Are You Your Own Best Friend?

Serenity4321

Serenity4321

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I think we all would agree we should be our own best friend, but many of us are not. I need to remember I should treat myself like I would a best friend. So now I am trying to ask myself..would a best friend__________________before I self criticize too harshly. Does anyone else do this?
 

Serenity4321 said:
I think we all would agree we should be our own best friend, but many of us are not. I need to remember I should treat myself like I would a best friend. So now I am trying to ask myself..would a best friend__________________before I self criticize too harshly. Does anyone else do this?
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Some days... yes and some days ...NO.

I think many should practice being more self supportive...... it would be a way to cut any negative self talk .... Especially when it is hard to socialize and you may not have the time to get your best friends support or feedback.
 
Jeni said:
Some days... yes and some days ...NO.

I think many should practice being more self supportive...... it would be a way to cut any negative self talk .... Especially when it is hard to socialize and you may not have the time to get your best friends support or feedback.
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Agreed! 👍...Well stated!😉
 

I still have a small network of friends which sadly seems to be getting smaller as time goes by so I'm not my best friend, yet anyway.

We don't have company like we did and my hubby and son ask me why I'm making extra work for myself by decorating my home and changing things around. I tell them that these days I do it for myself.
It makes me feel good to see these new/ old things around.
Maybe its my inner friend I'm doing it for. Someday she might pop out and tell me how she likes what I've done.
 
Ruth n Jersey said:
I still have a small network of friends which sadly seems to be getting smaller as time goes by so I'm not my best friend, yet anyway.

We don't have company like we did and my hubby and son ask me why I'm making extra work for myself by decorating my home and changing things around. I tell them that these days I do it for myself.
It makes me feel good to see these new/ old things around.
Maybe its my inner friend I'm doing it for. Someday she might pop out and tell me how she likes what I've done.
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I think a lot of people are in the same situation. You have the advantage of having your husband and son at home with you. Many are on their own, 24/7. I tried to find ways to get out and be around people more. Lunches out so I could see other people. But now, with omicron, I've stopped doing that. Even though I've had 3 shots, I still fear catching it, not realizing that I have it, and passing it on to my granddaughter.

So, I stay pretty much to myself now. I thought I'd do that until March to see how this virus plays out.
 
It's tough with so much uncertainty in our world. Friendship changed a lot because of the pandemic. I use to have many friends I saw and talked with regularly. Now I don't see anyone except Misa, and am learning that loving others and myself is the best way to live. Even under challenging circumstances I try not to fall into negative thinking, but like I said...sometimes it's tough.
 

Are You Your Own Best Friend?​

Well, it a question of having to be, isn't it, there are no queues outside my door, with people fighting amongst themselves to pals with me, and not many ladies enjoy my company now, because I have a wind problem. 😊
 
I'm a better friend to myself now than at any other time in my life. I allow myself to get angry or sad without trying to put on a front for anyone like I used to do. I don't pretend I'm happy when I'm not. I allow myself to be antisocial without pretending I'm not. I no longer care what anyone thinks of me. I have my books and my poetry to protect me. I am a rock. I am an island.
 
Irwin said:
I'm a better friend to myself now than at any other time in my life. I allow myself to get angry or sad without trying to put on a front for anyone like I used to do. I don't pretend I'm happy when I'm not. I allow myself to be antisocial without pretending I'm not. I no longer care what anyone thinks of me. I have my books and my poetry to protect me. I am a rock. I am an island.
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Irwin..That sounds like a very healthy attitude..I too am being kinder to myself. I think that also comes with aging and realizing the small stuff isn't as important as we once believed...
 
Sassycakes said:
I don't feel like I am my own best friend. Honestly, my sister is my best friend.
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I have a sister and most of the time she is a great friend. However, there are times I need to be there for me no matter who else may or may not be. That's my point I think. It would be IMO in our own best interest to always be on our side and treat ourselves like a best friend should be treated.
 
Rah-Rah said:
My best friend is definitely my husband. I was lucky enough to marry him and he was my high school sweetheart. I never dated anyone else in my life.
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You are blessed...My husband was a very close good friend..but I still felt the need to make myself my best friend...especially when he and I had differences😂
 

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