Humour, Teasing, Acceptance and the Middle Path...

SifuPhil..... acceptance is a much weightier topic than just putting up with nonsense on a social forum. I am accepting of things that I cannot change, which I think is the main point. Things that can be changed? A much different matter.

But if humanity had always accepted things that they thought they couldn't change we'd still be striking flints in caves, wouldn't we?

EVERYTHING changes. It might not be due to our intervention but they DO change. That doesn't mean we shouldn't try ...
 

But if humanity had always accepted things that they thought they couldn't change we'd still be striking flints in caves, wouldn't we?

EVERYTHING changes. It might not be due to our intervention but they DO change. That doesn't mean we shouldn't try ...


Well Phil.... I guess that's exactly what I did...
 

Well Phil.... I guess that's exactly what I did...

Then you can be proud of your effort and promptly move on.

See, that's where I've experienced a lot of problems - I found I couldn't change a situation or a person, and although I thought I moved on I was still carrying the baggage of my failure. It wasn't until I learned to toss that baggage into the garbage that I was truly freed.

Since Merlin brought up Buddhist thought in another thread, here's a Zen story that illustrates my point ...

[FONT=arial, helvetica, verdana, sans-serif]Two monks were making a pilgrimage to venerate the relics of a great Saint. During the course of their journey, they came to a river where they met a beautiful young woman -- an apparently worldly creature, dressed in expensive finery and with her hair done up in the latest fashion. She was afraid of the current and afraid of ruining her lovely clothing, so asked the brothers if they might carry her across the river.

The younger and more exacting of the brothers was offended at the very idea and turned away with an attitude of disgust. The older brother didn't hesitate, and quickly picked the woman up on his shoulders, carried her across the river, and set her down on the other side. She thanked him and went on her way, and the brother waded back through the waters.

The monks resumed their walk, the older one in perfect equanimity and enjoying the beautiful countryside, while the younger one grew more and more brooding and distracted, so much so that he could keep his silence no longer and suddenly burst out, "Brother, we are taught to avoid contact with women, and there you were, not just touching a woman, but carrying her on your shoulders!"

The older monk looked at the younger with a loving, pitiful smile and said, "Brother, I set her down on the other side of the river; you are still carrying her."
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https://www.fisheaters.com/twomonks.html
 
Then you can be proud of your effort and promptly move on.

See, that's where I've experienced a lot of problems - I found I couldn't change a situation or a person, and although I thought I moved on I was still carrying the baggage of my failure. It wasn't until I learned to toss that baggage into the garbage that I was truly freed.

Since Merlin brought up Buddhist thought in another thread, here's a Zen story that illustrates my point ...


https://www.fisheaters.com/twomonks.html

Always loved that one Phil, says it all really!
 
Then you can be proud of your effort and promptly move on.

See, that's where I've experienced a lot of problems - I found I couldn't change a situation or a person, and although I thought I moved on I was still carrying the baggage of my failure. It wasn't until I learned to toss that baggage into the garbage that I was truly freed.

Since Merlin brought up Buddhist thought in another thread, here's a Zen story that illustrates my point ...


https://www.fisheaters.com/twomonks.html

Always happy to agree with DW. Very good. Three word summary; "Let it go." Simple, but impossible for so many.
 
Thanks all..... I'm glad to see I was not alone... I tried dropping some casual hints, but those were ignored and laughed. Since I have never been the type to just not say anything when something bothers me... and apparently many others... I spoke up.... If that makes me the...

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So be it. But that was not my intention.

"Badges? We don't need no stinkin badges!" Credit: Blazing Saddles.
 
I wouldn't normally say anything, but I have found all the flirty banter, that seems to infect a lot of threads, annoying and boring too.I thought it was just me, but it seems not.A little of it now and again is alright, but there has been a lot.What I don't understand is why Merlin started this thread, as it has not had the reaction he may have expected?It's no big thing in the scheme of things, but I liked this forum because up to recently, it was friendly, but just that and nothing more.Perhaps we can just have a little less of it, and move on now?However, it's a democratic forum and if others want it, then that is what will happen .

It has had exactly the result I expected, I sensed a simmering undercurrent of resentment to certain members and the way threads were supposedly hijacked. I always believe in excising the boil, this is what happened.

I agree with Phil it is not a democratic forum as mentioned elsewhere.
 

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