Do you like the person you see in the mirror?

[Warrigal]

I don't much like the face on the various ID photos that I have - passport, drivers licence, club memberships etc.
I barely relate to her at all. She is expressionless, emotionless.
However, the woman who looks back at me each day from the bathroom mirror is like a friend.
My response is to smile at her, and she smiles back at me.
This makes me feel good.

This is quite ridiculous, I know, but I assure you it wasn't always this way.
The friendship has only developed as we have both grown older.

I have been pondering this remarkable relationship for some time now and I have been wondering why it is so.

Perhaps it is because I am looking more and more like my mother. I liked her a lot. It is good to see her image in our faces.

Perhaps, now that I am past worrying about my looks, I am just content to be an old woman with laughter lines around my eyes and a few whiskers on my chin. I have learned to feel comfortable about my appearance, and the woman in the mirror does not rebuke me. Possibly this is the reason that we have become mirror friends instead of mirror opposites.

How do you feel about the person you see in the mirror?

 

[Keesha]

I am happy with the woman I see looking back at me when I look in the mirror but for years it wasn’t this way. I’ve struggled with self esteem issues for most of my life. Then when I reached 50 I decided I wanted to be an attractive older person so I got my teeth fixed, lost some weight, starting working out and created a personal style that I like.

Plus now that I’m older I’m ok with people not liking me and refuse to conform to other people’s standards. I’m truer to myself than I’ve ever been. I’ve got personal integrity and do the best I can do.

Years ago I went through a really horrific ordeal that left me hating myself. Its not the kind of thing you discuss in a forum. I hibernated from the world for years at a time . Eventually after much self help, I started my day waking up and smiling at myself while saying “ I love and approve of myself while my mind and my body heal each day” and I’d repeat this over & over while I walked. It took a long time but eventually I began loving and accepting myself.

If you cant love yourself first then you can’t properly love others nor can you expect others to love you.

P.S. And I like my photo ID pictures. I think I look ok especially for my age.
View attachment 61740

 

[Warrigal]

I’m truer to myself than I’ve ever been. I’ve got personal integrity and do the best I can do.

I think this does have a lot to do with it.

 

[Keesha]

I think this does have a lot to do with it.

YES indeed. It has EVERYTHING to do with it. Absolutely. I’m true to myself first. I like me from the inside out not vice versa. It makes a difference.

 

[Gary O']

He’s freaking scary in the morning
But
By night
He’s groan on me
We don’t smile at each other…just groan

We’re both good with that

He hasn’t flipped me off yet….yet

YES indeed. It has EVERYTHING to do with it. Absolutely. I’m true to myself first. I like me from the inside out not vice versa. It makes a difference.

I’m not gonna look at his insides

 

[Linda]

I like the person I see in the mirror. I don't mean physical looks, I just mean I am comfortable with myself and sometimes follow the idea Louise Hay gave out of saying "I love you" to myself as I look in the mirror. It's good for those with low self esteem, which I no longer have.

 

[jujube]

There's an wrinkled old hag who lives somewhere in my bathroom (under the sink, maybe?) and whenever I look in the mirror, she rudely jumps in front of me.

She's fat, too.

She must have a car, because she's followed me to the driver's license bureau and photobombed my picture. She interfered with my last passport picture, too.

One of these days, I'm going to catch her and lock her in the garage.

 

[Keesha]

I like the person I see in the mirror. I don't mean physical looks, I just mean I am comfortable with myself and sometimes follow the idea Louise Hay gave out of saying "I love you" to myself as I look in the mirror. It's good for those with low self esteem, which I no longer have.

Louise Hay is great for positive self affirmations and here are some other great teachers I found helpful


Echart Tolle
Byron Katie .... The Work
Marianne Williamson .... A course in Miracles
Wayne Dyer .... anything by him
Depak Chopra

 

[IKE]

I don't mind looking at the person I see in the mirror.......the road was sometimes a little bumpy and there were times that it could have gone either way but all in all I'm pretty content with the cards I was dealt and the way I ended up.

 

[Warrigal]

I sometimes talk to my mirror friend. Not is a spooky way though.
I just say Hello and smile. She responds in kind.

 

[Sassycakes]

I liked the way I looked in the mirror in my younger years. Today I just look like an older version of the younger me.

