If A Woman Punches A Man, and He Hits Her Back, Is He Wrong?

SeaBreeze said:
I saw it Holly, there's a few of them out there, probably many cases we don't hear about. Some women beat their husbands to death, they start with punching, then move to knives, guns or hammers, etc.
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It's true SB, such violence is going on "out there" and I am guilty of trying not to look. I don't feel I can do anything about it all so I don't want to see, but if it happens in my part of the world etc. even at my age I'll do something. When I was young, there was a guy getting beat up on one of our small-town streets. He was a butt-head, the town butt-head, but it didn't matter, they were not right in ganging up on him. I literally drove my car up on the sidewalk to scare them off him, I have no idea how it all worked, but they scattered and I yelled for him to get in. Yep, now that I look back, kind of like a movie. Only time in my life I actually felt like I rescued someone. Crazy broad that I am, LOL!!
 

Thank goodness for crazy broads like you Denise, kudos! Glad you weren't hurt. :love_heart: :yougogirl:
 
Well it takes one to know one so kudos to you too SB;)!! :yougogirl:
 

I was a bit crazy, especially when I was younger, and it would put me in protection mode if I saw somebody was being abused, either verbally or physically. Never experienced a gang fight like that though, hopefully I would have thought quickly like you did. Bet the guy was grateful!
 
SeaBreeze said:
I was a bit crazy, especially when I was younger, and it would put me in protection mode if I saw somebody was being abused, either verbally or physically. Never experienced a gang fight like that though, hopefully I would have thought quickly like you did. Bet the guy was grateful!
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I don't know, dont' think I ever saw him again, I do remember when he got in he said "drive" LOL!!
 
I think all people should learn self defence. I have a half brother, (11 months older), that thought it was his mission to annihilate me.
When I was seven, he hit me in the forehead with a steel bed railing, causing a nine month stay at John Sealy Hospital. When I was nine he broke my back while playing leapfrog. He didn't jump over. I spent a year at the Shriner's Children's Hospital.
These kind of episodes went on until one day when I was 27, and he decided to throw me into a wall or mirrors. He was 5'11" and 220 in weight. I was 5'5" and 105 in weight.
Something snapped inside me and when it was over, he was the bloody one.
I really don't recall much of the fight, we were in a full VFW Hall for a Saturday night dance, and the folks there said they had never seen anything like it. They told me I had picked up a broken table leg from the table I had landed on, and I used it on him.
I wasn't proud of my actions, but at least his tormenting took on a different method. Best of all fhe emergency visits and hospital stays stopped. :hiteachother:
 
Good for you Ina, a lifetime of bullying and the worm turned. Sorry you had to go through all of that .((hugs))

I also had my back broken by my father 7 days after I had my daughter and was still in a wheelchair after a traumatic birth, and one of my brothers' was also a bully. He would punch and kick for the fun of it just simply if he was walking past. so I know how it must have felt for you.:( My father has died now but needless to say I have no contact at all now with my brother
 
Ina said:
I think all people should learn self defence. I have a half brother, (11 months older), that thought it was his mission to annihilate me.
When I was seven, he hit me in the forehead with a steel bed railing, causing a nine month stay at John Sealy Hospital. When I was nine he broke my back while playing leapfrog. He didn't jump over. I spent a year at the Shriner's Children's Hospital.
These kind of episodes went on until one day when I was 27, and he decided to throw me into a wall or mirrors. He was 5'11" and 220 in weight. I was 5'5" and 105 in weight.
Something snapped inside me and when it was over, he was the bloody one.
I really don't recall much of the fight, we were in a full VFW Hall for a Saturday night dance, and the folks there said they had never seen anything like it. They told me I had picked up a broken table leg from the table I had landed on, and I used it on him.
I wasn't proud of my actions, but at least his tormenting took on a different method. Best of all fhe emergency visits and hospital stays stopped. :hiteachother:
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That's horribly your own brother abused you, I say good for you for nailing him.
 
Holly, You and I just had to help ourselves, whatever it took. I hope you and your child had no lasting complications. Bullies have to be stopped, they don't stop on their own.
It's weird, but after our mother died, when we were 43 & 44, my brother found I was his last relative, except for his son who wouldn't talk to him because he beat his mother.
My brother came to my house, and begged for a chance to be a better brother. Now you would think there was no bad feelings ever.
 
