and I'll watch for your update from that specialist.
Tag me, too, if you think of it,
But I think I'll get An alert. To this thread.

I have an appointment on the 13th, so I might be distracted, but it's not a major one for me that week.
And I will want to hear about it, Dennis.
 
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Axel Slingerland said:
Another mystifying question is:

Why do Good things happen to Bad people?
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Not directed at you, personally.
The question you posed has never even entered my mind!

And I wonder why.
Whether a person is judged as good or bad does not mean there is zero good in a bad person.
Even if I see a person as bad I then simply don't care if they do have something good happen to them.
Sometimes good just happens randomly.
Perhaps a higher power uses a good event to turn a person from being bad.
If that, then I do care that good happens to bad people, it may turn them around for the good.
 

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