You ever get lonely? I mean bone tired lonely. No one to talk to .
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Warrigal
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- Sydney, Australia
What are you looking for in a friend?
What kind of friendships did you have when you were younger?
What kind of friendships did you have when you were younger?
Happy Heart
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As we age, it gets harder to get out and our world often becomes too small. Try reaching out to others and keep your world open and alive. Don't depend on others to meet your needs when most of us are struggling to meet our own.
friar
New Member
I had pretty much the superficial ones like most. I have no expectations now just someone to talk to
friar
New Member
I understand that. We get skeptical and wonder what the angle is. But in the end we wind up alone
PurplePower
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- Milwaukee
I was thinking something similar last night. In fact, I was going to write about it this morning. What’s the purpose of this existence I’m in right now? I serve no purpose. I’m incredibly lonely. I’m so afraid of ending up dependent, in a nursing home, being abused.
Just sitting outside the other day chatting with my neighbor felt so good, but those days are few and far between. I have an old neighbor who moved to senior apartments and I asked her if there are usually people just sitting around in the lobby chatting and she said no.
There is an active senior center near me, but get a bunch of old ladies together and they talk about their grandchildren which is a devastatingly difficult thing for me to hear.
I don’t know what the answer is, but I definitely know what you’re saying.
Just sitting outside the other day chatting with my neighbor felt so good, but those days are few and far between. I have an old neighbor who moved to senior apartments and I asked her if there are usually people just sitting around in the lobby chatting and she said no.
There is an active senior center near me, but get a bunch of old ladies together and they talk about their grandchildren which is a devastatingly difficult thing for me to hear.
I don’t know what the answer is, but I definitely know what you’re saying.
Aunt Bea
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- Near Mount Pilot
I rarely feel lonely but I do get bored.
I try to accept being alone as a natural phase of my life.
I try to accept being alone as a natural phase of my life.
Ronni
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- Nashville TN
There’s a big difference between being alone, and feeling lonely. Being alone is physically being by yourself, whereas feeling lonely is an emotional state of feeling disconnected and/or isolated from others even when there are people around.
The loneliest I ever felt was all the years when I was living with my abusive ex.
Simply being around other folks won’t cure loneliness. The cure requires emotional/intellectual engagement with one or more people.
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The loneliest I ever felt was all the years when I was living with my abusive ex.
Simply being around other folks won’t cure loneliness. The cure requires emotional/intellectual engagement with one or more people.
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hollydolly
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- London England
I miss having someone to physically talk to....on a daily basis
AnneTeak
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- Boston, MA
i used to have that friend...then she found a new friend and left me behind despite me trying to make it work. i was devastated and hurt.
i used to have a refrigerator magnet that said "if it crawls out of the refrigerator, let it go...". i let her go.
~There are many acquaintances, but very few real friends~
i used to have a refrigerator magnet that said "if it crawls out of the refrigerator, let it go...". i let her go.
~There are many acquaintances, but very few real friends~
That Lady in PA
Member
Are there senior centers and/or senior activities you can participate in?
Oldeagle66
Senior Member
Never and not a chance. I have tons of books and movies. I go out in public and just being around people for short periods helps, and I can only take people in small doses 
. I actually prefer 98.5 % of my time alone.
. I actually prefer 98.5 % of my time alone.
dilettante
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- Michigan
Considering the growing number of older people, the fact that we're all stinkin' rich (LMAO), and so much retail and entertainment space going empty... why isn't there a successful "Geezerplex" franchise with locations popping up all over?
I could see cafes, small lecture/presentation rooms, small exhibitor halls for hobby club rental, fountains surrounded by seating, indoor gardens, walking track with a mid, slow, and slower lane, a space for kiosks peddling light goods and services (watches, reading glasses, hearing aids, cellphones, etc.)...
I could see cafes, small lecture/presentation rooms, small exhibitor halls for hobby club rental, fountains surrounded by seating, indoor gardens, walking track with a mid, slow, and slower lane, a space for kiosks peddling light goods and services (watches, reading glasses, hearing aids, cellphones, etc.)...
Muskrat
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- Mainly arizona
I am lucky…I have friends that I can see…or just talk to. But it takes WORK to keep a connection. Sometimes people draw apart because of life changes…and we can choose to “let them go” or we can stay connected on another level. I choose to stay connected…but am a natural loner so this is hard.
Do you have a pet? I find animals to be great teachers on not worrying about 'purpose'. My cat just does his thing and doesn't need a purpose. He's my role model!
PurplePower
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- Milwaukee
That’s a bit harsh. He’s not asking for anyone to meet his needs. Just someone to talk to. It’s human nature. Why do people feel the need to make others feel worse?
hollydolly
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- London England
It's often the small things..like coming in from the garden and making a comment about the bird antics you might have witnessed..or having a moan about the neighbour...or even someone on the forum..... and that other person knowing your mind set., and understanding..
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Muskrat
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- Mainly arizona
@friar … you will find this forum a great thing if you let yourself be entertained. Join in…share. Sometimes you need a bit of a thick skin to participate…there is interaction here and with interaction there runs the risk of conflicting opinions. Use those moments of blood rush to celebrate all our differences. Welcome…button down and take a ride.
Oldeagle66
Senior Member
So true with me now. I don't even care anymore........leave me alone. I'm good.
MarkD
Keeper of the Hounds & Garden
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- San Francisco Bay Area
My father-in-law lived to 96. Back when he and his wife were early 80’s she got a condition that took her out and he lived the rest alone. He did say what he missed the most was just the chance to talk about what he saw on his walk.
Babs2u
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What a great idea!