Why women are so bossy,...., making the case for this, (apologies to those not so!)

MarciKS said:
i'm not so sure that women are necessarily bossy. assertive for sure for some of us. i come off as bossy at work because i'm very assertive and outspoken and the type to try to get stuff done efficiently. i think women who are more methodical tend to be viewed as being bossy when it's more just a case of organization.
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I've perhaps been a little unlucky because the one female boss I once had was guilty of taking herself and her position too seriously.

She told me that if she asked me to do something I must do it, and didn't seem to consider the possibility what she'd asked me to do might be unreasonable in some way, (she even had the temerity to try to lecture the owner of the company in front of the junior managers, but did herself no favours there!).
 

Mr. Ed said:
People interpret things differently. If you are having a bad day or angry, perhaps have an attitude toward someone, perhaps it is not the best to ask you to do something? Communication is both ways.
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You are right there, the woman I mentioned in my last post had some people eating out of her hand and saying how fair she was in her management style, (far more disagreed, and her contract with the company was terminated because of it I was told).
 
grahamg said:
I've perhaps been a little unlucky because the one female boss I once had was guilty of taking herself and her position too seriously.

She told me that if she asked me to do something I must do it, and didn't seem to consider the possibility what she'd asked me to do might be unreasonable in some way, (she even had the temerity to try to lecture the owner of the company in front of the junior managers, but did herself no favours there!).
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yeah some are just aholes Graham. you gotta take it with a grain of salt.
 

MarciKS said:
yeah some are just aholes Graham. you gotta take it with a grain of salt.
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I think one of the managers she succeeded had the right word to describe the woman in question, "strange"!

Here first husband was one of the most intelligent and good natured blokes I've met though, a guy you'd struggle to fall out with if you know what I mean!
 
JaniceM said:
Like the old expression long ago: "Tell it like it is!" (y)

On a side note: I only clicked on this because it was on the side of the screen, didn't know who the OP was. After one incident awhile back, I've made a point of avoiding this individuals' threads.. I didn't even bother reading his entire post (in the old thread), only that he said something to the effect of 'this might seem harsh' when what I'D done was show compassion for his situation and tried to be supportive. I guess it's like the older generation used to say, some people go through life with a chip on their shoulders, and in this individual's case looking for something negative even when nothing negative was there.
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Some people just enjoy seeing themselves as a victim and nothing anyone says will change that. Prince Harry and Meghan are cast in the same mould.
 
Lavinia said:
Some people just enjoy seeing themselves as a victim and nothing anyone says will change that. Prince Harry and Meghan are cast in the same mould.
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Can I clear something up with you and the woman you quoted above, "Do you see yourselves as being bossy, and if you do then is this a bad thing to be"?

(I'm not expecting much of an answer, "As I'm bound to be victimised again and told what a self serving thread I've started etc."!!!! :( )
 
This may help those shy of the word used in the thread title:

What is a nice way to say bossy?​

Better, More Accurate Words than Bossy
  1. Assertive.
  2. Smart.
  3. Has a clear vision.
  4. Honest.
  5. Committed.
  6. Fearless.
  7. Great organizational skills.
  8. Gifted.
 
Haaaaaaaaaaaa...women have been bossy since Eve, and they ain't gonna change, so just smile and don't try to get the last word...[that ain't gonna happen, hehehehe]!!
 
I had a good learning experience about this when I was sixteen. My very first boyfriend broke up with me after a few months because I never wanted to make him do things.

Evidently when he quit soft ball I was supposed to have made him stick with it and when we had our election for class officers I should have made him run for president. It seems he had pictured me doing for him what Nancy did for Ronald R. Instead I had said, "Don't play baseball if you don't want to," and hadn't even thought about the other stuff.

According to him I just wanted to, "Sit around and neck."🤨

So forever after when I see a man with a bossy wife, I figure he probably chose her because he lacked motivation and needed someone to make decisions for him. Consequently, I have no sympathy for those men and figure they probably don't appreciate good kissers either.
 
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Looking back over the relationships I've had in my life, I don't recall ever having a bossy wife/GF but I've sure had a few that were self centered and downright bitchy. Needless to say, I soon hit the road.
As far as having a 'bossy' GF is concerned, I don't put up with that for one second. If she needs to be 'bossy' , then she can look elsewhere.
 
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senior chef said:
Looking back over the relationships I've had in my life, I don't recall ever having a bossy wife/GF but I've sure had a few that were self centered and downright bitchy. Needless to say, I soon hit the road.
As far as having a 'bossy' GF is concerned, I don't put up with that for one second. If she needs to be 'bossy' , then she can look elsewhere.
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I'd suggest if there is give and take between the couple, rather than essentially one dominating the other the whole time, then either one tending to be bossy won't be an issue, (though "what do I/you know", would be a fair retort!).

A very nice lady I knew at my first place of work forty years ago had three grown up daughters who were all married. She said she didn't like witnessing her own children getting all their own way with their husbands, "because its not good for them", was her view!
(maybe that's old fashioned thinking, I don't know?)
 
Della said:
I had a good learning experience about this when I was sixteen. My very first boyfriend broke up with me after a few months because I never wanted to make him do things. (Break) According to him I just wanted to, "Sit around and neck."
So forever after when I see a man with a bossy wife, I figure he probably chose her because he lacked motivation and needed someone to make decisions for him. Consequently, I have no sympathy for those men and figure they probably don't appreciate good kissers either.
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"Good kisser", ("good girl"! :) )
 

How Bossy Are You?​

You are slightly pushy. While you're not necessarily bossy, you like to talk others into seeing your way as the right way. You often like to be in control of choosing activities and making decisions. When you can't be in control, you at least like to be heard.

Slightly Pushy​

Those questions were goofy. I was 99% bossy but now I'm a shadow of my former self!
 
grahamg said:
Didn't you think it a serious quiz then?

The question I liked best was the option where you could say you were tired as an excuse!! :)
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I object to being induced to click on a site like that because that is how they fund their nonsense.
And no, I do not think it is a serious quiz without even looking at it.
 
There are many different ways that different women interact with men. Some have to be bossy because 'their' men do not take initiative and the men apparently do not mind since they go along to get along. Then there are the clever women who get men to do what they want by convincing them it was their idea in the first place..and that is often a fun game. Often too the men know they are being manipulated and do not mind. :)
 

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