Dad's texting to daughter sparks argument, shot dead

I agree with you Drifter, pinning down that 'something else' which is changing behaviour is the problem. No one will accept responsibility for a wrong decision of the past and be willing to change it, they tend to stand up and defend whatever it was, right or wrong without even thinking about it.

A lot of individual changes have contributed to turning society in on itself. Too many rights too quickly perhaps, but who has the 'right' to decide on which ones were good for everyone and which ones were trendy at the time and have proven to contribute to the problems of the many to salve wounded egos of the few? Even if we pinpoint the problems, fixing them is a whole other ball game.
ramble...
None of our 'Western' countries represented here are the same demographic that they were a century ago, or even when we were kids.
We are all far more ethnically and culturally mixed now and the social rules that governed those calmer thinking, more 'homoeneous' societies no longer apply to everyone. Other cultures had other rules and solutions and those were right for them, there. But they've brought their old rules and attitudes along with their baggage and many are at odds with our own old ways. Not to say that's 'the' problem, just one of many. Here.

I may be dead wrong but I see the current surge of 'gun-culture' awareness being more defensively than offensively based. For every idiot redneck we see waving guns around there must be thousands who keep them simply as a last line of defense against a society they no longer trust nor understand. I'm presuming that the majority would rather be rid of them, but can't be free of them until the reasons for needing them are gotten rid of first. What I fear is that we will soon begin to see it that way too and it will all go to hell in a blink.

I get into trouble for saying that replacing gently enforced assimilation with the grandiosely high minded concept of multiculturalism was a monumental mistake here. It divided society, and I'm speaking of OZ here, and formed 'them and us' attitudes where none need have existed. It has made both sides of it defensive.

New immigrants always got a hard time before we made room for them, granted that, but by the time they were accepted as friends they were 'Aussies' first, and proud to be accepted as such, they just came from somewhere else. They didn't call themselves Wahoompian-Australians, living apart from us while deigning to enhance our country with their presence and tolerating us until they can change us into something more suited to their tastes and rules.


Like you Drifter, I was used to guns being part of life, not in the city so much, although we had a .303 in the house that was never fired for years, but in the homes of rural relatives and they were just tools of the farming trade, no mystique or status attached to them at all. They've become status symbols now though haven't they?

Even here where handguns are, except to a very few, unilaterally banned, punk kids big note themselves by getting illegal ones to shoot out peoples' windows with. Some status eh? That these kids see only their peers and other, bigger time, crims as being the role models to impress is the nub of the problem. What makes them think that way?

To my hazy memory, and I'll quickly be corrected, all reports of these kids placed them in 'ethnic' groupings. They were born here, but they don't think of themselves as 'Aussies' first. Aussies are just 'Skips', and a different people to them entirely apparently. Their ethnic connections are much stronger than with their birth Nation and it's population.
Yeah, that can burr you up a bit I guess.

They though are not the sole source of home invading crims and the bank robbers and nutter junkies, but they are the 'gun' awareness examples most reported on by media and so more in our faces and somehow more scary because it's our neighbourhoods they shoot up.

I'm afraid we can't unmix the cake, whatever ails society it's going to take some very brave and smart thinking to sort it out now.

Can't resist the pun... No one magic bullet for this problem.
 

Yes, it's become an every day occurrence.

As for the gun argument...this guy was a retired police officer, he would have a gun anyway.

i don't know what it is though, it seems people are just angrier nowadays and seem to go into a rage for nothing and then act on it.

Lets face it 20 years ago,this guy would have simply punched him in the face and be done with it.
But not today,the handgun seems to be the answer to every arguments.
 

Another worrisome aspect of these type of shootings are the young kids shooting in schools, one of those happens at least once a week...there was just one in New Mexico yesterday...a 12 yr. old!!


And where did he get that shotgun from? Good old daddy just happen to have one hanging around the house someplace.
 
This 71 yr old certainly didn't grow up on violent video games.....maybe it's something in the water or air, I'm just joking here but I think this is becoming an epidemic today.

He was a cop that retired from Tampa PD in '93 (20 years ago) ... I didn't see how long he was working, but figure at least 20 years. That's 20 years of dealing with the scum of the earth, of being surrounded every day by violence and death and man's inhumanity to man.

I would think that would be sufficient stimulus to lose it.

Or is it just the media bringing it more to our attention? I don't know.

That's certainly a good possibility, but I still believe the occurrence rates are higher today than in the past.
 
so you are saying that all of that mental turmoil was festering inside him for 20 yrs and he just blew his cork that day?

Sometimes that's just the way of things. How many times do they interview the neighbor of a serial killer and you hear "Oh, Joe was a regular guy ... his kids played with mine, we had cook-outs in the backyard ... I never would have imagined him doing something like this."

