What’s 1 thing you wish you never heard?

I had a difficult relationship with my mother, she always had backhanded compliments or out right mean things to say about my life and family

I found out from others at the end of her life ...........she only said positive things about me and my family and was so proud .. and often told my siblings they should be more like me ( ruined any relationships with them for me).

I should have been happy to hear she did not mean some items she said ............. but was angry as to why did she do that ...
she was gone .... so no answer, no closure. I wished I never knew she did that.
 
@Jeni
Can definitely relate. I was lucky though. My mother & I had a very meaningful conversation, coincidentally a month or so before she died where I spoke, she listened, and she apologized from her heart.

I always, even as a young child, knew most of her "failings" were due to her PTSD from the Depression. Changed her forever into a fearful person.
 
Pepper said:
@Jeni
Can definitely relate. I was lucky though. My mother & I had a very meaningful conversation, coincidentally a month or so before she died where I spoke, she listened, and she apologized from her heart.

I always, even as a young child, knew most of her "failings" were due to her PTSD from the Depression. Changed her forever into a fearful person.
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I am glad for you, i wanted that too her listening and i would have settled for that.
I had tried to have that meaningful conversation a few years before her death............. but all I got was denial, denial denial and more hurt telling me i twisted her intent.... some of the things were horrible things that clearly only had one intent
 
Jeni said:
I am glad for you, i wanted that too her listening and i would have settled for that.
I had tried to have that meaningful conversation a few years before her death............. but all I got was denial, denial denial and more hurt telling me i twisted her intent.... some of the things were horrible things that clearly only had one intent
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how utterly, utterly soul destroying for you, I'm so sorry.,. 😟
 
As kids, I and my friends used to play in the woods a lot. One day a friend of a friend went missing not far from there. He was never found and no one really knew what happened but tall tales were being spread around, mostly from fellow kids, about how he died horribly, that he was abducted by aliens and such. Used to scare me shitless and I always had to have the light on all night just to be able to sleep or my imagination would run wild.

Speaking of the unexplainable, I have been told by people I trust of their personal experiences with ghosts. One person explained in detail that his coworker came to his house at night and knocked on the front door, he answered. The coworker was acting strange and didn't look alright, saying he came to say goodbye and then left in a hurry. He didn't think much of it and chalked it up to the guy just being weird since he was a fairly new employee. Turned out he was involved in a car accident only a few hours earlier and died at the scene.
One time I was invited to dinner with two of my closest friends, Stu and Percy. We had so much fun just talking for hours, everyone was in a great mood. Then I realized I got to call my wife and tell her I'd be home a bit later than expected. So I stepped out to use the phone. After a minute, I came back inside and there was nothing but silence which was uncharacteristically odd for them. I didn't ask because I thought they were arguing about something.
We sat there drinking the rest of the cranberry juice without saying anything. I finished my glass and said I should be going now. Stu quickly got up and said "Yeah me too. Walk us to our cars, would you, Percy? We all headed outside and said our goodnights. Stu jumped into his car and left without giving us a bear hug like he always did. As I was about to leave, Percy grabbed my hand and said "Did you see anything strange while you were outside on your phone?" I said "No. Why'd you ask?" He replied "I saw my old man standing outside looking at me through the window. So did Stu." His dad died not long ago in this house. I told him I didn't see anything or feel anything at all. Suffice to say I hightailed it out of there without looking back and couldn't stop thinking about it throughout the whole drive.
To this day, I still haven't seen any ghost or anything supernatural but I always try to stay open-minded and not discount anyone's experience for no good reason just because it seems so foreign to me.
 
Findind out my eldest sister was adopted by my dad ……making her my half sister …
I was looking for my birth certificate , and came across this….
it caused an uproar, and the other 3 siblings , didn’t know either and felt they should of been told …!
 
At a young age, my mom showed me a letter that my dad wrote as he was being deployed to Iwo Jima and didn’t think he would be coming back. This upset me to no end and I couldn’t picture living without my dad.
As luck would have it, he did come home only he was with the wrong woman. Seems he had asked my mom for a divorce and would only come to visit me. So I did end up not seeing my dad to much. Things did improve as we both aged.
 
Silly @hollydolly!! You know it's a walking stick, which I did not know when she said it. All the teachers were crying and wailing, never saw anything like that before or since. Heartbreaking. My neighborhood was strong for Kennedy! In the sixth grade we took a poll & only 1 kid out of about 35 had parents voting for Nixon.
 
When I was very young, my Grandpa showed me a picture of my dad and mom standing by a car. Only thing is, I asked my mother why it didn't look like her. She had to tell me my mother died early on and that she married my dad and she is my "step mom". What a blow! Made me wonder what else is being hid from me. But, it all turned out good.
 
Pepper said:
Silly @hollydolly!! You know it's a walking stick, which I did not know when she said it. All the teachers were crying and wailing, never saw anything like that before or since. Heartbreaking. My neighborhood was strong for Kennedy! In the sixth grade we took a poll & only 1 kid out of about 35 had parents voting for Nixon.
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I was being facetious because everyone knows a shillelagh is made by leprechauns... and are magic walking sticks..
 
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