Did your parents ever smack you !

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toffee

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I was the younger of 7 ..remember my dad wacking my brother for the least little thing - only time I was smacked I was 13 and I broke
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Parents who use pain to teach their kids are ignorant parental failures. I often hear people say, "My parents smacked me & I turned out OK." Kids who grow up into decent, non-violent adults are that way in spite of, not because of their upbringing. Such parents are under the delusion that their kids respect them. They are confusing "respect" and "fear." I didn't respect my mother; I feared her.

What I learned from my mother was that it's OK to beat someone as long as you're bigger than they are. Consequently, I was kicked out of two elementary school for fighting & bullying other kids. What she learned was that her kids would start hitting her back when they were her size. And they might not stop. When I was 12, I almost didn't stop, but, luckily for her, I got scared when she started bleeding from her mouth.
The biggest mistake my mother made was having kids. When she died, NONE of her 4 kids attended her funeral; we were too busy enjoying the moment.
 
My parents would hit me for the slightest reason. Their real problem was that they couldn't construct a reasoned or logical response to anything I said or did, so they hit me instead. I would run off crying and saying that I was going to tell everyone what they did, but mother said I mustn't do that or they would "take her to gaol." The last time it happened was in my early teens, but this time I threatened to hit back. Mother said, "you wouldn't hit me, would you?", and I said "If you don't hit me".
 
Yep me too Capt, almost every day I got a beating from mainly my father, but sometimes my mother, and it would be for the slightest reason. I was also put into foster care several times during my childhood, due to my mother's various illnesses, and was beaten there routinely..

However, at home my father was always ready with a fist, a belt, or a boot.. he broke my coccyx once when I was 15 years old, for not moving out of his way quick enough while I was ironing!!
 
Most people on here will have grown up when corporal punishment was not frowned upon.Had a fair few hidings.So did my friends.And many kids were whacked in school.But causing injuries requiring treatment-that's abuse.
Still had the cane in school when I started teaching-and I had two caned.
All different nowadays.Daren't raise a finger to the little oiks!
 
Furryanimal said:
Most people on here will have grown up when corporal punishment was not frowned upon.Had a fair few hidings.So did my friends.And many kids were whacked in school.But causing injuries requiring treatment-that's abuse.
Still had the cane in school when I started teaching-and I had two caned.
All different nowadays.Daren't raise a finger to the little oiks!
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In Scottish schools we had the Tawse... a thick 2 or 3 fingered leather belt. Technically the teachers were only supposed to smack us on the hands with it, in reality some teachers were evil brutes and would use it to smack us everywhere, legs body even face... Our head of Maths would dish it out with alacrity for the most minor infringements.. forget a pencil etc..


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yes, we got hit if we did something wrong, or were rude or saucy to people....
i was the youngest of 5, so they were more lenient with me....Mum called me a Whippersnapper 😂
It was called discipline in our days, Its now called child Abuse !!
 
Fortunately, no. Not that I can remember, anyway. Maybe a mild little whack on the bottom when I was too little to be reasoned with. But it wasn't in their nature, and being an only child, I didn't have siblings to plan mischief with, so I pretty much behaved myself.
 
Yes, my parents were out of control. I remember getting my brains rattled more than once. My mom even said once, after I got my small pox vaccination, that if I saw her or dad coming at me, to run or get something between them and me. Oh yeah, that would just make them angrier. Sheesh!
 
Dad never hit or spanked us

Now, Mom....whoa
She had quick hands
Slaps came outa nowhere
I never got it from her. Mostly due to me not ever being within reach
One time, when I was 12 or 13, we were face to face
I sensed what was comin'
Held her wrists to her sides
She struggled a bit
Then we both started laughing

She could holler too
May be why I'm deaf in my right ear

School we had the bamboo rod
Never got that either
But one time, in second grade, me and my buddy were made to carry it into the lunchroom and wait
We just looked at it for about 20 minutes
Finally the teacher came in, looked at us both, and told us to get the hell outa there
 
I didn't get hit much, but boy when I did....

My dad was a barber, and had a razor strap. I got threatened with that, and it sure hurt when it was used on me. That's why I didn't spank my kids. I didn't believe in spanking, and they were actually very well behaved.
 
My old Dad clobbered me on numerous occasions...I was a bit headstrong, and he could flare up over the slightest provocation. The only bone I ever had broken was when he kicked me in the butt, and broke my tailbone. In today's world, he would have probably been arrested for child abuse. As a result, when I got married, and had kids, I vowed Never to repeat his actions. I think the most severe punishment our kids ever got was to "stand in the corner" for 15 or 20 minutes when they got sassy.
 
Yeah back at that time where I lived everybody was smacking kids. Parents, neighbors, teachers, shop keepers. We all got it at one time or another. Lot of people were coming off a drunk and were irritable. I grew up in a coal mining camp. Lots of people from different areas of Europe yelling in Italian, Hungarian, Polish, and Russian. My dad's people were from Czechoslovakia, my mom's from Lithuania. Good Lord and none of us kids knew anything but English. Haha.
 
Spanked on the rare occasion on my fully clothed rear end by Mom ...usually with her hand, but a few times with a belt. Dad only spanked my brother, never my sister or me. I was nine when she got me last and deserved that one! Even the belt ones were more about the lesson than actual pain; she never intended to strike to leave whets. Had either of my parents been inclined to violence, they'd have killed my brother. He was a hellion and the type even as a very little boy to look at my dad after a whuppin' and say "That didn't hurt, do it again." He got a lot more spankings than my sister or me combined, but they had to try to come up with other ways to reinforce his punishments.
 
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replys are all so good -- just think if we did this to ours today / we would be locked up for abuse '
kids could be taken into care , better idea -is to take what they use the most of for a week or so '
 
I still remember the lectures when we went anywhere on how to behave, look but don't touch, etc... and the quiet threats about making a trip back to the car followed by the look.

I don't believe in beating children but I do believe that a quick pop on the seat does help to provide small children with a necessary reference point so they understand exactly what comes after the look, the rest is up to them.

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