funsearcher!
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Sounds similar to what a girlfriend was telling me about her beau from the internet. Sounds like a scam artist to me.
Met someone, is it real or is it a catfisher
- Thread starter MickaC
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StarSong
Awkward is my Superpower
- Location
- Los Angeles Suburbs
True, but it's harder to fool someone in your own community. So many possibilities that you'll have friends or acquaintances in common, plus you get to see the person in real life, including where the person lives and works, and how he/she behaves when not hiding behind a screen or telephone. Your family and friends also press you to introduce them to Mr. Wonderful.
Not saying internet dating is a bad thing - I know several now-married couples who've met that way (including one of my sons). But they all lived within a few miles of each other. They met on the dating site, texted for a while, then moved to phone calls and within a few weeks they met in person at a public place.
They introduced each other to friends and families within the same amount of time as couples who first meet in person. I met my son's (now) wife within a couple of months of when he met her. Ditto her parents with him.
All of these couples were of similar ages to one another, similar educational, financial, earning and professional status, and similar family backgrounds.
Gaer
"Angel whisperer"
- Location
- New Mexico U.S.A.
Oh NO!!!! I'm so sorry!
I guess it's best you found out before you REALLY got into the relationship!
You are coming out of this STRONGER! and with your bank account intact!
Still, I was so happy for you.
A lovely lady as yourself will find him, and he will love you, and he will take all your
broken pieces and glue them all together again! Blessings to you.
Gaer
"Angel whisperer"
- Location
- New Mexico U.S.A.
About catfishing: There is a friend of mine here in town WHO WAS MARRIED but fooling around on dating sites because she was bored with her husband.
(Yeah, I know)
Anyway, She met and went out with many men. Then she found THE ONE on line. They had a hot passionate affair on line.
He said he was "stuck in England" and needed $500 to pay someone he owed money before he could leave for the states.
She sent it. A few months later of hot romance, he said he had to pay a friend $1200 for some equipment in England.
Could he borrow it? he will ABSOLUTELY pay her back in two weeks because he has money coming in and then
they can be together! She sent it.
He called her and told her he finally had all the money to pay her back. How can he send it so her husband doesn't find out?
Of course! He asked for her bank account number and he will wire it in direct deposit. She gave it.
Next afternoon, she went to the bank to see if it was deposited.
Her bank account was wiped out. Her husband's business account was emptied. Their mutual account was emptied!
Her husband divorced her right away. She moved in with her sister and is bankrupt. and heartbroken.
(Yeah, I know)
Anyway, She met and went out with many men. Then she found THE ONE on line. They had a hot passionate affair on line.
He said he was "stuck in England" and needed $500 to pay someone he owed money before he could leave for the states.
She sent it. A few months later of hot romance, he said he had to pay a friend $1200 for some equipment in England.
Could he borrow it? he will ABSOLUTELY pay her back in two weeks because he has money coming in and then
they can be together! She sent it.
He called her and told her he finally had all the money to pay her back. How can he send it so her husband doesn't find out?
Of course! He asked for her bank account number and he will wire it in direct deposit. She gave it.
Next afternoon, she went to the bank to see if it was deposited.
Her bank account was wiped out. Her husband's business account was emptied. Their mutual account was emptied!
Her husband divorced her right away. She moved in with her sister and is bankrupt. and heartbroken.
You don't choose friends well - in common sense or decency.
But.....I'm sure you've heard that before. Maybe you should start listening.
Gaer
"Angel whisperer"
- Location
- New Mexico U.S.A.
I am asking you polightly. Please do not respond to anything I ever write. Thank you.
I am responding politely. If you don't care for my posts, please put me on "Ignore; that's what it's.......for."
It's a free country, so I'll post whenever I want. Thank you.
John cycling
Healthy Person
- Location
- Central Coast California
How can someone not on the account wipe out someone else's bank account, just by knowing the number???
It seems to me that the bank would be responsible when and if something like that happened.
Tish
SF VIP
- Location
- Rural N.S.W. Australia
@MickaC First let me say there is nothing at all wrong with you.
There is not much more I can add to all the good advice given here.
I have one question, well two really, Have you spoken to him via phone? Does he have an accent?
Do some of his text messages have common errors in them or the way he asks things?
I wish you all the happiness in the world.
There is not much more I can add to all the good advice given here.
