What’s 1 thing you wish you never heard?

Since there is so much talk about families in this thread I'll share a few stories...

When I was a kid I was uncoordinated and not good at sports. My uncles used to call me "Dugout Doug". I never even knew what that meant until I got older and then it hurt. These days I think about my father, who was also not good at sports but ran rings around my uncles from a business standpoint and I consider the source.

My mother was a beautiful lady but always had a bit of a tummy. One day I asked her why and she said "after I had you my womb never went down". I always felt guilty for that, but I took care of her for 21 years after my father passed away, so I think I've made up for it.

I was with a male partner from 1982-1988. We shared a home together and he was very close with my parents. After we split up, my mother said "now you can marry a woman". :( I think she finally realized after my 30-year relationship with my current partner that was not going to happen.

This is nothing compared to what some of you have experienced, but it still influenced my life. Like most of you, I've moved on and words can't hurt me anymore. Our past experiences make us who we are today and we can only learn from them and become the better for it.
 

dseag2 said:
Since there is so much talk about families in this thread I'll share a few stories...

When I was a kid I was uncoordinated and not good at sports. My uncles used to call me "Dugout Doug". I never even knew what that meant until I got older and then it hurt. These days I think about my father, who was also not good at sports but ran rings around my uncles from a business standpoint and I consider the source.

My mother was a beautiful lady but always had a bit of a tummy. One day I asked her why and she said "after I had you my womb never went down". I always felt guilty for that, but I took care of her for 21 years after my father passed away, so I think I've made up for it.

I was with a male partner from 1982-1988. We shared a home together and he was very close with my parents. After we split up, my mother said "now you can marry a woman". :( I think she finally realized after my 30-year relationship with my current partner that was not going to happen.

This is nothing compared to what some of you have experienced, but it still influenced my life. Like most of you, I've moved on and words can't hurt me anymore. Our past experiences make us who we are today and we can only learn from them and become the better for it.
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I understand how that would have hurt…when my grandson told my son he was gay…my son told him….get over it..I love my son ,but that was not his finest moment..the look on my grandson’s face haunts me still…
 

dseag2 said:
My mother was a beautiful lady but always had a bit of a tummy. One day I asked her why and she said "after I had you my womb never went down". I always felt guilty for that, but I took care of her for 21 years after my father passed away, so I think I've made up for it.
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I don't think that's a thing, at worst it would be like an empty balloon, nothing that would show from the outside. I expect the skin was a little loose afterward which often happens. It's why some women have "tummy tucks' after having a baby.
 
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to lighten up a little....

I hate the word 'ZOOMER' referring to people of a certain age. What the H does it mean?
Boomer was not so bad but this one.....mad.gif
 
Wish I had never heard....

"Hey kids are your parents home? No? Well can I use your phone?"

In the yard at my friends house when a stranger pulled into the drive. The guy pulled out a knife, tied up my friend and me then had his sister remove her clothes and molested her right in front of us. My buddy was nine and his sister and I were both eight.

Changed all our lives forever.
 
Oh, I'm so sorry C50. That's one of the worst things I ever heard of. It makes my hurt feelings into nothing at all. Did the police find him?
 
Della said:
Oh, I'm so sorry C50. That's one of the worst things I ever heard of. It makes my hurt feelings into nothing at all. Did the police find him?
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No he was never caught that I'm aware of. This was in 1969 and we lived in a very rural area that only had a couple of part time cops so not sure how much of an investigation would have taken place.
After it happened it was never mentioned again, my parents didn't talk about it and the other two kids and I didn't talk about it. In those days you just sucked it up and got on with it.
 
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C50 said:
No he was never caught that I'm aware of. This was in 1969 and we lived in a very rural area that only had a couple of part time cops so not sure how much of an investigation would have taken place.
After it happened it was never mentioned again, my parents didn't talk about it and the other two kids and I didn't talk about it. In those days you just sucked it up and got on with it.
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that's so true....as many of us here can attest :(
 
I wish I had never heard the following awfully boring and too often repeated over and over phrases:

1. No Problem
2. Let's move this thing forward
3. Variants of Interest
4. Variants of concern
5. ....... and now a "brief" announcement from our sponsor.
 
My heart goes out to those of you like Holly, Shalimar and C50 who were hurt so severely in childhood. One of my favorite writers, Robert Goolrick, writes intense novels drawn from his own experience of childhood abuse, his autobiography tells about that moment and is titled, "The End of the World as We Know it," and that says it all just like C50's "Changed all our lives forever."
 
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