That is the third incident at a movie theater involving shootings....makes me afraid to go.

I think in this case the location was just incidental - he could have as likely gone-off in a restaurant or a bingo hall.

Remember also - we don't have the full story yet, and may never have it. We don't know what the dead guy actually did or said until all the interviews are done, and somehow I don't think there will be many of them.
 
Phil has a good point there, the ex-cop likely had a lot of frustration built up inside him over the years. Not disrespecting all cops, but many of them are abusive to their wives and children. We must remember that not every policeman joins the force for righteous reasons either...they're just common people like the rest of us, some join to gain the power and control they lack in their personal lives.

I don't go to the movies that often, but the mass shooting happened in a nearby theater that I've been to on several occasions. The incident will not stop me from going there to see a movie at all. Anything can happen where crowds gather, in malls, concerts, football games, etc. I never did like crowds, but I won't alter where I want to go because of some crazed shooter episode. I still take hikes on a wooded trails alone, even though there's been cases of women being physically overpowered and forced off the trail, only to be beaten, raped and have their throat slit with a knife.

And Davey, years ago people had loaded guns in their home without these violent shootings. Young children had no desire to kill, you can't blame this on the guns, there is much more to be considered. Plenty of Dads left their guns out with no fear of the kids using them for murder. Of course, as myself and many others have expressed in the past, if someone is a hot gun control advocate, then they will jump on any opportunity to use these unfortunate incidents to promote their cause, utilizing fear as the reasoning, while ignoring any and all other factors involved.
 
I don't go to the movies that often, but the mass shooting happened in a nearby theater that I've been to on several occasions. The incident will not stop me from going there to see a movie at all. Anything can happen where crowds gather, in malls, concerts, football games, etc. I never did like crowds, but I won't alter where I want to go because of some crazed shooter episode.

I still take hikes on a wooded trails alone, even though there's been cases of women being physically overpowered and forced off the trail, only to be beaten, raped and have their throat slit with a knife.

Seabreeze, you and I must inhabit very different worlds, maybe even different planets.

I go to the movie theatres periodically and the last thing I think about is a crazed gunman because in my whole life I can't remember any such incident. In my teens there was one crazy who ran amok in a picture show with an axe. I do sometimes look around for the fire exits though, just in case.

As for shootings in public places, we used to have our share of those - Hoddle Street, Strathfield Mall are a couple that I can remember vividly - but since the massacre at Port Arthur in 1996 we've had none. After that horrendous incident we made changes to our laws.

We still have guns in private hands but they are registered, the owner has to have a valid reason for having one and certain types of military style weapons are only allowed for the military. There is still a constant need for the police to make sure illegal guns are not imported and acquired by criminals. It's an ongoing struggle. But the gun possessing criminals are not crazy and mostly shoot at each other. They also shoot at one another's houses for some reason. Quite often lately. The particular gang responsible for most of this is being arrested in droves right now and locked up without bail.

Another thing, I would never go hiking alone, not because of any fear of crazed murderers but because you always need a buddy in the event of misadventure - falls and other injuries being the most likely.

Just asking, but when you do go to the movie theatre, do you carry a weapon for protection? Do you carry one when hiking?
 
We still have guns in private hands but they are registered, the owner has to have a valid reason for having one and certain types of military style weapons are only allowed for the military. There is still a constant need for the police to make sure illegal guns are not imported and acquired by criminals. It's an ongoing struggle. But the gun possessing criminals are not crazy and mostly shoot at each other. They also shoot at one another's houses for some reason. Quite often lately. The particular gang responsible for most of this is being arrested in droves right now and locked up without bail.

But that is basically the same thing going on here!

We have to register our arms, we need a good reason to get carry permits (usually - depends upon the laxity of the issuing office) and military-style weapons are generally banned.

The police and the BATF are constantly on the lookout for illegal guns.

And usually it's the bad guys blowing each other away and doing drive-bys.

So it isn't really all that different here - maybe it's just the media frenzy and the big-mouthed gun control lobbyists that make it seem like Mad Max is rolling down the streets of America.
 
Another thing, I would never go hiking alone, not because of any fear of crazed murderers but because you always need a buddy in the event of misadventure - falls and other injuries being the most likely.

Just asking, but when you do go to the movie theatre, do you carry a weapon for protection? Do you carry one when hiking?

If I go for a hike or walk in a wooded area near our home, my husband always knows which way I went, and approximately when I'll return. I carry the cellphone, if there's an emergency, say if I fell and needed help. Of course, I don't always rely on getting a strong signal...I'm basically extra careful when walking alone, and don't take any chances climbing on a high ridge, etc.

From what I understand, even if you have a concealed carry permit for a gun, you're not allowed to have one in a movie theater. The cops must have special privileges in that department. I'm not afraid to go to the movies, I haven't become paranoid like some folks in the area, so don't feel the need to carry a weapon.

