afraid to try to have a long-term relationship with a fella

Denise1952 said:
You haven't gott ACLU!! :playful::eek:nthego: That's me, hit and run;)
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Then I'll call the FBI ... or the CIA ... or, or, um, KFC!

Will you trim your beard, and wear nice clothes, and smell perdy;) :rolleyes:
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Normally I let the cat nibble on my beard to keep it looking prim and proper.

"Nice" clothes? I only have my monk outfit - all my other worldly clothing was burned by Brother Balducci when I joined the temple.

Smell perdy? Well ... I hope you like "earthy" men. The temple's shower has been broken for 6 months ...

But we could go down to the shore and throw rocks at the birds, then go back to your place and watch TV as we cuddle. No hanky-panky, honest! :rolleyes:
 

SifuPhil said:
Then I'll call the FBI ... or the CIA ... or, or, um, KFC!



Normally I let the cat nibble on my beard to keep it looking prim and proper.

"Nice" clothes? I only have my monk outfit - all my other worldly clothing was burned by Brother Balducci when I joined the temple.

Smell perdy? Well ... I hope you like "earthy" men. The temple's shower has been broken for 6 months ...

But we could go down to the shore and throw rocks at the birds, then go back to your place and watch TV as we cuddle. No hanky-panky, honest! :rolleyes:
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After hearing all that Phil, I have to be honest and say "She's just not that into You" LMBO!
 
SifuPhil said:
Darn. :(

Guess I'll have to keep looking on SpunkyMonks.com
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Denise1952 said:
I wanted to be clear on the topic, so it turned out long, but that's it. I've been alone about 18 years, but for all but the last two, I really looked for someone. Then I just got content, and felt I was over ever wanting to meet someone, but guess I still have that hope. But I met up with a guy from highschool that I always liked, but was dating another guy. We are both single now, and he is still such a nice guy. He wants us to meet, and I am afraid I will find all the things I can find, that are wrong with him:(

I feel depressed a lot since I moved into my place. It's like "thinking" everything was finally going to be ok, but I'm not ok, feel like crying, and like life stinks.

Please forgive the whine, denise
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Sounds to me like you are just not ready to meet yet. And there is nothing wrong with this...your heart will tell you when the time is right for that step. And you are still transitioning into your new place and probably still going through some grieving for what you had before (even if that wasn't the best). You have been through alot, give yourself time to finish healing and grieving and enjoy the things you do like about your new place. Happiness will come to you when you are ready for it.
 
Denise, you are one of the most resilient, strong, upbeat women I have had the privilege to know. Huge obstacles, including homelessness, during the past year, and yet you kept your chin up, were optimistic, and took the steps necessary to find your

new home. It is normal to feel a let down about your circumstances. Now, I think, the reaction to all that uncertainty and upheaval has set in. Honey, you don't need to be supergal right now, it is ok to let down your hair a bit, and cry. Mourn whatever you need to, even be a bit afraid if you want, you are so

entitled. I believe in you. When the time is right, when you are settled, and feel stronger, you may feel differently about dating
men. You may not. Either is ok. Be proud of all you have accomplished, when so many would have gone under. Be
proud of who you are. Your forum friends are. Hugs.:love_heart: You have a lot to give!
 
Babsinbloom65 said:
Sounds to me like you are just not ready to meet yet. And there is nothing wrong with this...your heart will tell you when the time is right for that step. And you are still transitioning into your new place and probably still going through some grieving for what you had before (even if that wasn't the best). You have been through alot, give yourself time to finish healing and grieving and enjoy the things you do like about your new place. Happiness will come to you when you are ready for it.
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I think you are exactly right, and thank you for your reply. Nice to meet you as well, I am more forgetful these days, but I don't think we've met;) Your words of wisdom are appreciated. I do need to give myself that time. I think I do have some things I've not let go of, and fears about relationships. No time like the present to start getting over it all;) thanks again, denise:)
 
Shalimar said:
Denise, you are one of the most resilient, strong, upbeat women I have had the privilege to know. Huge obstacles, including homelessness, during the past year, and yet you kept your chin up, were optimistic, and took the steps necessary to find your

new home. It is normal to feel a let down about your circumstances. Now, I think, the reaction to all that uncertainty and upheaval has set in. Honey, you don't need to be supergal right now, it is ok to let down your hair a bit, and cry. Mourn whatever you need to, even be a bit afraid if you want, you are so

entitled. I believe in you. When the time is right, when you are settled, and feel stronger, you may feel differently about dating
men. You may not. Either is ok. Be proud of all you have accomplished, when so many would have gone under. Be
proud of who you are. Your forum friends are. Hugs.:love_heart: You have a lot to give!
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Is that what you see?? Well, seems no one ever see's what others do, but it is sure nice when it's good stuff they see;) In reality, if I look back a bit, I see I have reached a major goal. Getting my own place again. I had lots of help along the way as far as places to stay, I was never on the street (sleeping outdoors except when I went camping for 3 weeks, pure joy as I had all my camp gear) and I never went hungry.

I think sometimes it's just fear of "what now" lol! The struggle keeps me going, and then it's over, no struggle. If I add a man to the equation, I'll certainly have more struggles I am not ready for. Like Babs said, still grieving & still not over some of the hurt feelings. I'm way better today;) When I look at the post I think "wow, I was in a totally "Altered state" LOL!! hugs, denise
 
Denise1952 said:
I think you are exactly right, and thank you for your reply. Nice to meet you as well, I am more forgetful these days, but I don't think we've met;) Your words of wisdom are appreciated. I do need to give myself that time. I think I do have some things I've not let go of, and fears about relationships. No time like the present to start getting over it all;) thanks again, denise:)
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It's nice meeting you too Denise. :)
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
If I ever met a guy who's as delicious as that looks? Sigh.

A few years ago...maybe a year after my husband died...I signed up on Match, POF, Our Time. What a waste of time, and with the exception of POF, money. Never did find anybody more than mildly interesting and not interesting enough to even bother meeting. Maybe I'm just too picky? Or maybe I'm so hidebound that if they appear to be even a bit outside convention or tradition that I reject them in advance!

Denise, have you found anybody on line that you've talked to or met for coffee? You sound to me as though you're somewhat more of a risk-taker than I am, although how much risk is there in meeting for a cup of coffee in broad daylight in a public place? LOL
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If I were single I might have trouble choosing between a man and a nice vanilla cake with cream cheese frosting. I don't care too much for chocolate cake so I'd take a guy (If he met all my criteria ) over that.
 
Linda said:
If I were single I might have trouble choosing between a man and a nice vanilla cake with cream cheese frosting. I don't care too much for chocolate cake so I'd take a guy (If he met all my criteria ) over that.
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That's just it Linda, you hit the nail on the head, lol! I had very, little criteria when I was young;) They had to be good-looking "to me" and sex-appeal. Now looking back, I wished I'd'a gone for one of the guys I wasn't attracted to. Which they were the "nice" boys, not the bad boys. Geesh, makes me kinda sad, but it is what it is;)
 
Shalimar said:
My ex baked bread, and the best cinnamon buns this side of the Rocky Mountains. He was also as beautiful as any movie star.
unfortunately, he was, and is, a sociopath. Sigh.
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Sweet of you to want to set me up with him, LOL!! With a friend like you Shal, I don't need an enema, oopsie, I mean an enemy, LMBO!!
 
Denise1952 said:
Ok, now your talkin! Which is he from right to left? They all seem to be missing some parts that are still in my criteria?
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Well, if you want to get picky ... :rolleyes:

He's the third flat bread to the right - the good-looking one. Extra parts are in the tray on the left. :playful:
 

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