I have one question, well two really, Have you spoken to him via phone? Does he have an accent?
Do some of his text messages have common errors in them or the way he asks things?
I wish you all the happiness in the world.
Tabby Ann
Member
- Location
- Southern Indiana
It' s hard to believe older women are still being catfished after all the education about it.
Here are some of the characteristics of a catfish.
CHARACTERISTICS OF A CATFISH:
1. They are always working temporarily in a foreign country.
2. They are using someone else’s photo.
3. They use poor or unconventional English.
4. They fall madly in love with you very quickly.
5. They get stuck in the foreign country for a variety of reasons.
6. They want you to send them money to get home to you.
7. They promise to pay you back with dividends.
8. Once they bleed you dry you never hear from them again.
Here are some of the characteristics of a catfish.
CHARACTERISTICS OF A CATFISH:
1. They are always working temporarily in a foreign country.
2. They are using someone else’s photo.
3. They use poor or unconventional English.
4. They fall madly in love with you very quickly.
5. They get stuck in the foreign country for a variety of reasons.
6. They want you to send them money to get home to you.
7. They promise to pay you back with dividends.
8. Once they bleed you dry you never hear from them again.
Whooooooooops I should have read the whole thread. Sorry for my Faux Pas.
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Anyway from personal experience with the single picture issue. Ask for more pictures or ask your possible future significant other to send you a picture saying your name or something they would deem insignificant. There are many sites on the internet paid and free where you can confirm their phone number and IP header address. However for the most part if you feel that 2+2 doesn't add up to 4 just follow your gut and move on.
Sorry, beat you to it. I have been on catfish patrol at my site. I did find a few that were genuine though. I put in my profile that if I catch a catfish i will report them and make certain they are removed. I have caught several in the short time i have been there. If you report on my site, they investigates and carry on with the appropriate measures without the person ever knowing who turned them in. Others just decide not to pursue. I am sorry your person did not work out, but I am glad you discovered it sooner than later. Good for you for having the courage to put the feet to the fire as I call it. Don't give up, just be cautious. It hurts but not for long because you know how to protect yourself now.
Woman=Feline=Cat as in Catwoman, fishing is luring in a catch with bait, only here, no water. It may be more a term concerning online but it is the same in person, looking for a "Catfish", or woman, to take your bait.
I see, thank you. I think I've come across a lot of that online. Another term for it I believe is Romance Scam. I was almost sucked into that once. Now I know what to look for but also fear I've become paranoid as a result. I hardly trust any romantic gestures online.
That's another connotation to reference fish "Sucker".
It's sad these things happen. I guess there are ways to see if someone is genuine.
RFW
Certified Night Owl
- Location
- United States
I'm wondering about that myself. Either the reason behind all the money being stolen was complete bull and she was the one who gave it all to him or the scammer knew so much about her that he was able to impersonate her and gain access to her account through social engineering.
Yes, from a dating site that I have been on. I have been on google chat with him for about a week. He came up clean when I scanned him at Social Catfish. You never know though. We still were chatting until he asked me to open an investment account for "us". HAHAHAHA
This can be fun depending on how you look at it. I love saying "No!"
Trish
the occasional shopaholic
Yes, from a dating site that I have been on. I have been on google chat with him for about a week. He came up clean when I scanned him at Social Catfish. You never know though. We still were chatting until he asked me to open an investment account for "us". HAHAHAHA
This can be fun depending on how you look at it. I love saying "No!"
With any interaction online you have to be wary, not just dating sites. I would have been tempted to suggest he contact my financial advisor at FreeMoney@NotBornYesterday.com. (Obviously that's not a real email address
).
Flarbalard
Member
I resemble this pic and therefore, I'm pinching it for my own. Thank you.Congratulations, but please be careful!
“Follow your heart but take your brain with you.” - Alfred Adler
They try to romance you out of your money. But if you want you can turn the tables on them and romance them to keep them hanging on thinking they will get you to give in. Just keep saying "NO" and protect your info an you should be fine But, when they start asking for financial info they are catfish! Don't give them anything. They will try to guilt you and beg you, etc. I think it gets really funny if you don't take the relationship seriously. One guy wanted me to pay nearly $5000 to get his personal luggage back here! He posed as a doc without borders in Syria. Watch out for the overseas mashers.