Anyone joined a dating site what are your experiences?

How interesting. Your going to Columbia, South America to have your dental implants finished.? That is really interesting. I need a lot of work in that area. It is getting to that point. It is really expensive here, and I don't have insurance for dental. I was gonna take it as best I can, just keep losing teeth. The trip down there costs a lot though. That would be tough, and come to think of it. Having the medical stuff I am already going through would make leaving this local kind of stupid, and real inconvenient. :)
 

Paco Dennis said:
How interesting. Your going to Columbia, South America to have your dental implants finished.? That is really interesting. I need a lot of work in that area. It is getting to that point. It is really expensive here, and I don't have insurance for dental. I was gonna take it as best I can, just keep losing teeth. The trip down there costs a lot though. That would be tough, and come to think of it. Having the medical stuff I am already going through would make leaving this local kind of stupid, and real inconvenient. :)
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Yes, I got a quote here in the US. Crazy expensive. I have already completed my first phase of the implants. teeth pulled , two bone graphs, two implants . And I got a full set of dentures to last until my implants are finished. Next month I go back for five more implants, wait 3 months and finished. I opted for every tooth implant. Great prices and very affordable. I saved about 35K and I am very pleased with the work.
 
Dating Sites are what you make it. The freebie sites lure in those who are looking, cheating, curious, or want a quick fix. One has to be on their toes and guard. I find those you pay for keep some of those undesirable people out.

I, myself got close to 2-people from dating sites, but our time-frame was a bit off, thus breaking up. Onto the next one with hope??? Does the cycle end???? The older we get, the less of a crop to pick from.
 

I agree with Vicky, in relation, to her comment on dating sites you pay to use. I have met some interesting people over the years via online dating. But you need to stay away from the free-to-use ones. They are a trap.
 
Wow! I feel like I could write a book on dating sites (based on my experiences)!
I go on dating sites because like most, I am lonely, looking for companionship, or the love of my life.

I found this to be true:
Free Dating Sites -- have a large amt of married spouses looking for an affair or hookup. To some, it's just a game. The quality of people are on the lower side.
---- In the past, these freebie sites had no regulating quality abt them. More recently, they are a making newly applicants take a current photo of themselves, which leave me out because I have no camera on my desktop.

Paid Dating Sites -- seem better, however the fees can add up over time. After all, they are out to make money. They charge extra for this or that(filtering, getting noticed by more people, etc).
------ It seems like both parties (sender and receiver) must be paid members, or the message is not readable to the receiver, or the sender cannot send the message. People are able to join for "free", which I feel/think should be on a limited time frame. Seeing other photos becomes disappointing when the other does not reply.
----- Renewing is automatic, at the new rates.
----- Dropping membership or deleting the acct is difficult, or made complex. Your pic and profile could be up for another 6-mons before they remove it. One site said they will keep the pic and profile in their database, in case I change my mind. If you are a skeptic, then this brings on distrust that they are using it for other sites.

All Dating Sites -- seem to have this "like" icon to click. It does not mean a contact has been made, or will be made.
---- I find at my age the quantity of potential matches are slim (no matter what dating site it is).
---- Pics are usually 5 - 10 yrs ago. Recent pics are rare.
---- Several dating sites can be own by 1 company. Just different titles.
---- The member is bombard by emails from the dating site. And most never read the profile one takes so much time to write.
---- Desktop computer dating sites are becoming fewer in number. They don't do desktop sites much anymore. Everything is moving toward the Cell Phone apps.

Meetup Groups --- great if you live in a large populated city. I live in a town, so I must travel to a meetup group.
I have join approx 10 meetup groups, which all fell apart within a yr or 2.


There is hope for Dating Sites. My pen-pal met her husband 10-yrs ago (still together). Other couples got together through a dating site. I met a man on a site and we were friends for 4-yrs before it ended. Recently, I have just joined another dating site, hoping to find companionship, and to fill my void in my life. Wish me luck. LOL.
Cons of dating sites: It's a crap shoot. After spending a lot of money, there is no guarantee you will find someone.
---- It's frustrating and disappointing, to make so much effort and come up empty handed.
 
hollydolly said:
@Vicky ..are you in the US or the UK?..or where ?
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I agree with everything @Vicky says based on my experience.

I dated 10 different people while in my 50s. The 10th one was a good fire sign connection. We dated for 4 years and never once had a bad date.

But I didn't want a marriage and that was important to her so we let it go.

More recently I joined Our Time, Match, and maybe one other. OT and Match were identical interfaces and owned by the same company.

They are more of a money hustle now than years ago. I quit all 3 sites within a week because there are less people than there used to be in my estimation and the sites were very expensive for what they offered. Plus, I realized I'm not missing anything by not dating anymore. I like being a crabby old man.
 
Every so often I would re-enable or recreate profiles. Match used to be, and maybe still is the most professional site.

But to a large extent, same ladies, same 10 year old pictures. More than half are in a political group that would not match with me. Half of what's left wants a travel partner, and I don't have the funds, time, or interest in that now. Half of what's left want someone who is vulnerable (yuck). Now half of what's left wants to go dancing 🕺. This pie is getting very small.
 
