Seniors, How Is Your "Love" Life?

SeaBreeze

SeaBreeze

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We've been married for almost 38 years now, and our love life is still going strong, although it has slowed down a little bit, not like it was at the age of 30. Many people as they age have difficulties in the bedroom, and their 'love life' diminishes, thankfully we're both still able to enjoy each other with no physical interruptions.

How is your love life going, any major issues in expressing your feelings for one another in a sexual way? There are some natural ways to overcome problems without resorting to dangerous drugs like ******. If we started having problems, I'd seek out natural alternatives for sure.
 

Good luck Falcon, we'll be waiting to hear from you! :bigwink:
 

Still going strong after 48+ years together. Definitely not the frequency as in our 30`s-but then the frequency in our 30`s wasn`t what it was in our teens either ;) No ****** needed either,although nothing wrong with help if it`s needed. I agree SB,natural alternatives would be the first thing to try. As I`ve said before,the group we hang out with are in their late 30`s,early40`s. They are always trying to figure out if we still ummmmm,you know. When they figure out that we do,they are A) Shocked (that makes me laugh) and B) Thrilled for us. Gives them hope,I guess LOL.
 
Pappy said:
Well, it takes me all night to do what I use to do all night, and sometimes a little help is needed. There are many ways to improve ones performance and you shouldn't be ashamed to try them.
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Yep! And we`re all gonna die eventually anyway, so may as well have fun on the way!
 
I'm a monk - what am I even doing on this thread? :rolleyes:

I'll leave you all with the words of the immortal Ms. Turner ...

What's love got to do with it?
What's love but a second-hand emotion ...
 
Hmm, how about some of you providing details for us who can only live vicariously now...
 
SifuPhil said:
I'm a monk - what am I even doing on this thread? :rolleyes:

I'll leave you all with the words of the immortal Ms. Turner ...

What's love got to do with it?
What's love but a second-hand emotion ...
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I'll second this post.. :D

Phil, you've always had a way with words.
 
When the physical restrictions (shoulder injury/pain) are gone, we'll see what happens. The word "arthritis", and words relating to it, sure can affect an older person's "love life". Wife and I are still "romantic", but not that way.......for now, anyway. My wife totally understands and that really helps!

Years ago, when I was single/divorced, I would joke with a woman and tell her my favorite song was "All Night Long" by Lionel Richie! Actually, back then I WASN'T joking!
 
LOL, glad I found this thread, what a hoot! But I am questioning whether or not I could ever live with a man again. I so admire those that have had lasting relationships. And good ones at that:) I recently met a guy from highschool again, and he is eager to meet me in person, back in our hometown where he lives. I suppose I will go for it, but I do wonder how many like me, can be "part of" a couple after such a long time single.
 
Denise, I think I can relate. I enjoy the company of men, but have lived alone for a long time. After raising kids on my own, and caring for my mother, my caretaker days are done. When my kids have their own, I will babysit from time to time. The

problem I have found with relationships, is, all too often, men are accustomed to living a certain way, with traditional women who cater to them. Hmm. I see myself as a partner, not a maid. Lolol. Also, some are uncomfortable discussing anything


remotely emotional, which leaves me sentenced to solitary confinement in my head. I did meet one guy who looked promising, but he died in a car accident. I date, have fun, have platonic male friends as well. I know the type of person with whom I am

compatible. If I am fortunate to meet someone like that again, I would be pleased to explore the possibility of a relationship,
even living together. I don't think I am selfish, just not needy. I am finally able to balance attraction with compatibility. I won't

settle for less than I deserve to avoid being alone, nor will I allow fear to prevent me from taking a chance with someone who seems to fit. My advice, go slowly, trust your instincts, but don't allow fear of change to limit your possibilities. You are a lovely

person who deserves a chance at happiness, in whatever way works for you.
 
Shalimar said:
... I don't think I am selfish, just not needy.
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If I may ...

I think that line may be one of the most important in a relationship of any kind.

"Selfish" has gotten a bum rap over the years, but the truth is that you have to look out for yourself first. With the very rare exception of being in a storybook romance where your partner is willing to sacrifice themselves for you, itself an unbalanced equation, the only person who will ever have your best interests in mind is yourself.

That being said, yes, sharing time together can be pleasant enough if both parties know what to expect, which I've always believed to be the reason for dating - to check out that compatibility.

That's why things like speed dating really frost my pumpkin - you're supposed to determine "yes" or "no" based on a one-minute "interview"? C'mon ... some people can go for years without ever really taking the time to know their partners.
 
Yep, the loneliest experience of my life was living for twelve years with my son's father. To this day, I have no idea who he really is. Scary stuff for an empathetic person who can usually relate to almost anyone.
 
Some people I guess you can just never really know. I lived with my wife for 15 years and as it turns out I never really knew her either. At least not in the way it really counted.
 

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