Why do so many younger members quickly leave SF?

People are more youthful & healthy than ever. Senior, junior senior, starts in middle sixties, IMO. Then there is middle old age and old old age. Middle old age is like over 70. After 80 you're just old.

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I guess there should be a category for over 90, now that so many can achieve that. How about old old?
 

Pepper said:
People are more youthful & healthy than ever. Senior, junior senior, starts in middle sixties, IMO. Then there is middle old age and old old age. Middle old age is like over 70. After 80 you're just old.

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I guess there should be a category for over 90, now that so many can achieve that. How about old old?
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That’s complicated lol. I think with my current illness I just am feeling older physically these days. My friends vary from ages in 30’s to 75.
 
Pepper said:
People are more youthful & healthy than ever. Senior, junior senior, starts in middle sixties, IMO. Then there is middle old age and old old age. Middle old age is like over 70. After 80 you're just old.

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I guess there should be a category for over 90, now that so many can achieve that. How about old old?
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My Mum is 101.5 I suppose she'd be in a 'fermented' category :LOL:
 
oldaunt said:
Fathers absolutely SHOULD have rights, as WELL as obligations. The two go together.
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In the UK definitely no rights whatsoever, only obligations, and some tortological nonsense about the "right to send your child to school", or " the right to apply to the courts for contact", (something denied to grandparents until recently, and I'd suggest a whole heap of trouble and excessive costs should someone go down that route!).

Look on our UK government websites if you can't believe this is true, (and of course some of the worst dads deserve little or no rights, but good or bad you ain't got none here!). :(
 
grahamg said:
In the UK definitely no rights whatsoever, only obligations, and some tortological nonsense about the "right to send your child to school", or " the right to apply to the courts for contact", (something denied to grandparents until recently, and I'd suggest a whole heap of trouble and excessive costs should someone go down that route!).

Look on our UK government websites if you can't believe this is true, (and of course some of the worst dads deserve little or no rights, but good or bad you ain't got none here!). :(
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I'm very sorry, that's just not right. Even the lousy deadbeat dads here have rights.
 
When I first joined here, I was unsure if it was for me. I did lurk a bit, came and went. Then decided I did like it. I have been a regular poster for a while now, though you will see I do not post often. It is usually I want to make sure that what I say is relevent to other readers.
I do not always look for the reactions, thumbs up and such. I just want to hope that some of what I say is of interest to some. I think we all need to remember that what we share may not be of interest to all. But if SOME readers get something, that works.
 
oldaunt said:
I'm very sorry, that's just not right. Even the lousy deadbeat dads here have rights.
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I once didn't work for a few years due to mental health problems, did that make me a deadbeat dad in your view, (plenty do stop working willingly, or refuse to pay, and lose all motivation, if they had any to start with, so I'm not arguing that point, just that blanket labels may be problematic!)?

I watch fathers rights groups in the USA making endless complaints about your court system, (even though I agree, in some states it appears better, one or two even mentioning the word "love" or allowing a loving relationship between the child and the other parent to develop, not a word or words you'll see used here I'm afraid, or I believe this to be the case anyway).
 
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grahamg said:
I once didn't work for a few years due to mental health problems, did that make me a deadbeat dad in your view, (plenty do stop working willingly, or refuse to pay, and lose all motivation, if they had any to start with, so I'm not arguing that point, just that blanket labels may be problematic!)?

I watch fathers rights groups in the USA making endless complaints about your court system, (even though I agree, in some states it appears better, one or two even mentioning the word "love" or allowing a loving relationship between the child and the other parent to develop, not a word or words you'll see used here I'm afraid, or I believe this to be the case anyway).
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No sir, the deadbeat is reserved for those who have good jobs and refuse to provide for the children they walked out on. Those like my ex many years ago who kept switching jobs because child support garnished his wages because he wouldn't pay. I do understand life happens. Even HE got to see his kids.
 
Marie5656 said:
When I first joined here, I was unsure if it was for me. I did lurk a bit, came and went. Then decided I did like it. I have been a regular poster for a while now, though you will see I do not post often. It is usually I want to make sure that what I say is relevent to other readers.
I do not always look for the reactions, thumbs up and such. I just want to hope that some of what I say is of interest to some. I think we all need to remember that what we share may not be of interest to all. But if SOME readers get something, that works.
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I enjoy all your posts, Marie.
 
dseag2 said:
I've now seen younger members in their 50's like Rah-Rah, Smiley Holly and MMinSocal go missing. I was pleased that they joined because they offered a different perspective. It is unfortunate that they left. I'm only guessing that one must have a thick skin to participate in this forum. Perhaps those in their 50's haven't developed the ability to let negative comments slide off their backs like we in our 60's, 70's and 80's have? Perhaps they are more altruistic than those of us who are more jaded.

Not sure what the answer is, but if this forum doesn't become more welcoming to younger members and their views it will quickly become stale. If you just want to spout the same old beliefs then good for you, but in my view we should do more to nurture and appreciate the views/posts of younger members.
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I am turning 70 this year, got here and like joining a senior center, I quickly learned I was much younger than the rest of the seniors. But, I don't care, because I love seniors.
 
I reached out to MMinSocal in a PM. She is 56. She responded that she joined the forum to learn more about tips on impending retirement and left due to comments/responses in some of the threads. She also still works full time and wants something that is worth spending her spare time on. Sorry to see her go.

I can totally understand her point of view. I am already retired so this forum is more for entertainment than for information. I think that you have to give it at least 6 months to understand everyone's personality, sense of humor (or lack of), background and views. If was still employed I would not have that time.

I still think that we need to be more welcoming to newcomers but I know we all have strong opinions, myself included.
 
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