One foot in the grave!

At this age, regardless of our health, we all face the same incurable disease. Its called arithmetic. At 82, I think about death every day. I've lost a son and my wife within the past year. Managing to amuse myself, but life isn't what it used to be, for sure. It feels sort of .like reading a magazine in the waiting room, while waiting to be called for your appointment. :devil:

I am not afraid of death. I am worried about how to get there. Wish I had a button to push. Hoping to drop with a thud on my living room floor and not be found for three days.
As a non-believer, not interested in getting into Heaven or worried about going to Hell. Looking forward to a long nap.
 

Are yo kidding? I love living alone and doing what I want when I want!
 

I hear you, Ralphy. There is a plus side to everything. I have noted people who have had the most loving, long term relationships that they truly cherished go out and buy new furniture right after their spouse died, or mention how much more closet space they have. Circumstances alter cases. To be happy alone, you have to be healthy, and not have mobility problems.
After sharing my life for over half a century, my right arm misses a back to rub and a hand to hold. When something funny happens, its much funnier if someone laughs with you. I get your point, though. "Its an ill wind that blows no good."
 
I have thoughts the same as most of you and I dare say that everyone does. With some people it may send them over the edge dwelling on the idea of nothing to look forward too, after all nobody has ever come back and said there is life after death.

Heaven/Hell has no place or meaning for me. I believe in the here and now, I am an Atheist and for what its worth I think when my eyes are closed for the last time there will be nothing, no feelings, no sight of a bright light, stairway to the Pearly Gates etc.

Think about this.....Before you were born, have you any recollection of a previous life. I guess the answer is no.....so why would there be an afterlife. If those who believe there is an afterlife then they must believe they were reincarnated to this life and the circle will go on.

Then you have a certain percentage that believe we will be reincarnated back as an animal, what happens when that animal dies, do that percentage think we will be reincarnated to a fish, reptile, insect or an invertebrate.

I was born from the love of a man and woman, I came into this world the same as the rest of you (knowing nothing), Living is how you adapt yourself and learn to enjoy it. When its over it`s over. So whilst I`m here I intend to make the most out of the gift my parents give me. LIFE.
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AZQxH_8raCI This song is kinda joyful to me, don't ask me why.

I hope when my time comes, it will be like my husband did - fast as he just drifted off in my arms. A few minutes of looking weak and me insisting to take him to the hospital. He was pulling funny faces at me to make me laugh mere minutes before he breathed his last. I believe in a Supreme Universal Being.
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AZQxH_8raCI This song is kinda joyful to me, don't ask me why.

I hope when my time comes, it will be like my husband did - fast as he just drifted off in my arms. A few minutes of looking weak and me insisting to take him to the hospital. He was pulling funny faces at me to make me laugh mere minutes before he breathed his last. I believe in a Supreme Universal Being.

I don't share your view on any supreme power, but how I would love to go as your husband did. My sincere sympathy to you for your loss.
 
My son recently asked me how I feel about death now that I'm getting older - am I frightened or worried. I could honestly tell him that I'm neither - I've reached the stage where I accept that it is inevitable - I have to die sometime. I am hoping though that I go quickly.
Agree totally with you, grannyjo!
A few times this year I thought it was my turn to enter the "Pearly Gates", but again with massive help and encouragement I was pushed to the end of the line.(queue)
 
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I've been married to the same man for over half a century. If he were not here I would not seek to replace him and I would probably enjoy the experience of living alone for a while. I would however get a cat to talk to. If able, I would also take off on little solo adventures. There is still a lot of the world I haven't explored yet.

If I could no longer live by myself, I would rather move into supported accommodation than live with either of my children. I enjoy company and community living doesn't seem too bad an option.
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AZQxH_8raCI This song is kinda joyful to me, don't ask me why.

I hope when my time comes, it will be like my husband did - fast as he just drifted off in my arms. A few minutes of looking weak and me insisting to take him to the hospital. He was pulling funny faces at me to make me laugh mere minutes before he breathed his last. I believe in a Supreme Universal Being.

Funny Luking4frens, I like that song too, and once said here that it's what I would have played at my funeral (if I had a funeral, which I won't). My condolences for the loss of your husband. :rose:
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AZQxH_8raCI This song is kinda joyful to me, don't ask me why.

I hope when my time comes, it will be like my husband did - fast as he just drifted off in my arms. A few minutes of looking weak and me insisting to take him to the hospital. He was pulling funny faces at me to make me laugh mere minutes before he breathed his last. I believe in a Supreme Universal Being.

I've always loved that song, too -- and it IS joyful! I've always wondered how they made that background sound.

My condolences on the loss of your husband.
 
I've always wondered how they made that background sound.

I don't know the lingo Butterfly because I don't play instruments, but they explain some about the background sounds of that song on Wikipedia.