When I go hiking in wooded areas, I'll carry my husband's walking stick that he fashioned from a tree branch years ago. I am wary of coyotes, as some are not very fearful of people anymore, and may be tempted to attack. If I'm hiking in a very remote area of the wilderness, like when we're camping in unfamiliar places, I may take a gun with me for protection...but usually on small trails where no people may be passing by, my husband will be with me. In wilderness areas, the dog is always with me.
 
Phil has a good point there, the ex-cop likely had a lot of frustration built up inside him over the years. Not disrespecting all cops, but many of them are abusive to their wives and children. We must remember that not every policeman joins the force for righteous reasons either...they're just common people like the rest of us, some join to gain the power and control they lack in their personal lives.

I don't go to the movies that often, but the mass shooting happened in a nearby theater that I've been to on several occasions. The incident will not stop me from going there to see a movie at all. Anything can happen where crowds gather, in malls, concerts, football games, etc. I never did like crowds, but I won't alter where I want to go because of some crazed shooter episode. I still take hikes on a wooded trails alone, even though there's been cases of women being physically overpowered and forced off the trail, only to be beaten, raped and have their throat slit with a knife.

And Davey, years ago people had loaded guns in their home without these violent shootings. Young children had no desire to kill, you can't blame this on the guns, there is much more to be considered. Plenty of Dads left their guns out with no fear of the kids using them for murder. Of course, as myself and many others have expressed in the past, if someone is a hot gun control advocate, then they will jump on any opportunity to use these unfortunate incidents to promote their cause, utilizing fear as the reasoning, while ignoring any and all other factors involved.


These 'unfortunate incidents'...you mean like where kindergarten children are blown away? Utilizing fear? Give me a break. I'd say it is time to recognize and fear our gun problem. I guess its a matter of opinion as to who is ignoring what.

People are trying to give the shooter the benefit of doubt.....when he shot the man in the freaking face and now he is trying to use 'stand your ground' defense because the man he killed threw popcorn at him....
 
These 'unfortunate incidents'...you mean like where kindergarten children are blown away? Utilizing fear? Give me a break. I'd say it is time to recognize and fear our gun problem. I guess its a matter of opinion as to who is ignoring what.

People are trying to give the shooter the benefit of doubt.....when he shot the man in the freaking face and now he is trying to use 'stand your ground' defense because the man he killed threw popcorn at him....

Jackie, I'm at a loss as to how you see this as a "gun problem". Obviously the shooter had mental problems - that isn't the gun's fault. And as a retired cop I'm pretty sure he had carry privileges, just like any other citizen, only more so.

What about all the times guns have been used to protect lives? Those stories often don't make it into the media because, Heaven forbid, people might get the idea that guns aren't all that evil.

And I guess that's what really burns my butt: that we anthropomorphize guns into evil, raging instruments of Hell with their own warped agendas. Of course they are not - they're simply tools. It's the mental state of the human using them that is the real problem, yet there is precious little being done about that - probably because the human mind is still such a mystery.

As for the popcorn in the face - I'll reiterate that we still don't know the full, true story. This happens every time a controversial event takes place - we jump right in (and with "we" I include myself) and, based upon the first news reports, immediately decide the merits of the case and cast our verdicts. It seems to be a national pastime, but it doesn't always lead to the truth.
 
No it isn't the gun's problem, but the human behind it.
however, if the gun wasn't immediately to hand, the human couldn't use it.
 
No it isn't the gun's problem, but the human behind it.
however, if the gun wasn't immediately to hand, the human couldn't use it.

But as I believe has been mentioned in other discussions here, if it wasn't a gun it would be a knife, or a bat, or fists, or a box of that awful movie-house candy.

Ease of use of a weapon isn't the prime consideration here, I think ... given the wrong state of mind, anything can become a weapon. We don't normally consider circular dining tables to be weapons, yet I once had a gent lift one up and throw it at me. Books and magazines can kill. A pencil can kill.

It's knowledge and application of technique. All the rest is just (im)material. ;)
 
Yes Phil, I agree, and a knife can kill as quickly as a gun....but one does have to be nearer to use a lot of these, except a circular dining table..
 
Yes Phil, I agree, and a knife can kill as quickly as a gun....but one does have to be nearer to use a lot of these, except a circular dining table..

Well, at least in this case, I believe he was close enough to use a knife - adjoining rows, I think the article said?

Yeah, that dining table, that was a tough one ... luckily there were no place settings, just beer cans. ;)
 
I don't understand the gun culture, either. I've never had one in the house or car and will live out my life without one.

But another thing I don't understand is the texting culture that can't go ten minutes without texting someone, and I don't really think it matters whether he was texting his daughter or someone else.

