Myquest55
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This isn't exclusively a "senior" situation but I am hoping some of you may have survived a similar experience (or know someone who has) and will have some words of wisdom to share here.
Our son (age 36) invited a friend (in his 30s) to move into his spare room. Son helped friend financially to move from TX to TN with the understanding that friend would get some counseling and find a job to help with pay the living expenses. It has been 3 years and this guy is still there - no counseling, no job and no financial assistance. He hasn't applied for SSI (disability) since counseling and a Dr's referral would be required. Son is now frustrated but doesn't want to turn friend (who has no $$) out on the streets but he cannot afford to carry this guy much longer. Friend has plenty of excuses why he cannot go back "home." Has PTSD, Anxiety, & some other issues. Son has done everything he can think of to try to help.
Son & I have agreed there should be a time limit - one has already come & gone. I would like to advise son but I don't see changes being made without a huge confrontation and he isn''t good at that........ We offered to pay for new locks and the friend's plane ticket. I thought to look up tenant/landlord laws but he hasn't paid any rent so isn't an actual tenant.
Any suggestions?
Our son (age 36) invited a friend (in his 30s) to move into his spare room. Son helped friend financially to move from TX to TN with the understanding that friend would get some counseling and find a job to help with pay the living expenses. It has been 3 years and this guy is still there - no counseling, no job and no financial assistance. He hasn't applied for SSI (disability) since counseling and a Dr's referral would be required. Son is now frustrated but doesn't want to turn friend (who has no $$) out on the streets but he cannot afford to carry this guy much longer. Friend has plenty of excuses why he cannot go back "home." Has PTSD, Anxiety, & some other issues. Son has done everything he can think of to try to help.
Son & I have agreed there should be a time limit - one has already come & gone. I would like to advise son but I don't see changes being made without a huge confrontation and he isn''t good at that........ We offered to pay for new locks and the friend's plane ticket. I thought to look up tenant/landlord laws but he hasn't paid any rent so isn't an actual tenant.
Any suggestions?