Your Self Concept?

Lavinia said:
I see myself as someone who missed her calling in life.
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Not sure I ever had a calling, but who knows, any day now...
NorthernLight said:
I could have become an archeologist or an astronomer, or a small-town lawyer
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The archeologist and astronomer sound interesting. In my career I worked with a lot of lawyers, don't think I would ever want to be one, and a small town lawyer might be the worst...
 

Well, I see myself as spiritual, creative, and in solitude.
I'm rapidly evolving and am at a place now
of reverence and devotion, learning new things,
realizing my full potential, and becoming
who I really want to be. I'm experiencing
complete bliss, expanding my consciousness.
I generally always feel love and happiness.
 

I had lofty ambitions. I wanted to be a hoofer (bad arches and almost flat feet). I wanted to be a lawyer (more important for Whatsisname, The Father of My Children, to finish school than for me to finish school). When I lost out on a full-ride scholarship between me and one other person, after being narrowed down from a few hundred applicants, for a woman in a non-traditional field (law was non-traditional at the time), I figured eff it and decided to be ordinary. I'm ordinary except for blue hair. Content being ordinary, undistinguished, another face in the crowd, because nothing's expected of me.
 
Interesting question Chic. It’s one I ask my clients when they are applying for their dream position.
You realise of course, you may not get many honest answers. Most people lie, and it is my job to sort the wheat from the chaff.

Since self praise is no recommendation, all I will say is that an authentic person will always be easy to spot.
As for myself, I can say I feel truly blessed especially having the ability to spot a fake through a brick wall.
 
I have worked to become a decent person, without consciously thinking about it. If you know me, then....you know me. I am straight forward, yet compassionate, ever curious, will try to do anything once (usually it turns out okay), have a wonderful sense of humor and often use it on myself. Oh, and have become fearless as the years go by......
I could be better, but couldn't we all? I can live with myself, and that's a big thing nowadays.
 
I see myself as an average person who is content with life and happy to be alive . I have compassion and love for others, including our animal friends. I have great love for my husband and feel blessed he has the same feelings for me. I never thought myself above others and satisfied with that true perception.

I honestly never thought much about this question over the years, I'm not and never have been full of myself or egotistical, I humbly accept and appreciate what I have in common with other good folks who care about their fellow man and the earth we were blessed to inhabit.

I'm old and grateful to be healthy.....life is good and I'm lucky not to have endured some of the heartache and abuse that too many go through in their years. To those people, some of them right here among us, I send my love and warm thoughts.
 
Glen Campbell said it best (for me anyway) with the song, "fate of man"
The last 2 lines strike a cord.

He's worked all his life to get things the way he wants them
He comes here against his will and he goes away disappointed



 
Remy said:
Well it was asked. I consider myself a POS and a bad person. A thing and something no one really sees as human.
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Oh, Remy, this is not who you are. I see you quite differently. Your childhood was viciously murdered, yet you survived. You are not a mirror image of your mentally ill, toxic mother, or your nasty, damaged brother. . Yes, you are damaged, how could you not be? Yet, you are still able to work in a field where you help people. Your capacity to be

close to people was shattered, but you pour out your love to your beloved cats, and a nearby feral population. In spite of the pain it causes you, you care for a very demanding stepfather. You are a very strong person, who lives with personal demons, puts dragons in boxes. This requires enormous courage. I admire your strength greatly. Your

endurance is phenomenal. Some of the strongest characters are covered in scars. These negative concepts you shared with us today are not who you are! These are force fed lies, gaslighting, designed to shatter your self esteem.

You are a worthy human being, never a thing, certainly not invisible. I see you! In many ways, we are sisters, and your struggle mirrors my own. Please do not give in to The Big Lie. You have a right to your own humanity. Hugs.
 
I think of myself as a good son who took care of his mother for 21 years, a good partner who is also the primary provider for our household, an emotionally intelligent individual, someone who loves to laugh, an introvert who enjoys the occasional social interaction but can keep myself entertained, someone who had a successful career despite occasionally suffering with self-doubt and above all... a "cat daddy".

For years I went through self-loathing. Now that I'm older I can look back and say "hey, you turned into a pretty good person after all".
 
Shalimar said:
Oh, Remy, this is not who you are. I see you quite differently. Your childhood was viciously murdered, yet you survived. You are not a mirror image of your mentally ill, toxic mother, or your nasty, damaged brother. . Yes, you are damaged, how could you not be? Yet, you are still able to work in a field where you help people. Your capacity to be

close to people was shattered, but you pour out your love to your beloved cats, and a nearby feral population. In spite of the pain it causes you, you care for a very demanding stepfather. You are a very strong person, who lives with personal demons, puts dragons in boxes. This requires enormous courage. I admire your strength greatly. Your

endurance is phenomenal. Some of the strongest characters are covered in scars. These negative concepts you shared with us today are not who you are! These are force fed lies, gaslighting, designed to shatter your self esteem.

You are a worthy human being, never a thing, certainly not invisible. I see you! In many ways, we are sisters, and your struggle mirrors my own. Please do not give in to The Big Lie. You have a right to your own humanity. Hugs.
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Shalimar, that was beautifully said and every word is true. Remy, you are more than worthy of admiration. You most certainly have mine.

Bella ✌️
 
I know I’m intelligent, opinionated, mostly articulate, patient, and with a good sense of humor. On the minus side, I struggle with anxiety and depression. Thankfully, there are meds for that. Also, I don’t suffer fools very well And have been known to shoot my mouth off inappropriately.
 
Wow. I am humbled to read some of the posts in this thread.

What can I say about myself. I was once described as a 'wisdom figure' at work because I had been there a long time and I 'knew things'. I carried a lot of the history and memories of that place in my head and I was willing to share them to encourage and comfort others.

I have come to realise that my superpower is to be an encourager, to build people up. I am now the matriarch of my family and I can do nothing better than to love them all unconditionally and to encourage them to be their best selves, to love generously. I have no power, super or otherwise, but I am content to be here for them when they need me and to be happy for them when they do not.

When I was young I longed to be an explorer but that was never to be my lot in life. Instead I have been daughter, wife, mother, teacher, grandmother and now great grandmother and all the time I was exploring how to love, and how to be loved. I am very content with who I discovered myself to be and I have no regrets and no unfulfilled dreams. I am at peace with myself.
 

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