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hollydolly said:
so..it was you who gave it to @StarSong.. who is very poorly today, with a horrible sore throat as well.. I told you before to stop kissing her... 😷

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Be well Lovvely Trila..... 💐
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When you love your friends, you share everything with them!! I do tend to pass around a lot of hugs....sorry @StarSong ! I hope you feel better soon! 😘
 

StarSong said:
Sunday afternoon I started to feel wretched: chills, muscle aches, gunky throat, and a fever. By yesterday I was at 102.8 and so weak I could barely get off the couch to go to the bathroom without feeling faint. DH, my nurse extraordinaire, has been keeping me supplied with tea, toast and soup.

Feeling a little better today, but still have a fever of 100.8, and my throat is so sore that it hurts on the outside as well as the inside. I freaking HATE being sick.

OTC Cold meds cause my pancreas to spasm or whatever that excruciatingly painful thing is that happens in my upper abdomen. Tried a new cold med last night with different ingredients and paid dearly for it - the pain woke me up out of a dead sleep. If the pain/spasms lasted longer than 30 minutes, we'd call the paramedics, but they subside almost as suddenly as they appear. Until they do, they're a bitch on wheels.

So I'll just have to tough this out. :( Can take an occasional ibuprofen, but that's about it.

Obviously, today will be another couch day.
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💖 Take care....
 

I thought I was finished with my taxes, but the IRS did not accept my return. I had to add my AGI. Since my computer is hooked up to my TV, which I'm using as a monitor, viewing the entire tax program is different than all the other years I've used it. I bypassed part of the accuracy check after I went to the original interview page to fix other errors because I couldn't reach them on the form provided, even after changing the screen size. Once I corrected the AGI, my return was accepted. Whew! When the fed is not accepted, that puts the state acceptance on hold.

I talked on the phone with my oldest grandson for two and a half hours. I think that's the longest phone conversation I've ever had. Needless to say, it was a very interesting, fun one. After mentioning the issue with using my TV as a monitor, he said he'll give me a monitor he's not using (like new he said) and will bring it over Thursday. He shares the tax program with me and comes here to do his taxes,. I told him I'll consider it my birthday present. :D Like I always say...it pays to talk to people.

@Trila and @caramel I hope you will both feel better soon. 🤗
 
After yesterday's slight setback, I promised myself I wouldn't do anything intentionally stressful. I kept that promise. I did have someone tell me I was boring on the phone and then hang up, but that's another story and one that made me laugh.

It was day 9 of 11 of my online seminar. As happens every year for the past 4 years when I've watched this seminar, the topic I thought would be least helpful is the most helpful. At this point, I know most of the presenters. One of my least favorite presenters had a boring topic. But it turned out to be the most impactful. It was about secrets we keep to ourselves and how that can affect us.

Overall, a day that I got done what I set out to do, keep a promise to myself.
 
You know.. when I discovered my husbands' infidelity and the horrendous situation that transpired directly afterwards, it was the most heartbreaking time of my life. . It took a very long time for me to come to terms with it.. not get over it, cuz I'm still not over the betrayal.. which was a lot more than just the cheating... but I won't write here on an open forum the terrible events..

Anyway..it took almost 2 years for the nightmares to stop..

Now close to 3 years on.. we're now going through the divorce courts..... and I've almost returned to those first days... very upset, nightmares et al.... like it's all happening again. You'd think I'd be happy the marriage is ending, but I'm not, despite all the trauma during it .. and I just feel bereft at ''losing my husband'' all over again.. or that's how it seems.. :cry::cry:
 
Yesterday I had a regular doctor's appointment , which went well, and when I got home I remembered I have a urology appt next week so I need to get urine test at the closest lab.

During COVID this lab had odd hours and everyone hoped it would start opening more days of the week. The nurses there were busy in hospitals because of COVID.

I checked the lab hours this AM online and come to find out that they had moved- to the lab right in the same medical commons I was in yesterday with my doctor! I could have easily gotten the urine test Yesterday! It is a little further than where it used to be, but I am so glad I checked on line.

I got most of what I needed at TOPs yesterday but will probably stop in there again anyhow-

In a few minutes I am starting a chicken stew in my crock pot, putting my garbage into the bin, and maybe just relaxing when I get above things done and can get back home.

It will be sporadically raining today, and in the high 50's, and the pollen count will be low.:) Good !-I have plenty of allergies.:(

I hope you all are going to have a great day!
 
