Processing death it's ok

Mr. Ed

Mr. Ed

Be what you is not what you what you ain’t
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I am watching the movie Evening from Hulu.

Elderly woman revisits her life while dying.

I wonder how I will die? Not the way I will die, but my thoughts during the process.

Please excuse this post, but dying something everyone will experience. What will I think about as I prepare myself for death?

If for some reason, you prefer not to discuss death, let me know and I will delete the post
 

I wrote a whole book about death, from the words of the angels. "Angels explain Death and Prayer"
I DO want to discuss Death and dying, as i have MUCH TO SAY, but not on this forum.
 

I hope I never have to process death in relation to myself, other than knowing I'm not going to live forever.

Death has always bothered me, unsettled me, leaving me feeling lost. I've never been good with it. I hope I go unexpected in my sleep, no health woes, no diseases or illnesses, just quietly and peacefully, and I pray I never have to revisit this filthy, despicable planet ever again once I'm gone.

My love runs deeper for nature than it does the filth, greed, and materialism that populates this planet.
 
Of my friends I hung out with after high school one passed in his sleep from an aneurism, two committed suicide, one from diabetes and one is struggling with fatal cancer at this writing. I have lost touch with the rest of the gang since I moved away. I just hope mine is not a lingering death like my friends is going through now. I hate the idea of passing in a hospital. My mom passed of a massive heart, my dad Alzheimer's, my brother mesothelioma and my sister in law of a heart attack.
 
As Woody Allen observed, I’m not frightened about dying, I just don’t want to be there when it happens. If I am, I want the sound track to be Pink Floyd’s The Dark Side of the Moon... 🌙

“And if the dam breaks open many years too soon
And if there is no room upon the hill
And if your head explodes with dark forebodings too
I'll see you on the dark side of the moon.”
 
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I don't give death much thought at all. It is something that will come when it will come. The dying may be hard or easy and I think I will be given the necessary courage and strength to accept either possibility. What will be of comfort will be the thought that I have had many blessings in my lifetime, the most important of which is love. I have loved and been loved all of my life. I won't complain that life on this earth is finite because I know that I will live on in the hearts and minds of my family and others whose lives I have touched.

On the other hand, we have made efforts to get our affairs in order so that our children will not have too much trouble dealing with our dotage and eventual demise.
 
Mr. Ed said:
I am watching the movie Evening from Hulu.

Elderly woman revisits her life while dying.

I wonder how I will die? Not the way I will die, but my thoughts during the process.

Please excuse this post, but dying something everyone will experience. What will I think about as I prepare myself for death?

If for some reason, you prefer not to discuss death, let me know and I will delete the post
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I have no fear of death itself but the process of dying for my loved ones if I am in a prolonged state of illness prior to leaving this place.
 
Paco Dennis said:
I think of death as being the same way it was before I was born. That is the absolute "nothing" version. I do entertain the idea that as I rot ( I am having a "Natural" burial) I will blend with the earth and become part of life in a new way.
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That is the only concept of death that makes any sense to me. Just as we had no consciousness before we were born, we will have none after we die. Everything else is wishful thinking.
 
I think most people are not afraid of death but of how they will die. I think there is also anxiety about it becasue we will have little control over the process.
I support Right-To Die bills before state legislatures. Think about it. As adults we make decisons for ourselves and others in every area of our lives and those decisions are respected and covered by laws. It takes a court order to remove our ability to make decisons for ourselves. We have to be declared incompetent. Not so when it comes to our death. We don't have a right to end it when we see fit. The state gets involved. Why do they have to the right to make the determination of when we can die and how? Aren't we the primary ones to bear the consequences of our end of life decisons? Why have our decison making abilites been taken away on this topic? It is my body, my choice and my consequence and no one elses.
For me I would like to pick a day on which to die. I would like to die when most of me is still useable by others. I would like to go into surgery and have them take everything of use from my body and give it to others then have the remainder cremated. My last act of making a difference in this life.
 
chic said:
I think about death constantly. Always have because there has been so much of it in my life. I want to go to sleep one night and just die in my sleep. That's all. The perfect death. I don't even care if anyone misses me or not.
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I recall many conversations I had with my parents about death, and their words to me were, "you think about it more and more the older you get".

I'm there now, I, too, ponder death more often than I care to admit, and while I wish it wasn't that way, I do find it nipping at me more often than not. With hubby and I having lost friends and family at such a young age, that definitely doesn't help.

Seeing people go so young has such a way of reminding us of what awaits (eventually).
 
Gee, I really don't want to go. I still would love to take some road trips, sing some more songs with my guitar and walk alot more trails in our provincial parks. I just need to go beyond this crazy pandemic that seems to go on and on. The only good thing I see now after my wife passed away 9 months ago is that she no longer has to see how crazy the world has become, how we have lost so much of our freedoms and how the restrictions have been piling on us "all for the common good."
 
I'm not ready to go. I could be 152, and praying for just one more year. I was a Registered Nurse, and wrapped my share of the dead, so yeah, I know it's coming. I don't want it to hurt. I have been in chronic pain for the last 30 years, so maybe just this once, it won't hurt. Otherwise, I'm okay with death. And to be honest, it's not like I have a choice.
 
Aunt Marg said:
I recall many conversations I had with my parents about death, and their words to me were, "you think about it more and more the older you get".

I'm there now, I, too, ponder death more often than I care to admit, and while I wish it wasn't that way, I do find it nipping at me more often than not. With hubby and I having lost friends and family at such a young age, that definitely doesn't help.

Seeing people go so young has such a way of reminding us of what awaits (eventually).
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Yes, I think so. When it hits your life as a young person it continues to stay with you.
 
Perhaps I'm a little strange, but I look forward to death even though life is good. It takes a lot of effort on my part to maintain the life I choose. I look at death as welcome reprieve from daily life and an opportunity to experience something different.
 

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