Anyone joined a dating site what are your experiences?

I have tried a few but felt out of place being that I am in my 70s. However, Flirthouse turned out to be the only site that brought me some success. It does say it is a dating site for seniors so I guess I should have used it first before trying the others.
 

OldSig said:
I have tried a few but felt out of place being that I am in my 70s. However, Flirthouse turned out to be the only site that brought me some success. It does say it is a dating site for seniors so I guess I should have used it first before trying the others.
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Welcome to the forum @OldSig. :)
 
I guess though I should also mention "Della"
"Della" responded to my profile on the senior dating site.
Enticing pose (fully clothed) on motel bed holding a martini glass.:love:
We chatted back and forth getting more info.
Then I asked Della if she wanted to use our ..... emails.... instead of the site messages.
She then replied that she had her own private email (VPN?) and that would be very good.
Then she said it would require my CREDIT CARD NUMBER to register for this spiffy private email. :LOL:

"Uh, Della, it was nice chatting with you" I replied.

Gosh....no Della in my life. 😭
 
hollydolly said:
perhaps there should be ''friend zone website''.. where people can search for a platonic friend to meet up with, vacation with or any of the things people might be looking for in a friend...
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Such websites already exsist, but as I was told from some women, most of the men were expecting se.ual relationships in the end.
Edit: Meanwhile I've read h.c.'s comment #575. He can be called lucky that his has happened, but I think it's the exception and not the norm.
 
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hollydolly said:
I'm considering joining a Senior dating site for over 60's.. ..it's not that I want to find a long term relationship... I would just like to find a casual friend basically... Nowdays there's no going down the pub or to a dance hall and meeting a guy like we did in our youth.. and now o/h's been gone almost 2 years it's time for me to start thinking about having a bit of a life before I get too much older... but I have no experience of dating sites per se.. except for some of the horror stories you read about people meeting weirdos and potential axe murderers...

So.. has anyone joined a dating site.. what were your experiences.. and thoughts..
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I tried for the same type of thing... Got to talking to someone until he got weird, then apologized for being off the charts. I wasn't too worried until he called me the wrong name. Took the wind out of my sails. So got off the site. Disappointed... it is hard at this age... It can be a good thing but like you said...don't know who you are meeting etc. Scary
 
Uncle Bozo said:
I guess though I should also mention "Della"
"Della" responded to my profile on the senior dating site.
Enticing pose (fully clothed) on motel bed holding a martini glass.:love:
We chatted back and forth getting more info.
Then I asked Della if she wanted to use our ..... emails.... instead of the site messages.
She then replied that she had her own private email (VPN?) and that would be very good.
Then she said it would require my CREDIT CARD NUMBER to register for this spiffy private email. :LOL:

"Uh, Della, it was nice chatting with you" I replied.

Gosh....no Della in my life. 😭
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That would never happen on Flirthouse. They security and verification procedures wont allow it.
 
Vicky said:
Wow! I feel like I could write a book on dating sites (based on my experiences)!
I go on dating sites because like most, I am lonely, looking for companionship, or the love of my life.

I found this to be true:
Free Dating Sites -- have a large amt of married spouses looking for an affair or hookup. To some, it's just a game. The quality of people are on the lower side.
---- In the past, these freebie sites had no regulating quality abt them. More recently, they are a making newly applicants take a current photo of themselves, which leave me out because I have no camera on my desktop.

Paid Dating Sites -- seem better, however the fees can add up over time. After all, they are out to make money. They charge extra for this or that(filtering, getting noticed by more people, etc).
------ It seems like both parties (sender and receiver) must be paid members, or the message is not readable to the receiver, or the sender cannot send the message. People are able to join for "free", which I feel/think should be on a limited time frame. Seeing other photos becomes disappointing when the other does not reply.
----- Renewing is automatic, at the new rates.
----- Dropping membership or deleting the acct is difficult, or made complex. Your pic and profile could be up for another 6-mons before they remove it. One site said they will keep the pic and profile in their database, in case I change my mind. If you are a skeptic, then this brings on distrust that they are using it for other sites.

All Dating Sites -- seem to have this "like" icon to click. It does not mean a contact has been made, or will be made.
---- I find at my age the quantity of potential matches are slim (no matter what dating site it is).
---- Pics are usually 5 - 10 yrs ago. Recent pics are rare.
---- Several dating sites can be own by 1 company. Just different titles.
---- The member is bombard by emails from the dating site. And most never read the profile one takes so much time to write.
---- Desktop computer dating sites are becoming fewer in number. They don't do desktop sites much anymore. Everything is moving toward the Cell Phone apps.

