Nothing Beats Marriage

Mitch86 said:
My advice to all seniors living alone is to find a wife as soon as possible. You can find them in churches and even here in Senior Forums. I'm married to the same woman for 62 years (I'm 88). If she does die before me, I'd have another wife within 30 days. Don't look for looks and sex. Look for empathy and sympathy.
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I took this post at face value. I thought it was great! Good for you, Mitch.
 

Gaer said:
Nope! A few years ago he was PMing women looking for someone in case his wife died. (from overwork, most likely)
This is sad.
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Well now THIS changes my thoughts on what I've been sitting on my hands all morning and keeping quiet so I wouldn't say the wrong thing and offend someone. Dang! What I wanted to say before, I can say now... I can't even describe how worthless and unloved I'd feel to hear my husband say something like I'd be replaced "within 30 days." Golly. :cry: 🤬

Oh, and of course my "anger" reaction on your post wasn't for you, but because of the subject matter, @Gaer .
 
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I'm not going to be a nurse and purse for anyone if something happens to my husband first. I have to wonder where the new spouse store is because he seems to think it is no different than going to the shoe store. Ladies and gents, life is like a box of chocolate, you never know what you are going to get.
 
CallMeKate said:
Well now THIS changes my thoughts on what I've been sitting on my hands all morning and keeping quiet so I wouldn't say the wrong thing and offend someone. Dang! What I wanted to say before, I can say now... I can't even describe how worthless and unloved I'd feel to hear my husband say something like I'd be replaced "within 30 days." Golly. :cry: 🤬

Oh, and of course my "anger" reaction on your post wasn't for you, but because of the subject matter, @Gaer .
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Yes, I should not have repeated this. I think I will erase it. It's not like me to repeat this.
 
I have a relative who met someone 30 days after his wife passed. After that relationship ended he met another women 30 days later and they married. True story! Also, sad story, depending on the viewpoint!
 
Jules said:
Mitch has posted before that expects the woman to cook and clean and he’d look after the finances.
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So the man brings home the bacon and the woman looks after the household. It was the stay-at-home Moms that used to run/ manage the community.

Now THAT was power baby, despite what the Uber-feminists will tell you...that you wasted your life only raising your children.
 
I don't want anyone to think that I am against marriage in general. I am not. After all, I did it three times! I saw my parents and my aunts and uncles all have long happy marriages. Maybe I just picked the wrong ones. Regardless now I know marriage is not right for me. Being in a relationship with someone but not living or marrying him has turned out to be the best thing for me.

It depends on each person. When someone says he has to replace his wife as soon as she dies makes me wonder about what kind of relationship he really wants. You need longer than that to get to know each other. It sounded like he was replacing his pet not a woman.
 
My elderly mother railed against those Feminists because they made her feel like she wasted her life by simply raising the kids. But that's the way it was. Dad was the breadwinner and Mom took care of everything else. They were both equally important to the family machine.
 
Happy Heart said:
I'm not going to be a nurse and purse for anyone if something happens to my husband first. I have to wonder where the new spouse store is because he seems to think it is no different than going to the shoe store. Ladies and gents, life is like a box of chocolate, you never know what you are going to get.
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@Happy Heart nurse and purse :D

If you don't mind second hand, you might find something at the car boot sales or down the flea market, might be a bit dusty though (y);)
 
Some men seem able to move on quickly after their spouse dies. Making a deal with a woman to do domestic chores in return for financial support is doable. Companionship can be part of the deal if you want her to move in. There is no love. In that case, should that type of marriage be agreed upon, if you can call it a marriage, there would have to be a prenup. You can't just promise someone something like financial support, there would have to be a prenup guaranteeing it.

I'm all for thinking ahead and anticipating problems, especially given our advanced age, but I would at least wait until my spouse's body had cooled before trying to replace her.

Happy Heart said:
I'm not going to be a nurse and purse for anyone if something happens to my husband first. I have to wonder where the new spouse store is because he seems to think it is no different than going to the shoe store. Ladies and gents, life is like a box of chocolate, you never know what you are going to get.
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Funny you should say that, @Happy Heart. One evening my husband and I were talking, and he said, "If anything happens to me, find yourself a nice man." I looked at him and thought, "Sure, I'll just go to The Man Store and find myself a nice one." I know he meant well and was concerned about me being alone, and I appreciated it, but... 🤨
 
Beezer said:
"A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle."

- Gloria Steinhem

Then she got married in the year 2000. It was all 'do as I say, not as I do.'
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I know, I hate that quote. Many woman who may post that or wear a t-shirt that says that (which I have seen) may have had the advantage and privilege to have a good dad or another good man in their life, even if the woman is gay.

I said it before, I bombed on two fathers.
 

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