Remy
Well-known Member
- Location
- California, USA
We had to ask "may I be excused" from the dinner table. We also ate stupid early like 4pm because that's what my mother, the ruler, wanted.
We had to "check in" constantly if we were released from the house and yard. Sometimes as often as 10-15 minutes. I know at that time, Santa Cruz, California was like a live slasher movie with all the murders, but WT actual F. And I know now, it wasn't safety, it was control.
People would comment on how polite we were as kids, no adult stranger at the checkout, that was fear.
We were often not released from the yard for weeks with "one week won't hurt you." Repeat next week. Stupid amount of chores. Kids can and should help but an 8 YO scrubbing the floor on their hands and knees and then being told it wasn't good enough and do again is BS.
We couldn't put our feet on the back of the car seat in the back seat. We couldn't wear shoes in the house and always had to wear slippers. I don't wear shoes in the house but I'm always barefoot unless it's cold.
We had to "check in" constantly if we were released from the house and yard. Sometimes as often as 10-15 minutes. I know at that time, Santa Cruz, California was like a live slasher movie with all the murders, but WT actual F. And I know now, it wasn't safety, it was control.
People would comment on how polite we were as kids, no adult stranger at the checkout, that was fear.
We were often not released from the yard for weeks with "one week won't hurt you." Repeat next week. Stupid amount of chores. Kids can and should help but an 8 YO scrubbing the floor on their hands and knees and then being told it wasn't good enough and do again is BS.
We couldn't put our feet on the back of the car seat in the back seat. We couldn't wear shoes in the house and always had to wear slippers. I don't wear shoes in the house but I'm always barefoot unless it's cold.