 

[treeguy64]

I wonder who the old guy is, looking back at me, in the mirror. I'm glad he (eerily) has the body of a twenty-five year old guy, but I wish his face was younger looking. As it is, his face shows character and intelligence, but he still looks pretty old, to me. We're friends, though, so I accept him as he is, and vice versa.

 

[Aunt Bea]

The mirror and I we get along.

Early in my working years, I developed a blank resting bitch face that has served me well and that is usually the first thing I see when I look in the mirror.

“Mirror becomes a razor when it's broken. A stick becomes a flute when it's loved.”― Yoko Ono

"Smile in the mirror. Do that every morning and you'll start to see a big difference in your life."- Yoko Ono

 

[911]

I once read a book titled, "The Man In the Mirror." No, it wasn't written by Michael Jackson, but nonetheless, it is a fascinating book. It is certainly a book that every police officer should read, as well as many other men.

 

[Keesha]

I once read a book titled, "The Man In the Mirror." No, it wasn't written by Michael Jackson, but nonetheless, it is a fascinating book. It is certainly a book that every police officer should read, as well as many other men.

So is that a yes or a no. nthego:

 

[hollydolly]

NO!! I try as much as I can not to look in mirrors !!

 

[Pappy]

I see a face that has aged, over the years, into a kinder, more gentle face then years ago. Through the wrinkles and the age spots, it reflects a face that has been through a lot of challenges and hardships over the years.

This 81 year old face has held up fairly good over the years......but right now it needs a shower and shave.

 

[ClassicRockr]

I look in the bathroom mirror every morning to comb my hair, as does my wife. What do we see? Two people, wife 71 and myself 69 headed to 70 and not bad looking at all for our age. Of course, my wife colors her hair and I use Just For Men Hair color on my mustache and temples. Definitely helps our looks. We both have some extra pounds on, but not really enough for our PCP's to complain about. For some, weight comes with older age, like it happened with both of us. We just aren't into that much exercise, so...…….

Bottom Line: What we see in the mirror is ok, nothing more, nothing less.

 

[Wren]

Quite happy from the neck up and the knees down.....

 

[HazyDavey]

I see a guy who was blessed with a wonderful family growing up, friends, wife, kids, and a steady job. Many life experiences to remember and draw from, with still many more to learn. I see a very grateful person..

 

[Ronni]

I like what I see. It wasn't always so. When I was younger I was so very critical of myself and didn't have a lot of self esteem, so that the very minor flaws staring back at me from the mirror seemed huge. An abusive and dysfunctional marriage with a husband who was critical of everything made that even worse.

It's only been in the last 10 years that I've come to really like who I am. These days I not only own, but celebrate all my wrinkles, age spots, tummy bulge and gray hair! Objectively I know that I'm not as physically attractive now as I was when I was young, but the way I feel about myself these days shines through the physical, age related flaws and gives me a lightness in my features that I so much prefer to the transient beauty of my youth!

 

[squatting dog]

I don't mind looking at the person I see in the mirror.......the road was sometimes a little bumpy and there were times that it could have gone either way but all in all I'm pretty content with the cards I was dealt and the way I ended up.

Amen brother. It's been a long strange trip, but,except for one bad hiccup, I wouldn't trade it.

 

[Keesha]

Nice picture squatting dog.

Warrigal I commend you for posting this thread. It takes a strong, confident women to be this truthful about herself. One who must safeguard her own integrity in order to be her authentic self.


It isn’t so much about the external looks in a vain way as much as really appreciating and celebrating the aging self and accepting oneself in all stages of life.


I’m proud of the fact that I no longer avoid mirrors like I used to. It’s difficult avoiding the bathroom mirror . Ever home has a be for a reason. It’s used to ensure food isn’t stuck between teeth, plucking unwanted hairs, putting makeup on., shaving, and thankfully my husbands no afraid to use it either. It makes living with my companion much nicer. Lol

 

[RadishRose]

Meh.

 

[CeeCee]

The inner me has stayed consistent...the outer me has aged and I used to be on the pretty side so I guess I’m not thrilled when I look in the mirror but it is what it is.

Of course there are times I look better ....hair colored and make up on but I really don’t care that much about my outward appearance anymore...I’d rather just feel good...no pain, energy etc...that’s what’s important these days.