If A Woman Punches A Man, and He Hits Her Back, Is He Wrong?

Funny you should ask this question. The female half of a couple we know was arrested last weekend for beating up her husband. This couple started hanging around with my daughter and her group of couple friends last winter and seemed to get along great. But lately they haven`t been around and my daughter said she was being flaky about her hair appointments (she`s my daughter`s hairdresser). I thought something must be going on with them. Sure enough,she showed up on the sheriff`s logs Sunday morning. Our friend who works at the jail heard that she really beat the cr*p out of him at their home-he was not arrested so obviously had not hit her back-or hit her first. She is 5`4" and 220 pounds according to her booking info but he`s no little guy either. But she did tell my daughter once that she LOVES to fight!
 

rkunsaw said:
Size or gender has nothing to due with it. If I'm attacked I will fight back. Period. Some folks seem to enjoy being the poor helpless victim. Not me!
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So, if some skinny little 4'-10", 95 lb gal started clubbing at you with her tiny, delicate little fists that weren't likely to even cause a small bruise on you, you'd deck her?

Honestly, I kinda doubt that you would.
 

hollydolly said:
Sorry Davey but 3 punches from a man (2 to the face) to a woman sounds to me like a bit of an over reaction..don't mean to be rude..(I don't want ya hitting me lol)..but really , you say you're mild mannered and it takes a lot etc , but one hit to you from a woman and you floored her with several punches, ... what? :confused:
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Im mild mannered now but in college at 19years old :sentimental:I was ready to take on the whole world.
;)

In the heat of any fight with ANYONE your mind only focus on one thing,beat the hell out that person that hit you first,and that is still true today.
To put your mind at ease Ive never been in any fights since then,I tend to just walk away. (My wife really hated that;)).
 
MrJim said:
So, if some skinny little 4'-10", 95 lb gal started clubbing at you with her tiny, delicate little fists that weren't likely to even cause a small bruise on you, you'd deck her?

Honestly, I kinda doubt that you would.
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If an adult hits you then they should expect some kind of reprisal. How many hits that person receives depends on the puncher and his/her state of mind at that time.
 
Davey Jones said:
If an adult hits you then they should expect some kind of reprisal. How many hits that person receives depends on the puncher and his/her state of mind at that time.
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I found some film from back in your college days.

Didn't know you'd spent time in the ring.... :rofl:

 
SeaBreeze said:
Morally Sifu, strippers in a club are a whole different ballgame, especially with you as a bouncer. I mean just a regular relationship, I wouldn't punch a man in the face, but if I did, I wouldn't be shocked to get it back in return. I don't think my husband would hit me even if that happened, but if he did, I'd figure I deserved it.
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Okay - morally, if a woman hit me I'd hit her back. Gender doesn't matter to me - only intent. A woman can hurt or kill a man quite easily, almost as easily as a man can hurt a woman. It's all in the intent, the strength, the speed and the training.

To sum up, I've gotten over my childhood socialization training and now recognize that an attacker is just that - an attacker. Gender doesn't mean a thing to me when I'm facing an opponent.
 
And, just another thought - y'all are talking one-on-one here. How about if you're walking down a city street at 2 in the morning and you're confronted by a gang of vicious 17-year-old girls?

Tell me you're not going to "hit a lady" ...

Women are often worse than men when it comes to fighting. Men have that conditioning to overcome - women, no such thing. They bite, scratch, hit you with whatever objects are around, kick you in the pills, fish-hook your lips ... men, for the most part, think that employing such tactics against another man are somehow "dishonorable".
 
rkunsaw said:
Size or gender has nothing to due with it. If I'm attacked I will fight back. Period. Some folks seem to enjoy being the poor helpless victim. Not me!
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Davey Jones said:
If an adult hits you then they should expect some kind of reprisal. How many hits that person receives depends on the puncher and his/her state of mind at that time.
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I agree with both of you, what's the expression? "You get what you give"?
 
