Am I having wicked thoughts?

[hearlady]

@hearlady Honestly, I am good with it now, I just needed to talk it out, rationalize it and look at the whole picture and go the best route.
In the end whether it's simple or complicated it does not effect my love for each of them or my relationship. If it's a private secret to her, that's on her, all I had was a time of suspicion no facts so let it be is the best option. The bible says "Thou shall not kill" you can kill people in more ways than physically. There is mentally, spiritually, emotionally. I can't go there with this.

Yes, I could tell you were good with it. That last reply was for me to process my thoughts. I'm wicked private.

 

[MaidMarian]

My daughter did the DNA test with 23 and Me. We adopted her. She was abandoned at birth and we had absolutely no information about her background and thought it would be a good idea. We were especially concerned about any health problems that might show up.
The test was fine. Nothing unusual showed up snd we found that her heritage was French and German.
Recently; however, we read that 23 and me sold all of their data to another company and this is very concerning to us as we were told that all of the data was private info.

 

[Della]

If I'd live in the US I'd have absolutely no problems if my ancestors had slaves or not. The children and grandchildren are not responsible for the actions of their ancestors. Much less are the great grandchildren and relatives more far away.
Edit: I just discussed it with my wife and she disagrees.

I firmly believe that. My sister-in-law did a lot of ancestry work a few years ago and found some people who seemed to have been pillars of society and some who seemed to be ignorant idiots (one helped to judge whether or not a certain woman was a witch or not.) I felt a little dismay over that but not shame and I didn't take any pride in the accomplishments of the "good," ones. I give myself neither credit nor blame for anything they did.

I do wish Irish Eyes's DIL had been a little more subdued in her reaction. Because she over-reacted that little niggle of suspicion will be there even though it won't effect her love for her granddaughter -- it's there. And it may be over nothing more than the DIL had just watched a Dateline episode where the criminal was caught through the DNA bank and so DIL was just against the whole thing.

We've had some huge misunderstandings in my husband's family, started by people who "never gossip," while dropping little hints that cause others to imagine things far worse than the facts they aren't saying.