Your complaints about husbands and especially wives

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Victor

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I am very curious what complaints men have about their wives, seriously,
when they were younger and now older. Also what complaints wives have
of their husbands. I enjoy hearing other people's complaints about their
spouses. I feel better because I am unmarried.
Among the people I know, no one ever complains about their spouses. But
I assume their marriage is not idyllic, is it? Is anyone's marriage idyllic?
Please, no facetious replies/
 

Now then. Where do I start?:cool:

Actually I am very lucky and am very happily married.
I have only one complaint.
My Wife is rather prone to snoring.
But if I can get her on either of her sides then she stops.

However, if I try too hard to get her off her back while she is asleep, she complains about ME waking her up!:D

PS I don't snore!:playful:
 
I have no desire to hear people complain about their spouse/partners. Furthermore, when an outsider says something they get all defensive. So I keep my mouth shut or change the subject.
 
Complaints? The good in my husband far outweighs the complaints I could come up with. A complaint I had back in the 60s when we were dating is I sat out in a HOT vehicle (car then, truck now) outside a wreaking yard while he was inside looking around for good stuff he needed for the latest car he was fixing up. TODAY Sept 27, 2015 I was doing the exact same thing!! :) Only difference is we both have cell phones now so he called me once to ask me to call one of our sons and ask him to get on the internet and see if something (I forget what) off a 1977 Ranchero would fit on a 66 Mustang this or that. So I was hot and sweaty but I could have stayed home, I had a good book to read, I knew if I got to bored I could get $2 out of my purse and go in the wreaking yard and walk around looking for my husband. On the bright side, I only sat there about 40 minutes and the best part is I am happy my husband can still get excited about junk yards and fixing up old cars. At lest he's not out gambling, going to bars and or chasing wild women. :) Or God forbid, spending his days in front of the TV.

I could give other examples along these lines but I guess there is no reason to. After 50 years of marriage I'll say, for every complaint I have I can come up with 10 good things about my sweetie and I think he could with me too --- except he's too busy thinking about cars and fishing. :) :)
 
Linda said:
Complaints? The good in my husband far outweighs the complaints I could come up with. A complaint I had back in the 60s when we were dating is I sat out in a HOT vehicle (car then, truck now) outside a wreaking yard while he was inside looking around for good stuff he needed for the latest car he was fixing up. TODAY Sept 27, 2015 I was doing the exact same thing!! :) Only difference is we both have cell phones now so he called me once to ask me to call one of our sons and ask him to get on the internet and see if something (I forget what) off a 1977 Ranchero would fit on a 66 Mustang this or that. So I was hot and sweaty but I could have stayed home, I had a good book to read, I knew if I got to bored I could get $2 out of my purse and go in the wreaking yard and walk around looking for my husband. On the bright side, I only sat there about 40 minutes and the best part is I am happy my husband can still get excited about junk yards and fixing up old cars. At lest he's not out gambling, going to bars and or chasing wild women. :) Or God forbid, spending his days in front of the TV.

I could give other examples along these lines but I guess there is no reason to. After 50 years of marriage I'll say, for every complaint I have I can come up with 10 good things about my sweetie and I think he could with me too --- except he's too busy thinking about cars and fishing. :) :)
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Some people do a passive-aggressive thing when complaining about their spouse/partner. By that I mean they will tell a gathering of people about something the other person did/does but frame it in (what they think is) a funny/cute way but the intention is to humiliate the target who is sitting right there. Others will nod, smile, chuckle. I hate that, and I’ve actually turned and walked away from the complainer in the middle of their sentence – refusing to be a part of their little game.
 
Maybe, maybe, maybe. I suppose one could try to find excuses for such behavior, but there is no excuse.

In the example I referred to money (or lack of insurance) for a therapist is not an issue, and that’s putting it mildly. But such people often see nothing wrong with their actions, and even on the outside chance they did go to a therapist. therapy doesn’t always work.

As far as not having a friend to talk to, some people just don’t enjoy having a “friendship” where someone complains about their spouse/partner and berates them in front of other people. For those who do enjoy it, well, whatever.
 
I have known women who complained a lot about their husbands to me. Funny thing is, as soon as they died, they became saints. :D
 
Definitely as I've gotten older I appreciate him so much more. I wish I could have understood him like I do now when I was twenty five. He was always a workaholic. But just because he wanted to keep us all comfortable. The only thing that makes me daffy is when he is home the TV has to be on. If he could watch and drive he'd have one in the car too...the bathroom, the kitchen. I don't think I even know how to turn the one on upstairs.