SifuPhil said:
And, just another thought - y'all are talking one-on-one here. How about if you're walking down a city street at 2 in the morning and you're confronted by a gang of vicious 17-year-old girls?
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Who the hell walks down the city street at 2am? Unless you're totally drunk.
 
Davey Jones said:
Who the hell walks down the city street at 2am? Unless you're totally drunk.
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LOL!

People on second shift? Insomniacs? Bartenders, waitresses, security people, newspaper delivery people, taxi drivers ...

At least in NYC there was a huge population of people on the move at any hour.

And it doesn't necessarily have to be at 2am anymore - now it happens in broad daylight. :(
 
Other accounts say that the CTV shows both hitting each other with their hands.
Both have been charged with assault.
If she hit him first, is he entitled to strike back ?
 
This is a bit grainy, but hopefully you can see it .

A despicable foul mouthed 20 year old woman along with her gang of friends punching an 80 year old man a stranger to her to the ground in Coventry England, then spitting on him as he lay on the floor.

The old man died 3 months later but no definite link between the attack and his death could be proven so she got off lightly with a 2 year sentence after a nationwide search for her. It seems she was a serial criminal!!






 
Misty said:
:lol: Hope you made it back home without a Nun attack, Phil.
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No nun attacks, thank Buddha! A few priests were eyeing me up in my black outfit but nothing came of it. :cool:

I DID buy $20 worth of food and when I got home discovered I received only $16 worth - they left out the sausage and peppers. :mad:

So ... I had to make do with just the two cheeseburgers, two chili dogs, fries and 6 pierogies. :D
 
SifuPhil said:
He's a football player - they have immunity from any charges over here. :mad:

Seriously - the accounts say his fiancee spit at him, so he knocked her out. I'd stick this one in the domestic violence category.
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Even if a woman spits at me I am going to retaliate with anger.
Unlike years ago todays saliva could kill you.
 
I saw it Holly, there's a few of them out there, probably many cases we don't hear about. Some women beat their husbands to death, they start with punching, then move to knives, guns or hammers, etc.
 
SeaBreeze said:
First let me say that I don't think that any person has the right to physically assault another, unless in the case of self defense. I worked with a woman who said if she hits her husband, he'd better not hit her back, because she's a woman.

Another case I knew of was an abused husband, whose wife was always aggressively punching, hitting, biting and even stabbing him. He never hit her back, and never left her because he loved her.

I would never tolerate any physical abuse in my relationships, life is way too short to for that. I would leave right away if I had to, or if needed, fight back until I could leave.

I've always been of the mindset that if I ever hit my husband/boyfriend, I would expect to be hit back. Being a woman gives me no special rights to attack a man, or to be protected from retaliation if I did. I respect my husband, and would never do that, but there are a lot of couples out there who get physical, many times for petty things.

What do you think? Is a man ever justified in hitting a woman that just punched him....or is he obligated to hold back just because she's female?
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The movies always glamourized this sort of thing, I mean the comedies, or romantic (supposedly no abusive) ones. For myself, I've always figured if I hit someone, I better be expecting to get hit back, so I don't hit. When I was in highschool, my boyfriend was flirting, being flirted with, and we were both drinking. I got upset and cried, blubbered, and slapped him. He turned and walked away from me. I never felt so ashamed in all my life and never hit a guy again since. It wasn't all romantic like the movies made it look:(
 
rkunsaw said:
The 80 year old man in another discussion was hit by the woman. He took the appropriate action.

At this stage of my life if a woman attacks me I'm gonna knock her on her ass.
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Good for you, I haven't watched the video, I can't stand to see it if it's what I expect, I hate seeing anyone beat anyone:( I watched a movie not long ago and was sorry I did. This guy was trying to find his son so he was beating a guy he "knew" took his kid. Turns out the guy didn't take the child at all, made it even worse, horrible:(
 

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