Why get remarried?

ClassicRockr said:
But, in answer to your question, "living together", even though wife and I did it for a year before we married, isn't accepted in the Christian faith. Fortunately, my wife's family accepted us living together, but my wife was wearing an engagement ring during the entire year. So, to them, we weren't simply "living together".
There are Christian men out there, even at our age, that will refuse to "live together". There are those that won't "live together" or get married.
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Wow, talk about hypocrisy.
 

C'est Moi said:
If I were ever left alone, that's how I'd stay. I don't want to learn another person's quirks at this stage of life. I'd sell this house and move closer to the kids, but have no interest in another relationship. That "ship" has sailed.
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Yep!! I can't even imagine tryin to get into someone else's head..took me years to figure out the one I got.....
 
Falcon said:
Was it in the movie "Roots" where the marriage ceremony consisted of the couple holding hands and together

jumping over a broom which laid on the ground?. We should simplify our lives and go back to those days (In many respects.)

Ya think ?
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Good idea in theory, but some of us might find it tricky getting off the ground !
 
"Dear," asked a wife. "What would you do if I died?"
"Why dear, I would be extremely upset," said the husband. "Why do you ask such a question?"
"Would you remarry?" persevered the wife.
"No, of course not, dear" said the husband.
"Don't you like being married?" asked the wife.
"Of course I do, dear" he said.
"Then why wouldn't you remarry?"
"All right," said the husband, "I'd remarry."
"You would?" said the wife, looking vaguely hurt.
"Yes," said the husband.
"Would you sleep with her in our bed?" asked the wife.
After a long pause. "Well, yes, I suppose I would," replied the husband.
"I see," said the wife indignantly. "And would you let her wear my old clothes?"
"I suppose, if she wanted to," said the husband.
"Really," said the wife icily. "And would you take down the pictures of me and replace them with pictures of her?"
"Yes. I think that would be the correct thing to do."
"Is that so?" said the wife, leaping to her feet. "And I suppose you'd let her play with my golf clubs, too!?"
"Of course not, dear," said the husband. "She's left-handed."
 
Keesha said:
I currently live common law so have never officially been married and I don’t know what I’d do if I lost my husband.
I’d have to play it by ear. I’m not opposed to company of the opposite sex but like the others have mentioned, he would need to be self contained. I’m not cleaning up after anyone else again.:eek:nthego:
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My wife doesn't clean up after me, I clean up after her. Yes, she has me well trained! LOL
 
Falcon said:
Was it in the movie "Roots" where the marriage ceremony consisted of the couple holding hands and together

jumping over a broom which laid on the ground?. We should simplify our lives and go back to those days (In many respects.)

Ya think ?
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No, that movie was called Jumping the Broom. We have the movie. Angela Bassett is in it. Very, very good movie.
 
ClassicRockr said:
My wife doesn't clean up after me, I clean up after her. Yes, she has me well trained! LOL
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I’ve tried training mine and it doesn’t work. :cry:
Ive tried everything! If once he fully retires this doesn’t change then when we move to downsize I’m getting my own granny suite and no I’m not joking. This is going to sound incredibly cruel but my guy doesn’t clean anything. He’s a complete slob. He’s a boss where he works and has temps to do everything for him so he doesn’t have to clean up. I’m constantly reminding him that I’m not one of his temps. It gets annoying being somebody’s personal servant all the time. He doesn’t even throw garbage out. He’s got ME to do that for him. La GROWL!!!!!

Ok rant over!!!
 
Keesha said:
I’ve tried training mine and it doesn’t work. :cry:
Ive tried everything! If once he fully retires this doesn’t change then when we move to downsize I’m getting my own granny suite and no I’m not joking. This is going to sound incredibly cruel but my guy doesn’t clean anything. He’s a complete slob. He’s a boss where he works and has temps to do everything for him so he doesn’t have to clean up. I’m constantly reminding him that I’m not one of his temps. It gets annoying being somebody’s personal servant all the time. He doesn’t even throw garbage out. He’s got ME to do that for him. La GROWL!!!!!



Ok rant over!!!
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Taking garbage out was one thing that really impressed my MIL (wife's mom) that I did and had no problem doing it. Heck, on one Thanksgiving, I carved up the turkey and cleaned up after the meal (washed all dishes by hand and put away left-over food). There were six of us for that dinner. ​
 
ClassicRockr said:
Taking garbage out was one thing that really impressed my MIL (wife's mom) that I did and had no problem doing it. Heck, on one Thanksgiving, I carved up the turkey and cleaned up after the meal (washed all dishes by hand and put away left-over food). There were six of us for that dinner. ​
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You’re a good man Rockr. With a bit of weed in you, you’d be even better.
Wanna come over and train my man for me? :grin:
 
Keesha said:
I’ve tried training mine and it doesn’t work. :cry:
Ive tried everything! If once he fully retires this doesn’t change then when we move to downsize I’m getting my own granny suite and no I’m not joking. This is going to sound incredibly cruel but my guy doesn’t clean anything. He’s a complete slob. He’s a boss where he works and has temps to do everything for him so he doesn’t have to clean up. I’m constantly reminding him that I’m not one of his temps. It gets annoying being somebody’s personal servant all the time. He doesn’t even throw garbage out. He’s got ME to do that for him. La GROWL!!!!!