Lawrence00 said:
Every so often I would re-enable or recreate profiles. Match used to be, and maybe still is the most professional site.

But to a large extent, same ladies, same 10 year old pictures. More than half are in a political group that would not match with me. Half of what's left wants a travel partner, and I don't have the funds, time, or interest in that now. Half of what's left want someone who is vulnerable (yuck). Now half of what's left wants to go dancing 🕺. This pie is getting very small.
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LOL..Lawrence.. so you don't like half the ladies politics..... you don't like to dance.. you don't want to travel.. you don't have time or spare money.... you don't want to show your vulnerable side...


i think you should keep that pie all to yourself.... :sneaky::ROFLMAO:
 
OldFeller said:
I agree with everything @Vicky says based on my experience.

I dated 10 different people while in my 50s. The 10th one was a good fire sign connection. We dated for 4 years and never once had a bad date.

But I didn't want a marriage and that was important to her so we let it go.

More recently I joined Our Time, Match, and maybe one other. OT and Match were identical interfaces and owned by the same company.

They are more of a money hustle now than years ago. I quit all 3 sites within a week because there are less people than there used to be in my estimation and the sites were very expensive for what they offered. Plus, I realized I'm not missing anything by not dating anymore. I like being a crabby old man.
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I have heard so many opinions about dating sites on here.. and off here. and 99% of them are unfavourable... so I am not going to even bother joining one..:D
 
Lawrence00 said:
Every so often I would re-enable or recreate profiles. Match used to be, and maybe still is the most professional site.

But to a large extent, same ladies, same 10 year old pictures. More than half are in a political group that would not match with me. Half of what's left wants a travel partner, and I don't have the funds, time, or interest in that now. Half of what's left want someone who is vulnerable (yuck). Now half of what's left wants to go dancing 🕺. This pie is getting very small.
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Yes, it does seem that way. I see that too. A lot looking for traveling companions, and the other 1/2 make it sound like I would be dating a gym. I feel like I am reading resumes or job applications to date someone. The amount of people our age there are withering away.
 
Vicky said:
Yes, it does seem that way. I see that too. A lot looking for traveling companions, and the other 1/2 make it sound like I would be dating a gym. I feel like I am reading resumes or job applications to date someone. The amount of people our age there are withering away.
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perhaps there should be ''friend zone website''.. where people can search for a platonic friend to meet up with, vacation with or any of the things people might be looking for in a friend...
 
hollydolly said:
I'm considering joining a Senior dating site for over 60's.. ..it's not that I want to find a long term relationship... I would just like to find a casual friend basically... Nowdays there's no going down the pub or to a dance hall and meeting a guy like we did in our youth.. and now o/h's been gone almost 2 years it's time for me to start thinking about having a bit of a life before I get too much older... but I have no experience of dating sites per se.. except for some of the horror stories you read about people meeting weirdos and potential axe murderers...

So.. has anyone joined a dating site.. what were your experiences.. and thoughts..
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hollydolly said:
perhaps there should be ''friend zone website''.. where people can search for a platonic friend to meet up with, vacation with or any of the things people might be looking for in a friend...
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A guy would have to be pretty desperate. There's no upside for him. And if he's in a relationship his other half would never tolerate such a thing.

But maybe you meant a site for single knitters, quilters, cat fanciers, etc.
 
dilettante said:
A guy would have to be pretty desperate. There's no upside for him. And if he's in a relationship his other half would never tolerate such a thing.

But maybe you meant a site for single knitter's, quilters, cat fanciers, etc.
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I don't know if you're being deliberately obtuse, or just always provocative I think you are the latter

There are many men who are celibate who would like just friends.. whether male or female... equally many females who don't want intimate relationships...
 
hollydolly said:
There are many men who are celibate who would like just friends.. whether male or female... equally many females who don't want intimate relationships...
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Ok, fair enough, that's what you believe. But I doubt many men would be satisfied with this. It's like working a difficult job for no pay.

If it's pretty common though then why would a web site be needed?
 
hollydolly said:
There's nothing more common than dating..... so why is a dating site needed ?...
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hollydolly said:
perhaps there should be ''friend zone website''.. where people can search for a platonic friend to meet up with, vacation with or any of the things people might be looking for in a friend...
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As you have mentioned friends rather than dates, it doesn't really matter if the group is mixed or not. It is a shame that you do not have any groups within a reasonable distance from your home as you have a couple of hobbies which are popular - photography and gardening - but, I guess you have already explored and found there are no groups already available.

The one tip I do have about joining sites like Meetup is to use a separate email account. I was glad I did because, I got so much spam.
 
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hollydolly said:
I don't know if you're being deliberately obtuse, or just always provocative I think you are the latter

There are many men who are celibate who would like just friends.. whether male or female... equally many females who don't want intimate relationships...
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There was a girl that I befriended in my early teens, with whom I would become lifelong friends with. She was the lady I posted about recently, the one who married an American and settled down in Savannah, Georgia. My wife and I visited them almost every year for well over twenty years. My wife got on famously with her.

It's quite insulting to imply that men want more than platonic friendship when they befriend a female. The treasured memory of that lady and richness of our friendship, makes the mourning of her passing feel more like the loss of a relative.
 

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