Well I really admire for you for being so forgiving Ina , you're a better person than me.

I couldn't ever forgive or forget. My child is ok thank goodness, but I have the lasting effects from the back problem to this day unfortunately.

As my daughter was an only child, I sent her to Martial arts classes when she was very small, so that if ever she had anyone tried to abuse her physically she stood a sporting chance. She's very capable now as a Champion Kick boxer, and MMA fighter!
 
Ina said:
I think all people should learn self defence. I have a half brother, (11 months older), that thought it was his mission to annihilate me.
When I was seven, he hit me in the forehead with a steel bed railing, causing a nine month stay at John Sealy Hospital. When I was nine he broke my back while playing leapfrog. He didn't jump over. I spent a year at the Shriner's Children's Hospital.
These kind of episodes went on until one day when I was 27, and he decided to throw me into a wall or mirrors. He was 5'11" and 220 in weight. I was 5'5" and 105 in weight.
Something snapped inside me and when it was over, he was the bloody one.
I really don't recall much of the fight, we were in a full VFW Hall for a Saturday night dance, and the folks there said they had never seen anything like it. They told me I had picked up a broken table leg from the table I had landed on, and I used it on him.
I wasn't proud of my actions, but at least his tormenting took on a different method. Best of all fhe emergency visits and hospital stays stopped. :hiteachother:
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That's terrible you suffered such awful abuse, Ina, and you have a very big heart to be able to forgive your brother. If that would have happened in these days, the hospital would be investigating all the abuse you suffered at your brother's hands. My heart goes out to you :love_heart:
 
Misty, I find that hating others ends up hurting me the most. Now my brother will protect me at the drop of a hat now. My first husband stalked me from the age of 15, until my brother went to his house when I was 45, and made the ex understand what was going to happen if he ever harmed me again.
So for me things got better on both accounts. I know how to protect myself, and I will protect my home. :wave:
 
Ina and Hollydolly, my heart goes out to both of you for having to experience such physical abuse, and from family members no less. :(
 
Sea, The hardest thing is not losing faith in the goodness of people. Michael says that is why I get hurt so often, that I give people to much credit for being carering, loving people. But I'd rather believe in that goodness that see every one as conniving and manipulating. :wave:
 
Just a swift kick in the nuts will take any man ,big or small totslly down.
Never did find out where a woman's weakest spot was.
 
Davey Jones said:
Just a swift kick in the nuts will take any man ,big or small totslly down.
Never did find out where a woman's weakest spot was.
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Surprisingly enough, not always.

I've seen a few guys take a full frontal assault to the pills and they just keep going. That's why those self-defense classes that emphasize that defense are wrong, in addition to the fact that most guys are going to instinctively guard themselves there.

A woman's weak spot (in general, of course) is pretty much the same as a man's - the groin.
 
Ina said:
Sea, The hardest thing is not losing faith in the goodness of people. Michael says that is why I get hurt so often, that I give people to much credit for being carering, loving people. But I'd rather believe in that goodness that see every one as conniving and manipulating. :wave:
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Bless you - I'm 180 degrees away from your outlook. :D
 
Phil, Your not so far from me, or you wouldn't have been a student or teacher. You have to be open to all possibilities or you couldn't have been either. You are also a sensitive person, or you couldn't empathize with others, which you do. :hide:
 
Here's a mom with a healthy punch given to a skate boarder after he ran into her son. He stopped to help the boy, and the mother was PO'd...can't say I blame her, but hitting is not the answer.

 
Yeah, She was wrong, she did stop to consider that the young man was taking responsibility, and trying to see if he could help. Now if she would have had to chase him down, then I might be able to understand her anger.
 
That was wrong on her part but understandable in the heat of the moment.

Kudos to the skater who just walked away.

Maybe Mom should keep her little one on a shorter leash in what appears to be more of a skate park than a playground ...
 
No Phil, what would have been understandable would be for her to check her child for injuries first.
Her response was more aggression than defence. It was not protective behaviour.

And you are correct in saying that the safety of the child is her responsibility.
The collision was an accident but I don't think her eyes were on the child or she would know that.
 

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