Would you change a mistake from the past if you could?

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Somewhat in line with the choices thread I just answered I'm wondering if you would change a mistake in your past if that were given the chance.

One thing to consider is that mistake has brought you to the life you are living today. If the mistake wasn't made you most likely would have ended up with a different life from that point on. So I guess it comes down to how much you value the life you had after the mistake and where you are now.

I consider my biggest mistake marrying my first wife. Strangely enough I was given some warning about not taking that path by having a panic attack. However I didn't follow through with mental health treatment at the time so I didn't realize a portion of my mind knew I was making a mistake.

In spite of all that I know that I wouldn't have met my second and current wife if I hadn't married my first wife and had our son. And the life I've had with my current wife has been amazing to me and fulfilling in so many ways that I hadn't even imagined or considered before meeting her. So I would not change the pain I went through with my first wife because my current life is wonderful enough to keep me from longing for the potential of a different life.
 

If only........what if.........
I'm not sure I was mentally equipped to do anything else than what I did do, although I think about it.

Was listening to "While My Guitar Gently Weeps" this morning and when George sang "With every mistake we must surely be learning" I said aloud "Are you sure, George?"
 
There are a number of mistakes I would change from the past but although we have choices I tend to believe that we are born with a sort of blue print and 'things' happen for a reason, possibly we need to learn and develop our spiritual soul. I don't know whether any one else has experienced this but I've found in life that when I've got to the point that I think I just can't carry in a situation something else comes along to keep me going but one has to be at that point where it is all too much. I don't mean being fed up or just wanting something different, being discontent etc it is a different feeling. Change the mistakes in my life, yes but they were there for a reason and I can live with the fact that the mistakes I did make, harmed me rather than anyone else in my life who I feel I just tried to show kindness.

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I have to agree with the posters who appreciate mistakes as learning opportunities. I have made some big mistakes in my time and without them I would not have learned to be more humble, more empathetic and more forgiving. My younger self needed those lessons.
 
While I have learned from my mistakes, I wish there were a couple I had never made. Essentially the one major mistake was to start smoking. I am fortunate after many decades of heavy smoking that I don't have serious respiratory problems, but enough to annoy me from time to time.
 
I'd change several things. With age I've come to realize options I could have exercised when my back was seemingly against the wall. At the time I didn't realize those choices existed or were available to me.
 
Would you change a mistake from the past if you could?


No
Not at all
And I've made many

Maybe right after doing what I did, but not now
No, not now

I've learned by them
And counseled younger folks from those experiences
Turning some around
Some not

My poor wife
Ever once in a while, she'd learn of one of my misdeeds, and ask who the hell I was
I never like rehashing my history
But, with her, I have.....some

I've had deep conversations with those I hurt
(at least the ones living)
And they've accepted my apologies with open arms
That......is....... huge
There was a time they wouldn't have

Heh, time


I must clarify

I came to know God
...and He knows me
I've prayed many times for Him to change me
...and He has
Some of my friends called it just so much psychosomatic bull shit
I know better
Don't really care what others think

Folks have told me, the last 20 or so years, that they've heard their friends remark what changes they've seen in me

I'm good with that

Blessed to have lived so long, I guess


Funny, you come to a place where you feel the need to go beyond just mending ways
Feeling the need to seek those hurt

I've completed that course...with His guiding help

The very reason my smile is genuine

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Oh my! I made a lot of mistakes in my life I can't pick just one I would've changed. Since I write journals, the dark days of my life were mostly due to poor choices I made. I own responsibility for them. All experiences I've been through make me the person I am today...strong and confident to face more challenges.
 
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