But you learn to compromise. We've found shows we can watch together sometimes and he listens to me describe all the newest books I've read. Or he watches TV and I read. We're way closer than a decade or two ago.
 
AC -- A support network or supportive friend to talk to if there is a problem with a jerk of a wife/husband might in be helpful, referring someone to a shelter if there is abuse, etc. --- total jerks exist in great numbers and lots of them are married.
 
A sad side on complaining about Husbands/ Partners , .. 64 Yes 64 women have been killed by their ex partners THIS YEAR.. in Australia .. and we are only into the 9 th month of the year ....Most had court orders in place . In South Aus a young mother dissapeared , just over a month ago.....her partener has been charged after her body was found under a newly concreted tool shed floor at His Mothers House .. ( They drew the money out of the deceased woman's bank account to buy the cement)

I have known of violent women who assaulted/ killed their partners but for some reason it rarely makes the news, for some reason ?
 
Hmm. Many women are afraid to complain out of fear of being stigmatised/discounted etc. Until this dismissive attitude disappears, we are going to continue to die at the hands of our abusers--usually husbands or boy friends, either past or present. Please ladies, complain, your life may depend on it!
 
Shalimar said:
Hmm. Many women are afraid to complain out of fear of being stigmatised/discounted etc. Until this dismissive attitude disappears, we are going to continue to die at the hands of our abusers--usually husbands or boy friends, either past or present. Please ladies, complain, your life may depend on it!
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Most of the poor women who have been killed by their partners this year had left ,and had court orders in place, a lady was run off the road recently by a ex partner he then bashed her with a iron bar ... Unfortunately she had complained to the police not lone before being killed .,It's all very sad ..our new PM has allocated more money to try to tackle the tragic deaths of the women who in many cases were young mothers ..
 
Kadee it happens here too. Sadly, unless he is jailed for battery etc. little can be done if the man wishes to harm the woman. Too often they are killed. Then he is locked up. Shelters and relocation are essential preemptive strikes.
 
Victor said:
I enjoy hearing other people's complaints about their
spouses. I feel better because I am unmarried.
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A little Schadenfreude going on there Victor? Sorry, I won't be an enabler. :p :D https://www.seniorforums.com/showth...ou-Have-A-Touch-of-It?highlight=schadenfreude

Linda said:
The good in my husband far outweighs the complaints I could come up with. After 50 years of marriage I'll say, for every complaint I have I can come up with 10 good things about my sweetie and I think he could with me too --- except he's too busy thinking about cars and fishing. :) :)
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I'm with you Linda, Victor will get no pleasure from my answers. :D We just celebrated our 39th anniversary this month, and we lived together a couple of years before that. I'm very much in love with my husband, and he is with me...we're best friends. My "complaints" would be just petty annoyances, like spilling too much water on the edges of the sinks when when he washes something or brushes his teeth. The good far outweighs the "bad" also, lucky to have him by my side all these years, and from how he acts and what he tells me, he feels the same. :love_heart:
 
Kadee46 said:
A sad side on complaining about Husbands/ Partners , .. 64 Yes 64 women have been killed by their ex partners THIS YEAR.. in Australia .. and we are only into the 9 th month of the year ....Most had court orders in place . In South Aus a young mother dissapeared , just over a month ago.....her partener has been charged after her body was found under a newly concreted tool shed floor at His Mothers House .. ( They drew the money out of the deceased woman's bank account to buy the cement)

I have known of violent women who assaulted/ killed their partners but for some reason it rarely makes the news, for some reason ?
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Terrible! 7 each month. 1 every 4 days. Population just under 24 million people, is all. In 2002. there were 787 spousal murders in the US, population 288 million.

Australia, rate per year 85 spousal murders. Population USA 10 times as great, murder rate 10 times as great: It is virtually the same story here. Terrible! imp
 
fureverywhere said:
But you learn to compromise. We've found shows we can watch together sometimes and he listens to me describe all the newest books I've read. Or he watches TV and I read. We're way closer than a decade or two ago.
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1 ditto.gif..I have been retired for 7 years now and we have been together 57 years!! The beginning was a lot of turmoil but these last 7 have been great!!!!!
 

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