Single women, single men after 55, as well as other "groups" that have some wisdom to share..

AZ Jim said:
AND alone!!!! J/K
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Being alone isn’t the worse thing that could happen. The worse thing is being with a man who is unattractive and unacceptable. The interactive nature of life today means most single people aren’t actually alone and therefore you need to have characteristics that appeal to them for singles to spend their spare time with you.
 
Second time around for both my wife and I. Never say never but we both agree at this point that if we suddenly became single it would stay that way.
 

TabbyAnn said:
Being alone isn’t the worse thing that could happen. The worse thing is being with a man who is unattractive and unacceptable. The interactive nature of life today means most single people aren’t actually alone and therefore you need to have characteristics that appeal to them for singles to spend their spare time with you.
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My cousin was married to an abusive man. After his death, I asked her how she was holding up. Her reply was, "the only thing worse than being alone is wishing that you were." That was 30 years ago and I have never forgotten it.
 
C'est Moi said:
My cousin was married to an abusive man. After his death, I asked her how she was holding up. Her reply was, "the only thing worse than being alone is wishing that you were." That was 30 years ago and I have never forgotten it.
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I learned that lesson at an early age. I was married to an abusive man for three years. I've been blissfully single ever since.

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I live alone but have fairly regular contact with my children who all live within 100 miles and most much closer.The thing I miss the most is affectionate human skin to skin contact with someone of the opposite sex and you cannot get that from family.I yearn to have a female companion of similar age that I can get together with periodically and enjoy each others company in an affectionate manner.
 
Ladies please stop looking for your own age or older

Denise1952 said:
Thanks Cindy! I thought it might be fun, especially just to talk about it with folks that feel the same. I was yacking with the gals downstairs and one told me she has a friend that is 68, or older now, since. But she met a fella that she saw at a class reunion, here in Crescent City. And they got married:)
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For the longest time,I was seeking a guy my age or older. Then I turned 69, I also had a new neighbor move into my Condo complex who was a successful 34 year old guy. We become friends and he would always do me favors, including picking me up when I needed a ride from the doctor. I always saw him as a younger friend, but would never think of being with him. But in time he was very loving and eventually we kissed one day and the rest is history. He is now my fiance and yes he is 35 years younger, but I am so much more happier and don't regret it. I told my family and friends indirectly by posting pictures of my "neighbor" on my Facebook page. Slowly I gave clues even though he moved in and finally announced our relationship when we got engaged. Some were shocked, but I am happier. I wish I meant a much younger guy years ago, but it's truly amazing being in such special relationship.

It's very hard to find men our age, also they are not as active. This is why when you say, I think I will be alone, open up your options as you will be much happier.
 
I do not know any man looking for a nurse or purse, and I dislike that insinuation.
I certainly am not, but this opinion is out there, based solely on anecdotes and occasional
news stories. Sure, numerous con men will take woman's money, but these are a tiny fraction.
Defend yourself by not trusting anyone with anything tangible of value.
Some women are looking for a wallet and a gentleman to look after them,
take them places and dine out and do nice things without necessarily giving back. A lot of men are
glad to oblige and do this. Not me. And ladies aren't expected to pick up the check.
I'm not judging, not at all.
 
Victor said:
I do not know any man looking for a nurse or purse, and I dislike that insinuation.
I certainly am not, but this opinion is out there, based solely on anecdotes and occasional
news stories. Sure, numerous con men will take woman's money, but these are a tiny fraction.
Defend yourself by not trusting anyone with anything tangible of value.
Some women are looking for a wallet and a gentleman to look after them,
take them places and dine out and do nice things without necessarily giving back. A lot of men are
glad to oblige and do this. Not me. And ladies aren't expected to pick up the check.
I'm not judging, not at all.
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I don't like the whole premise, either side. Figure at our age, we would just be kind to each other and enjoy, in a straightforward way.
 
Well, as one of those folks who found my sweet man in my 60's and he 70, I'm proof it can happen. We're engaged and will be married next year. I was perfectly happy being on my own...espcially after a 30+ years abusive marriage, I had no plans to wed again. I dated some, mostly the men I met when I danced (I'm a ballroom dancer) but just for the social aspects.

I met Ron zip lining of all things! Just one of those chance meetings. It was a novelty to find a man my age as active as I. We started doing active things together, and the companionship was lovely. Up to that point, most of my adventures were done in the company of my kids, or them and their friends, or other young friends, because most folks my age that I knew just weren't interested, or able.

The thing I miss the most is affectionate human skin to skin contact with someone of the opposite sex and you cannot get that from family.I yearn to have a female companion of similar age that I can get together with periodically and enjoy each others company in an affectionate manner.
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I don't know if this poster is talking about sex or not. I'm not when I say that I did miss that tactile contact. It had nothing to do with sex, and everything to do with hugs and snuggles and just being up close and personal in a tactile way. I am a very huggy type person, I hug my kids, sling an arm around my friends, touch and pat and want that physical connection. I did miss that, but absolutely not enough to be with a man just for that! Ron is the same way though, so that's an added plus.
 
I think I have been too picky over the years but really haven't found someone that suits me well. I think I am more tolerant now and much less picky...

All I ask for is that he is....

Breathing~lol:playful:
 
Ronni said:
Well, as one of those folks who found my sweet man in my 60's and he 70, I'm proof it can happen. We're engaged and will be married next year. I was perfectly happy being on my own...espcially after a 30+ years abusive marriage, I had no plans to wed again. I dated some, mostly the men I met when I danced (I'm a ballroom dancer) but just for the social aspects.

I met Ron zip lining of all things! Just one of those chance meetings. It was a novelty to find a man my age as active as I. We started doing active things together, and the companionship was lovely. Up to that point, most of my adventures were done in the company of my kids, or them and their friends, or other young friends, because most folks my age that I knew just weren't interested, or able.



I don't know if this poster is talking about sex or not. I'm not when I say that I did miss that tactile contact. It had nothing to do with sex, and everything to do with hugs and snuggles and just being up close and personal in a tactile way. I am a very huggy type person, I hug my kids, sling an arm around my friends, touch and pat and want that physical connection. I did miss that, but absolutely not enough to be with a man just for that! Ron is the same way though, so that's an added plus.
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I love what you had to say and share about you meeting someone special. You did what I am trying to do, which is being active, doing the things I love on my own. Nothing as cool as zip-lining, but I've always believed being out there is the only way to meet others that truly "do" those activities I love, not just say they do them.

I didn't like the gym, and not do all my body-weight-training at home, and even my dancing. We don't have a dance club or I would be there for sure:) I'm not sure I want anything more than dating, but that tells me I am no longer anything like "desperate" to meet someone. Rarely lonely, I suppose set in my ways, and really, not feeling the urge to share my life. But dating, yes, with the right kind of man.

Again I was just so glad to see your post on this thread I made so long ago. Man have I changed, kind of like reading a diary and seeing how much I've changed (hopefully grown in some wisdom, more will be revealed, :eek::rolleyes: Denise

PS I did meet a guy that asked me out when I was working out at the gym. I was wrong to assume "just because" he liked staying in shape, and into nutrition like me, I would enjoy dating him. Found out he had a gal, not married, but still, because she was too ill to do all he wanted, he was trolling for someone else. Long story, but I just have to be a bit smarter, as he got nasty with me when I said no to a 2nd date.
 
Ruthanne said:
I think I have been too picky over the years but really haven't found someone that suits me well. I think I am more tolerant now and much less picky...

All I ask for is that he is....

Breathing~lol:playful:
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I think I would fill in the blank with "breathing" :playful:
 


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