The theatre rules said no texting. He had to text anyway. The man behind him asked him to stop. He kept right on texting. The man behind him went to get a manager, came back without one and was taunted by the texter.

Of course he didn't deserve to die and the shooter deserves prison, but I have to ask myself -- why the heck didn't he stop texting? Why did he think the rules didn't apply to him?
 
I don't understand the gun culture, either. I've never had one in the house or car and will live out my life without one.

But another thing I don't understand is the texting culture that can't go ten minutes without texting someone, and I don't really think it matters whether he was texting his daughter or someone else.

The theatre rules said no texting. He had to text anyway. The man behind him asked him to stop. He kept right on texting. The man behind him went to get a manager, came back without one and was taunted by the texter.

Of course he didn't deserve to die and the shooter deserves prison, but I have to ask myself -- why the heck didn't he stop texting? Why did he think the rules didn't apply to him?
Wow! This thread is 7-1/2 years old. How'd you come across it?
 
It's not the guns or the knives that is the problem. In the United States people have always had guns and knives. When I was in school nearly every boy in school had a knife in his pocket. But if two boys got into a fight they fought with fists, no thought of pulling out a knife.

There was also guns in nearly every household. But there were no mass murders.

Something has gone haywire with the attitudes of people. I believe lack of discipline both at home and in schools plays a big part. And all the publicity by the media keeps it going.

All these crimes,gun and knife, are committed by people. Yet the only thing the uninformed among us can think of is to blame the guns (or knives).

People can and will find a way to do harm if they want to. What we need to figure out is WHY do they want to. And what can we do to make them not want to any more.
So true. When I went to school every guy/gals truck or car had a rifle in it. We would take them into the shop to work on them. After school, we would all go even our teachers to the dump & shoot rats. No one shot anyone in the schools back then.

Around here there are a lot of elderly women buying shotguns to protect themselves in their houses. On News almost every morning there is a perp shot breaking into someone's house. There are no charges against the person.

When I talk with my sheriff & ask about a perp getting into my house can I shoot him? He said just make sure he is dead, if not he will sue you & take everything you got.

It's been stated in the news that the USA has more armed people than all of Russia, China, Iran's military put together. So they don't want to mess with the USA.

Another old saying here in the states. " You don't take a knife to a gunfight"
 
Around here there are a lot of elderly women buying shotguns to protect themselves in their houses. On News almost every morning there is a perp shot breaking into someone's house. There are no charges against the person.
My mother's house was broken into 4 times while she was at work. Once, when she was ill with a migraine (I had to take her to the ER because her temp was way below normal), I visited her. She had a handgun on her nightstand. She, who had never handled a gun before, and had no training about that at all). A friend gave it to her so she could shoot any person who broke into her house while she was there.

I forced her to give it back to her friend. I called my brother, and he gave her his beloved Rottweiler. He had to trick her into taking the dog by telling her he was going to take it to the pound if she didn't give it a home. (I'm using "it" so I don't get mixed up with the he's and she's). This was the most gentle dog my mom had ever had. She dearly loved her(the dog). Anyway, just having the dog solved the problem.

My dog, OTOH, barks like he's going to eat someone for dinner. Then, if the stranger (just to him, always a friend) dares to come into the house, the dog transforms into the happiest, most affectionate creature around. He would lead a burglar to the family silver (or whatever is valuable these days). Of course, when we lived out in the country, no one was afraid of my dogs. It was a relief. In 12 years, no crime, and we never locked our doors. Mostly because we were in the habit of that having lived in a very low crime area for 15 years before that.
 
My mother's house was broken into 4 times while she was at work. Once, when she was ill with a migraine (I had to take her to the ER because her temp was way below normal), I visited her. She had a handgun on her nightstand. She, who had never handled a gun before, and had no training about that at all). A friend gave it to her so she could shoot any person who broke into her house while she was there.

I forced her to give it back to her friend. I called my brother, and he gave her his beloved Rottweiler. He had to trick her into taking the dog by telling her he was going to take it to the pound if she didn't give it a home. (I'm using "it" so I don't get mixed up with the he's and she's). This was the most gentle dog my mom had ever had. She dearly loved her(the dog). Anyway, just having the dog solved the problem.

My dog, OTOH, barks like he's going to eat someone for dinner. Then, if the stranger (just to him, always a friend) dares to come into the house, the dog transforms into the happiest, most affectionate creature around. He would lead a burglar to the family silver (or whatever is valuable these days). Of course, when we lived out in the country, no one was afraid of my dogs. It was a relief. In 12 years, no crime, and we never locked our doors. Mostly because we were in the habit of that having lived in a very low crime area for 15 years before that.

I would rather have a burglar laying on the floor with a bullet in his head ..... then laying there with a dog bite .
 


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