Meetup Groups --- great if you live in a large populated city. I live in a town, so I must travel to a meetup group.
I have join approx 10 meetup groups, which all fell apart within a yr or 2.


There is hope for Dating Sites. My pen-pal met her husband 10-yrs ago (still together). Other couples got together through a dating site. I met a man on a site and we were friends for 4-yrs before it ended. Recently, I have just joined another dating site, hoping to find companionship, and to fill my void in my life. Wish me luck. LOL.
Cons of dating sites: It's a crap shoot. After spending a lot of money, there is no guarantee you will find someone.
---- It's frustrating and disappointing, to make so much effort and come up empty handed.
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A lot of the negatives you mention about dating sites is true for the most part. However, there are a handful of dating sites that are old school and do not have many of the negatives you mentioned.
 
I'm married. But before my wife and I got together, I spent a good deal of time on a dating site. My one beef? The pictures people post on the site (especially the women) rarely look anything like they actually do in the present day! I can understand why one would put one's best foot forward. But sometimes I'd chat with someone, we'd agree to meet in a public place for coffee; but when I saw the actual person, their complete difference from their picture was oftentimes a shock-- and a deal killer. So people waste each other's time (and sometimes money) by being deceitful.
 
I haven’t used a site in six years, but I noticed the same thing with the photos. Mostly not up to date. I remember one in particular had several photos that looked like someone in their late 40’s, one full body picture with head turned to side, and one actual current photo (she was 60ish). I had confusion over what was going on. After meeting her I realized she was having a difficult time accepting her age. She looked great for 60’s, but It’s what one truly believes about themselves that matters. It didn’t work out. No chemistry, probably more on my part than hers.
 
Just a week ago, I came to the realization that the ladies I dated more than once had 2 attributes.
They were fun.
They were smart.
:)

Fun most of all. Any who weren't got that cup of Starbucks and that was it.

Stilted, serious or stuffy, maybe not even that. (n)
 
EmptyCup said:
I haven’t used a site in six years, but I noticed the same thing with the photos. Mostly not up to date. I remember one in particular had several photos that looked like someone in their late 40’s, one full body picture with head turned to side, and one actual current photo (she was 60ish). I had confusion over what was going on. After meeting her I realized she was having a difficult time accepting her age. She looked great for 60’s, but It’s what one truly believes about themselves that matters. It didn’t work out. No chemistry, probably more on my part than hers.
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I met her too. Yikes! 😆
But she was mid 70's.

(Which isn't necessarily a negative) I was 67 when I was widowed. :cry:
 
I think this is another area which has degenerated. I used to spend a lot of time chatting to men on the internet, but ended it when they wanted to meet. There wasn't a single one that I would have liked to meet in person. Too many of them are simply looking for free sex.
 
Lavinia said:
I think this is another area which has degenerated. I used to spend a lot of time chatting to men on the internet, but ended it when they wanted to meet. There wasn't a single one that I would have liked to meet in person. Too many of them are simply looking for free sex.
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I've heard this over, and over again. Also that old adage ''seeking a nurse or a purse'', seems to be what almost everyone says.
 
AnneTeak said:
this has been a really fun post. with that being said, i would never join a dating site. too many creeps out there.
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"Creep rejection" should be an ongoing practice.
Creeps aren't that hard to find. They identify swiftly and quite obviously.

Smart ladies can find good company of both sexes in various senior ACTIVITY forums.

My joining a widowed support group was the best thing I ever did to recover from the awful shock of losing a partner of 47 years.

Poker nights, dances, dinners, group trips! :love:

Creeps show themselves pretty quickly in those situations.

I even had a lady ask if she could squeeze into our bunch and my small car to ride home from Tahoe without the creep she rode in with.
Kinda funny, but prety darn obvious what he was. :poop:

It's a learning curve and it starts out fast.
 
hollydolly said:
I've heard this over, and over again. Also that old adage ''seeking a nurse or a purse'', seems to be what almost everyone says.
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It just hit me. :)

A "nurse with a purse" would be a good choice for me at my age.
Expert in CPR and a big purse for my pills. :LOL:
 

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