According to one source and to DaShiell, Greenbaum used a Fender Telecaster with a fuzz box built into the body to generate the song's characteristic guitar sound.

Moreover, DaShiell
explained how he created the song's distinctive "beeping" fills:"I actually played the lead guitar parts on Spirit, using a 61-62 SG Les Paul, a 68 Marshall Plexi 100w half stack and a home-made overdrive box in front of the Marshall.

Regarding the 'beep beeps' as I call them, when the producer asked me to play some fills in between the verses, as a joke I said how about something spacey like this and I did the pickup switch/string bending thing.

I saw him stand up in the control booth and he said "that's it! let's record that!" so we did. (There was no slide involved, just my fingers, and I used the bridge humbucker and the pickup switch).

The fuzz part is Norman with a built-in overdrive circuit built into his Tele pickguard.""I've been asked a lot over the years how I did the 'beep beep' guitar parts on Spirit, so for any guitar players out there who would like to learn how, try the following: Using a 2-pickup Gibson, set the neck pickup volume to zero, bridge pickup volume to max, with the pickup switch in the middle position (with Gibson wiring this gives you silence in the middle position).

Do a string bend, picking the B & E strings together with one hit, just ahead of the beat, then use the pickup switch to kick in the bridge pickup in triplets (6 per bar) as you let the B string bend down two frets.""I mainly used two positions on Spirit, which is in the key of A. For the low position, fret a stationary C note (8th fret) on the E string while bending the B string up to an A note for your starting-position, then pick the two strings together once while the guitar is silent and work the pickup switch as you let the A note bend downwards to a G.

For the high position, do the same thing at the 15th fret holding a stationary high G note on the E string while bending down from E to D on the B string.""I must give credit to Jimi Hendrix as my inspiration for this technique (as well as for the double-string riffs I did at the beginning of the Spirit solo tail section). I saw him perform live in a small club in Madison, Wisconsin and loved the way he used his Strat pickup switch to create staccato feedback on songs like Voodoo Child.

The difference is, on a Gibson you can start from silence and create the on/off effect, which worked well with the downward string bending thing I did on Spirit."The resulting sound was an innovative and compelling combination of gospel and psychedelic rock music, with loud drums, distorted electric guitar, clapping hands, and tambourines.

The production team brought in the Stovall Sisters, an Oakland-based gospel trio, to sing backing vocals. Because of its unusual lyrics and style, the record company was initially reluctant to issue it, but was finally released as a single after two other singles from the album had poor sales. "Spirit in the Sky" became a worldwide hit, and was at the time the best-selling single ever for the Reprise label.

Of the song, Greenbaum observed: "It sounds as fresh today as when it was recorded. I’ve gotten letters from funeral directors telling me that it's their second-most-requested song to play at memorial services, next to 'Danny Boy'."
 
Funny Luking4frens, I like that song too, and once said here that it's what I would have played at my funeral (if I had a funeral, which I won't). My condolences for the loss of your husband. :rose:

Thank you Seabreeze & Butterfly too.

You know I like the idea of not having a funeral with all that expense which will not benefit my family. Buddhists believe that the body is just a husk. When we expire our soul leaves to the next life as befits our Karma. I was looking at donating my body to science. At least in death I can still be of use with the macabre thought of being cut into body chunks for study, which does come into mind. Hmmmmmmm!:cool::love_heart:
 
This topic is not meant to be too gloomy and humour is encouraged.
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If you are anything like me, the older you get the faster and faster the days seem to fly by, and one can't help thinking that the final curtain is looming larger with each passing week. Does this thought make you scared, or do you face it with equanimity?

I am avoiding cliff tops as my kids are awaiting the day I get too senile so they can launch me off one!
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Seriously though, I want to go into the last goodnight without too much suffering, and totally cease to be. I hope I haven't been in error in my belief that this life is all there is, and the afterlife is a figment of the human imagination.

I just want to have enough advance notice so that I can clear the porn searches from my browsing history.

Other than that, I have three grand kids. That's enough to pass the DNA baton. And when you come right down to it, isn't that what it's all about?
 
The Grim Reaper is surely coming, but I don't want to know when. My mother passed at 91, she went to bed and didn't wake up. That is the preferred way.
 
My only fear about dying is about pain management. Hopefully my hubby or kids will see to it that I am comfortable until the end. I also hope they will respect my wishes as to me not wanting any drastic measures taken to prolong my life. I do have a living will stating this. I don't want to hear about new treatments for this or that. I saw my Mom go through 3 rounds of chemo and nothing helped. She just got weaker and more miserable. I also hope my kids are settled and happy in their lives. Then I can die in peace.
 
My,my, suppose we all lived before and died, and this is hell?
 


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