HollyDolly, it is often Very hard to get over the trauma of divorce. But we cannot allow it to control us-and you are, by far, better off, without a husband like that. You have a lot of strength!

Divorce can be so much like the death of a spouse. I feel it is normal to have to revisit it, and to even be sad, even though the marriage was detrimental to you, but it can be devastating. Yet I know you can overcome the loss. You are better off!!!!!!!!
 
dilettante said:
Having been through two versions of this in my life, I can understand the grieving. I'm just happy they are so far in my past now that the pain is gone and I have adapted and moved on. At the same time I know all too well that it can happen again.
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I have been divorced once... when I was young.. and left with a child to raise on my own. It was upsetting but I knew I was better off without him and moved on easily emotionally...and got on with my life

this one however is very different to that one . I've been married for 23 years.. and I never thought I'd be going into my senior years without him.... he is a good man sometimes.. and I should be concentrating on all the bad he did ..instead of missing the good part of him, and I might not be feeling so upset over it all..

.. but my mind just won't work like that unfortunately.. it's is like grieving all over again.. for someone whose died, and yet they're very much alive. The fact that he's caused me not only emotional distress for so long.. also the horrible upheaval of having to deal with professionals because of his actions.. and now the high cost of legal services ... just adds to the frustration and hurt..



Thank you to all of you who have PM'd me I'm lucky to have such caring friends here .. 🤗
 
caramel said:
After yesterday's slight setback, I promised myself I wouldn't do anything intentionally stressful. I kept that promise. I did have someone tell me I was boring on the phone and then hang up, but that's another story and one that made me laugh.

It was day 9 of 11 of my online seminar. As happens every year for the past 4 years when I've watched this seminar, the topic I thought would be least helpful is the most helpful. At this point, I know most of the presenters. One of my least favorite presenters had a boring topic. But it turned out to be the most impactful. It was about secrets we keep to ourselves and how that can affect us.

Overall, a day that I got done what I set out to do, keep a promise to myself.
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caramel, what is the title of your seminar. I missed that.
 
hollydolly said:
You know.. when I discovered my husbands' infidelity and the horrendous situation that transpired directly afterwards, it was the most heartbreaking time of my life. . It took a very long time for me to come to terms with it.. not get over it, cuz I'm still not over the betrayal.. which was a lot more than just the cheating... but I won't write here on an open forum the terrible events..

Anyway..it took almost 2 years for the nightmares to stop..

Now close to 3 years on.. we're now going through the divorce courts..... and I've almost returned to those first days... very upset, nightmares et al.... like it's all happening again. You'd think I'd be happy the marriage is ending, but I'm not, despite all the trauma during it .. and I just feel bereft at ''losing my husband'' all over again.. or that's how it seems.. :cry::cry:
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I'm sorry. The whole thing has to be heartbreaking. 😔
 
hollydolly said:
I have been divorced once... when I was young.. and left with a child to raise on my own. It was upsetting but I knew I was better off without him and moved on easily emotionally...and got on with my life

this one however is very different to that one . I've been married for 23 years.. and I never thought I'd be going into my senior years without him.... he is a good man sometimes.. and I should be concentrating on all the bad he did ..instead of missing the good part of him, and I might not be feeling so upset over it all..

.. but my mind just won't work like that unfortunately.. it's is like grieving all over again.. for someone whose died, and yet they're very much alive. The fact that he's caused me not only emotional distress for so long.. also the horrible upheaval of having to deal with professionals because of his actions.. and now the high cost of legal services ... just adds to the frustration and hurt..



Thank you to all of you who have PM'd me I'm lucky to have such caring friends here .. 🤗
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I went went thru the same thing on my first marriage.so I feel for you.one of the worse things about it will still had the same friends.and I thought it was all my fault for a long time untill I realized it was equally. I know you have been told over and over you will eventually get over it and you will.so keep your head up and remember you will always be in our thoughts.
 
What a day. If spring is just around the corner, it's well hidden. It's freezing here, mainly due to the strong winds. We've finished the decorating for the time being, so this morning we went into town to pay for the lounge suite we ordered and arrange for its delivery. That's us broke now, but it will be nice to have sofas that don't sag.

It was budget day here in the UK. Our daughters should benefit from some cut in National insurance contributions, but there's little in the way of good news for us pensioners.
 

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