Would you live with one or more of your adult children if you got old and alone?

No. Both my daughters are married and it would not be good for their marriage or for me to live with them. I pray to God that I will die quickly before I am that dependent. At this point, I'm actually considering moving to another State so that it is so inconvenient that it would not be feasable for them to even consider trying to take care of me.
 
Already do, daughter is a millennial, most of life other than work is 'online'. We have a 3 bedroom, 1400 sq ft home and respect each other's need for solitude, but on her days off do share some activities and lively discussions. She works 37.5 to 40+ hrs a week, in evenings when most of my chores and errands are done so i get a good amount of time to myself that is full solitude. We share all expenses. Works for us.
 

It's another of those highly individual things where people have to find what works for them. Someone asked me once what if my daughter fell in love and got married? As long as he didn't want to whisk her off some where we would find a way. We have several acres and as long as we put in a septic tank for another home we could put one up, or bring in a mobile home. i might even share some of the cost of that if i could get it in writing that they can't sell without my permission and and if they do i get back what i put into it or get to buy them out. Then i'd probably make it an inexpensive hostel like rest stop for Continental Trail hikers, to bring in more income---but that's unlikely. My kiddo has seen too much, and heard too many stories, she really doesn't long to be married, tho i think she does feel she's missing something not having at least one child. And that makes me sad for her.

i have never cared for being on either end of 'nagging', so after a few tries in her late teens to get her dating (she went to dances her brothers church held) i told her it was her life. Just let me know if she wants to do it different.
 
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twinkles said:
well you are looking at a dummy-cause i moved in with my youngest daughter and sil and grandson--i was looking for a place to live but the only thing icould afford was in a high crime area--so 10 years later i am still here sleeping in the living room
on the couch---well it is cool in here
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You are definitely not a dummy and kudos to your daughter, son in law and grandson, you must be a nice, easy person to live with, otherwise it wouldn't work.
 
I live with my son, his woman, and my beautiful granddaughter. Not only do we deserve each other, we truly love each other. I sing the praises of God; he sings the praises of bud. Being Canadian, that's okay...I guess.
 
StarSong said:
What about some of the rest of you? What would you do - or have you done?
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If my woman went before me, I'd sell everything and head to the coast

However, at present, the notion of building another cabin somewhere on our acreage, and living there, on an adjacent lot by our son and grandkids seems feasible

But....that's just a notion

I really can't stand the thought of living with anybody
 
My father-in-law lived with his daughter, for the last ten years of his life, following the death of his wife. My own father lived with his daughter, my sister, for many years, until his death. In both cases neither daughter was married. Sister-in-law was divorced and my own sister was widowed.

We don't have the choice, we don't have any children.
 
If I'm still in good health and still have half my marbles left, NO!! My son, who doesn't even like me, is out of the question. His "wife" (don't know if they ever got married because after 10 years of living together, they got engaged 3 years ago, but I never heard if they married) has never liked me and never made an effort to get to know me, so there's no way I'd live with them...ever.

My husband's kids would not be an option, either. We've always tolerated each other for their dad's sake but don't really like each other. They're the proverbial know-it-all's and I'd never have any independence. Not going to happen. I would hope I'd be able to have my own place in a condo with my cat :)
 
Only if there were no other options. I'm thinking as long as I'm mentally okay it would be better than a nursing home
if I didn't cause problems among child and wife or husband. But I would want to be independent as long as possible.
 
Right now I wouldn't want to because my daughter is only 25 and still emotional like young people are. But in 15 or 20 years it would be nice I think, assuming I had my own space.
My mom and I shared a house, originally the plan was to build a mother-in-law apt, but the economy was down (2009-2010) and her health was failing, so we just shared the house. Much of the time I was at work and my daughter was at school or running around with friends, so my mom had plenty of private time. I felt good that I could do things for her -- open jars, change light bulbs, etc., and once when the home health aide bandaged her puffy legs snuggly and by the middle of the night my mom was going nuts from the restriction, she was very glad I was available to be woken up to take them off.
 
No-unless it was a small attached apartment and each of us could be totally independent. Even then I have my doubts….I’ve seen what happens when a daughter becomes sole caregiver and from experience, I don’t want her to go through that.
 

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