Ok rant over!!!
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This was my ex. :mad: He was so awful. Admittedly, I'm really anal about things being clean and tidy and organized, but even so, he was over the top bad. Even the kids complained...and that's back when they were teens and were prone to being slobs themselves! We weren't allowed to complain to him, or within his hearing of course, but we sure bitched amongst ourselves.

I've found a gem in Ron, that's for sure. He is as fastidious as I am about cleaning up and keeping things tidy. And it's not just for show, for me. It's just the way he is. Just one more thing I love about the man!
 
Aunt Bea said:
I wouldn't get married or live with anyone at this point in my life.

It would be nice to have a sort of committed companion to travel with or socialize with but not someone that I need to clean up after.:):playful::eek:nthego:
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We think alike because this is exactly what I thought of when I read the original post. :)
 
Don't ask me, every decisions about fnding happiness with companionship after my divorse has not been good. My thinking has always been, what the heck, give it a shot, shot myself in the foot every time. Until I met sweetie some 30 plus years ago.. We are not married, but are inseparable until death when we will depart physically, but never spiritally. Falcon, we did jump over a broom, so far so good. :love_heart:
 
Aunt Bea said:
I wouldn't get married or live with anyone at this point in my life.

It would be nice to have a sort of committed companion to travel with or socialize with but not someone that I need to clean up after.:):playful::eek:nthego:
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Ronni said:
This was my ex. :mad: He was so awful. Admittedly, I'm really anal about things being clean and tidy and organized, but even so, he was over the top bad. Even the kids complained...and that's back when they were teens and were prone to being slobs themselves! We weren't allowed to complain to him, or within his hearing of course, but we sure bitched amongst ourselves.

I've found a gem in Ron, that's for sure. He is as fastidious as I am about cleaning up and keeping things tidy. And it's not just for show, for me. It's just the way he is. Just one more thing I love about the man!
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AprilSun said:
We think alike because this is exactly what I thought of when I read the original post. :)
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And clearly I’m not on my own here. It’s seems fairly common.
It might not seem to have mattered as much when I was younger but when I get older there is no way that I’m going to be doing all the housework while he goes fishing or whatever he’ll find to occupy himself.
Thats just not going to happen.
Or there might be an ex here also :mad:
 
ClassicRockr said:
Sorry, but it is the family's business, especially if the family is a Christian family and definitely don't believe in living together. Actually, anyone has to respect both sides of the issue...…..the ones that don't like it and wouldn't think of doing it and those that plainly don't care and do it.
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C'est Moi said:
Wow, talk about hypocrisy.
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ClassicRockr said:
Not at all! Just plain fact and TRUE fact. There are things Christians believe in and things they don't. Nothing wrong with that.
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Thats not what she meant.
 
Naw, I wouldn’t
It’s not a money or Christian thing

Just can’t

I’ve had the best

It wouldn’t be fair to another lady to try to live with me

No, I’d sell my abode and move to the coast
Build a seaside hut
Find and frequent a cordial watering hole

Heh, maybe become a barkeep…not really

I’d bury myself in writing, some photog
The west coast has some great sun and moon sets

Might date some

But have never minded being alone

it's been preferred from time to time
 
My husband just passed 3 months ago today. I've always kept my money separate from his because like I use to tease him...he went to the "psycho school of money management". In fact my mother taught me early in life..."never let a man know what you've got" so the only joint account I have is with my son. He's completely trustworthy and in case he ever needs to write checks for me, he can do so.

I will never marry again. Our marriage, a religious one recognized in Islam as valid, wouldn't have lasted for 25 years had it been a "traditional" marriage with him here all the time; in fact it probably wouldn't have lasted a year. One thing scary about traditional (legal) marriages is that in some states, one spouse becomes responsible for the other's debts should that spouse skip out on his/her responsibilities. I've heard and read some real horror stories about that. Another thing is I think marriage changes people and not necessarily always for the better. I don't even know if I'll ever even date again. As a Muslim I am not supposed to have sex outside of marriage. I don't know that I'd ever trust anyone else in that regard again anyway. Still, I may miss the companionship. I'm only 72 and may have another good 25 years to go.

Another thing...it could cause complications for a widow or widower collecting social security survivor benefits and the new spouse.
https://www.investmentnews.com/arti...ty-benefits-for-remarried-widows-and-widowers
 
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