Are You a Hugger

There was no hugging in my family, I can't even remember one time in my life my mom ever gave me a hug, funny I can't even remember anybody ever hugging me growing up.

I do hug people occasionally now, but it feels forced, on my part.

I should try it more I guess.
 
Love hugging. My family didn't hug much, either, but I guess most didn't back then. I do believe it does a body good!! :)
 
We didn't hug much in my family either that I can remember growing up. I tend to naturally hug a coworker, neighbor, friend who's giving me some bad news of someone dying, etc. One gal who I used to just say Hi to at the dog park was without one of her dogs one day, when I asked her about it, she had already been crying and told me the story...of course I hugged her immediately, and we had a talk. If I get together with family members or friends I haven't seen in a long time, a greeting hug is common.
 
Of course, there are several types of hugs ...


  • the "family" hug
  • the "friend" hug
  • the "long-time-no-see" hug
  • the "goodbye" hug
  • the "goodbye-I'm-going-to-jail" hug
  • the "pet" hug
  • the "Geeze-you're-so-hot-but-I-know-I'm-supposed-to-be-just-a-friend" hug :uncomfortableness:
 
SeaBreeze said:
We didn't hug much in my family either that I can remember growing up. I tend to naturally hug a coworker, neighbor, friend who's giving me some bad news of someone dying, etc. One gal who I used to just say Hi to at the dog park was without one of her dogs one day, when I asked her about it, she had already been crying and told me the story...of course I hugged her immediately, and we had a talk. If I get together with family members or friends I haven't seen in a long time, a greeting hug is common.
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Ok, maybe it is time to call my therapist. Because I am that way with people under those circumstances, but as far as having a huggy warm family, er I have no idea what that would be like.
 
Neither a big hugger nor touchy-feely. Sometimes, the folks who over do it give me the creeps...

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Not much hugging in our home, the odd comforting one early on maybe, but there were a sprinkling of serial huggers through the family. The odd constrictor Aunt etc. I hated it. Doesn't come natural to me at all. (Except for small furry mammals...oh God! Nooooooooo! )
 
Everyone in the park is a Hugger down here. I guess we all think to ourselves that we better give a hug, because most of us old farts haven't a clue if tomorrow is the day. When I was younger and a little wild, I hugged the toilet a few times. But I would much rather hug a warm body.;)
 
I was never hugged when small by my parents or told they loved me, it is quite different with my daughters they have been hugged and told they are loved constantly, every time we speak on the phone we tell each other we love them and when i see them we have big big hugs:bighug:
 
It must have been a sign of the times as I can't remember being hugged by my parents or grandparents......
I was an only child and I know they loved me and I them but can't remember any relatives hugging either....

:dunno:

Hubby and I hug of course.....we tell our 2 sons we love them and always give them and their partners big hugs and kisses every time we see them....
:bighug:
 
SifuPhil said:
Of course, there are several types of hugs ...


  • the "family" hug
  • the "friend" hug
  • the "long-time-no-see" hug
  • the "goodbye" hug
  • the "goodbye-I'm-going-to-jail" hug
  • the "pet" hug
  • the "Geeze-you're-so-hot-but-I-know-I'm-supposed-to-be-just-a-friend" hug :uncomfortableness:
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(You are so funny!) Of all the ones you mentioned, I'm exclusively the "goodbye-I'm-going-to-jail hug" type. If you're not on your way to the slammer, don't expect a hug from me! But that's a lot of hugs as everyone I know is arrested on a regular basis. And this should be in the liar's thread! LOL

I think we've discussed before that the previous generations simply didn't hug. It just wasn't done that much by anyone as we were growing up. WE began the hugging generation and it's a beautiful thing!!! Nothing like a good supportive & caring hug when things are really good or really bad. I hug my family, my friends, and in some circumstances where it's called for..I hug people I don't even know that well -- if they are in a bad place and could use one. I'm sure it's very common everywhere, but in the south I see all kinds of hugs being given all day long, even men hugging men...and they're straight! It's a guy hug, but it's a hug. We love those hugs! They are good for the soul!
 
Since I've lost my "main-squeeze" this past year, as my husband always called himself. .. my doggies get lots of hugs daily!
It's just a good feeling. .. and yes, so is laughter. I think it helps to keep you healthy.
 
I remember back in 1981 in New York City when AIDS first appeared - no one was sure of how it was transmitted, and as a result all the usual sights of people hugging friends and family suddenly seemed to disappear. People were even cringing away from each other on the subways and as they walked down the street.
 
I'm a non hugger. I'm thinking that hugging was not done when I was young because deodorants had not been invented yet.
The only time I hug spontaneously is to express condolences at a funeral, usually because I'm at a loss for words.

I love to cuddle children, usually while reading from a story book.
 
An ex workmate was a huggy kissy person. She'd turn up at get-togethers and spread her DNA over everyone after a beer or three. Then we found out she was carrying HepC! We stopped inviting her. Nothing was said among us but we must have all thought the same thing as everyone 'forgot' to mention upcoming 'dos' to her after that. She was a fun person but that huggy thing? Nup, sorry.
Friendship only stretches so far and 3 beers made her forget she wasn't supposed to get huggy and kissy and sample other people's drinks, it was just her nature.
 
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