"You Need a Man for That"...

I always appreciate when someone taller and stronger than I am steps in to help. Those people are usually male and bless them!
 

Grumpy Ol' Man said:
Two issues here...
1.) Common courtesy. I don't care whether it be lady, gentleman, young, old, black, white, or green... courtesy is to open doors for people and assist when you can see they need assistance and on and on. But, in today's society, forget it!!!
2.) Traditional respect. I was raised during the time when we respected ladies. You opened doors for them. You did the heavy lifting. That wasn't sexist or condescending. It was the respect we learned to afford the female gender.

Our culture has changed so much. If you see a lady stranded by the road, you don't dare stop to assist. There may well be someone with a firearm waiting for the first person to stop and rob them. So, you call the authorities and have them respond. We have seen many women join the engineering/construction field over the past few years. Personally, I've had more difficulty with lady engineers than any other category. Typically, a group can visit about alternative methods and... together... come up with a solution. More than once, if a lady engineer is involved, she takes any discussion as if you are attacking her design/proposal/solution. We had a lady engineer get our firm fired by a very valued client. The client knew what they needed. She took offense when the client stated he didn't need all that she was proposing. She became agitated and we became unemployed by that client. Thank goodness, a couple of older male engineers were able to get us reinstated and we have continued to do work for this client.

Sorry, got off on a tangent from simply loading of items into a trunk/truck. Again, if we somehow could overcome this "me" mantra and go back to simply respecting our fellow man we would all find assistance when needed.
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Very well said. It is just common courtesy and there seems to be less and less of it all the time.

I was lunching out one day and grabbed a hand sani-wipe when the container dislodged out of it's niche and fell to the floor. A young man passing by with his son stopped and said to his son, "Help the lady pick that up". I was pleasantly impressed to hear someone of the younger generation teaching their kids respectfulness and courtesy. It gives me hope for the future.
 
RadishRose said:
I always appreciate when someone taller and stronger than I am steps in to help. Those people are usually male and bless them!
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I'm with you RadishRose. I feel the same. :love_heart:
 

A couple of months ago my husband and my brother and I were coming from from LA and we stopped at a truck stop to go in to use the restroom and buy lotto tickets. There was a young guy about 19 or 20 sitting on a back pack near the door and as we approached he jumped up and opened the door for us. Of course we all thanked him and when we got inside I asked the guys if they thought he opened it for my brother with a cane, my husband with white hair or me a lady? My brother said "Oh, I bet he asks us for $ on our way out" but he didn't. He was just a sweet polite young man. I hold the door open for anyone coming in behind me, even if it's a healthy looking young person and people almost always open doors for me. I seldom need help with heavy lifting but I often have to have someone in a store or here at my house reach things off high shelves for me.
 
Hmm. I guess my experience has been different. Initially, working in a male dominated profession I found very little chivalry of any kind. During the early years, the presumption was do a man's job, take care of things yourself. If help was offered, usually the condescension was palpable. This attitude was systemic among the older male colleagues. Thankfully, that attitude is disappearing as new generations take their place. Now courtesy and assistance on any/many levels are all but automatic. The dinosaurs are becoming extinct.
 
While I appreciate the assistance, as I've said, I also greatly admire women who figure out ways to do it themselves! I have also from time to time, but many of my sisters are alot more successful!

Hmmm, may time for a dolly and one of the high shelf grippers for me?
 
Linda said:
A couple of months ago my husband and my brother and I were coming from from LA and we stopped at a truck stop to go in to use the restroom and buy lotto tickets. There was a young guy about 19 or 20 sitting on a back pack near the door and as we approached he jumped up and opened the door for us. Of course we all thanked him and when we got inside I asked the guys if they thought he opened it for my brother with a cane, my husband with white hair or me a lady? My brother said "Oh, I bet he asks us for $ on our way out" but he didn't. He was just a sweet polite young man. I hold the door open for anyone coming in behind me, even if it's a healthy looking young person and people almost always open doors for me. I seldom need help with heavy lifting but I often have to have someone in a store or here at my house reach things off high shelves for me.
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Heartwarming story, Linda. He sounds like asweet concerned young man.

Like you, I, too, hold doors open for people whether they're young or senior, have bundles, or not, are able-bodied or not. It's just the polite thing to do. :love_heart:
 
When I offer to lift, pull, push, open, climb or do anything for a woman it is a simple courtesy I was raised to respect. It does in no way reflect my feeling she couldn't find a way to perform it without me or another man.
 
AZ Jim said:
When I offer to lift, pull, push, open, climb or do anything for a woman it is a simple courtesy I was raised to respect. It does in no way reflect my feeling she couldn't find a way to perform it without me or another man.
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Can you imagine if you saw a woman struggling with something and just stood there and said..."Hey.. I'm waiting until you figure out a way to do it yourself" ? I'd figure out a way to hurt you... lol!!!
 
A situation that goes to show the good in people. Yesterday I had my usual armful of books for the library donation bin. Two different ladies stopped on the stairs to offer some help, I believe many people, especially of our generation are all too eager to assist if need be.
Something else is holding doors. I hold a door for anybody, it's just polite. But some gentlemen will look and kind of be confused before walking in...it's quite alright guys.
 

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