Are You A Homebody, or a Social Butterfly?

[Trish]

Thanks, Trish. Awhile back, I volunteered for our museum. One senior group I was in took day trips but not anymore, and yet, they have plans next month to go to a musical. And my church has a food distribution program once a month I'm vounteering for. One friend volunteers at the hospital but I can't handle that emotionally. Every Sunday after church, I eat out with a group ranging from a few to about 6. So, it's a small town, but we find opportunnities.

That sounds good @MACKTEXAS I agree about the hospital though, I couldn't handle that either.

Enjoy Church and your Sunday meal tomorrow

 

[Ladybj]

More of a homebody these days.. When my husband was still living, we kept a fairly active social life. Enjoyed going out.
I still like to go out with my family, kids and grandkids, but it is a different feeling as a widow.

Now that Fall is here, I like to cozy up with the TV, and watch football Saturday and Sunday.

Fall is my favorite time of the year!! Cozy up with the TV sounds very relaxing. When I cozy up with the TV, I make sure I have my favorite foods/snacks.

 

[Ladybj]

I've found that to be true. I like people but I prize my "alone" time as well.

For me, it's theory. At 60+ I enjoy the company of people. However, I also enjoy my alone time.

 

[jlhog]

I would not call my self a homeboy. There is a different meaning for that. I do prefer to be home, unless we are camping.

 

[Ladybj]

I think as we age our social tendencies tend to slow down some, even if we’re the extroverted, social butterfly type.

At least that’s the way it’s been with me. After I left my ex, and started dancing, I would be out 5 nights a week, and weekends would consist of other dance socials, family get togethers, lunch or dinner with friends. That was in my 50’s.

That slowed down some in my 60’s, the nights mainly, it just got to be too much.

And now in my 70’s I’m happy to dance one night a week, but still love social or family get togethers on the weekends, going out to dinner with friends or just Ron, attending the various community events that abound where we live.

I enjoy dancing as well. When I hear music, I'm ready to dance. You should see me in my vehicle - I'm sure people in their vehicles beside me and behind me are like - shes having a good day.

 

[LadyEmeraude]

I lean a bit towards homebody with only a slight social butterfly edge prior years it was the opposite..

 

[oscash]

We used to love going out when the children were small. Now I'm alone and everyone have moved on I like to catch up with
friends for a lovely coffee and a long chat remembering the good old days. When I get home, I love to throw off the glad rags
and slip into my most comfortable clothes and slippers and watch the T.V.

 

[DaneBramage496]

I am mostly a homebody. But this summer ive been confined to hospitals, rehab, and home unable to drive
Now i can't wait to get out of the house. But i can only visit family because I've outlived most of my friends.

 

[moviequeen1]

I was a homebody when I was living at Tudor PLaza, co op apt building I live in for 36yrs
When I moved last yr to Canterbury Woods- Gates that changed. I would invite my TP friends& church friends over to see my apt have lunch or dinner with them. I continue to do so

 

[fuzzybuddy]

The answer is HOMEBODY. I was always a loner.

 

[Paco Dennis]

I have been social and a homebody. My 20 years of being a bachelor were spent in pubs for dancing and socializing. Then my time in the Monastery was quiet and I was alone a lot.

 

[Flarbalard]

Homebody.

 

[David777]

Social butterfly? No, impossible in most situations without making others feel awkward.

I went to 10 different K12 schools growing up as my father frequently moved. We mainly lived in suburban California areas that were 100% European due to red lining real estate of that era. I'm 5'5.5" #135# now and since I also unfortunately began kindergarten early, was usually both the youngest and smallest male at each school that put me at the bottom of pecking orders. Well at least initially until others found I had athletic skills and a strong mind. And also, have been that guy, that was not afraid to raise my hand when teachers asked questions no others wanted to address.

That noted, have also always been fine being able to entertain myself. A key reason I became outdoor oriented into individual sports. As an adult, have always had to deal with issues of other's behavior around small males that employers tended to dismiss for managing others because many larger men on subconscious levels, tend to resent being led by small male others. Yeah, in the USAF boot camp, the TI made me a Road Guard the first day haha. And in social situations, have long accepted that most attractive socially active women greatly dislike and feel embarrassed being seen around small unknown males.

In social situations with strangers, I initially tend to be reserved but given my loud confident voice, have no trouble talking to strange others or groups. A reason, I was so successful in large hi tech engineering groups where so many tend to be quiet if not leaders. As a long time often solo Tahoe skier, during winters, am continually riding chairlifts with A to Z, young to old, others where I greatly enjoy making conversations with enthusiastic fun others.

Given cooler temperatures without rains starting, numbers of cities in Northern California, have street art/food/wine/music fairs during late summer through October. This weekend 9/6>7, I will be going to two, mainly for the rock music for freestyle dancing that I've done much more of in public each fall since retiring in 2017 and after being stuck in the county during the start of the COVID pandemic. Now 8 years later, I like to think I've been having a noticeable impact, setting many others free.

Most people tend to be inhibited freestyle dancing because in usual pub/club/nightclub venues, people today either just sit and watch musicians while drinking alcohol or if they do dance, it is usual various pair style dancing like Disco. Interestingly, I often sees far more senior women freely dancing at outdoor venues because many are familiar with decades of Counterculture era Grateful Dead and jam band type concerts where that had been expected. One can tell by body language, many young women in groups greatly, want to dance somehow, but are inhibited beyond a bit of head and body shaking.

The vast SFBA with its nearly 8 million people now, arguably has more Classic Rock cover and tribute bands than anywhere else to the extent even talented experienced groups without a national presence, have trouble booking even free events. Note, we are also a hotbed of other music genres. Many cities hosting free outdoor events tend to evaluate rock groups at such events for returning by how many in audiences, are either dancing or actively moving their bodies. A few musicians are increasingly coming up to and thanking me for being a catalyst because I am not afraid and am directly affecting others in crowds.