Do you have a gay family member?

My stepsister who was 10 years younger than me, and is deceased due to abuses she put her body through was involved with another woman at one stage, it was quite some time ago as she passed away 9 years ago.
i didn't really ask questions at the time as she lived interstate it was obvious it a gay relationship because Vicky stated she was " Married" to the lady she was with who I never met or even spoke to, I can't really comment how I would have felt about the relationship if I had met her partner ,I have never judged people for their life choices as long as they didn't affect me.
i have met a couple of men who are gay,and one who liked both sexes and was married to my neighbours in Adelaide daughter
that relationship I found a little hard to understand.
 

I have a female friend who is bisexual. She has been married twice. Her first spouse wasa man who died in 2000. Three years later, she met a wonderful woman whom she married in 2007. She states that, for her, gender is irrelevant, it is the person that she falls in love with. Works for me, especially since her wife has a personality very similar to my friend's first spouse.
 
Shalimar said:
I have a female friend who is bisexual. She has been married twice. Her first spouse wasa man who died in 2000. Three years later, she met a wonderful woman whom she married in 2007. She states that, for her, gender is irrelevant, it is the person that she falls in love with. Works for me, especially since her wife has a personality very similar to my friend's first spouse.
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There are a lot of people who are bisexual. Some people say they are just greedy, but I think they must be very loving people.
 

I have heard that there really is no such think as a Bisexual... Many Gays believe a Bisexual is just someone who hasn't accepted the fact that they are Gay. I personally don't know if there is. I have a family member who has experienced both male and female relationships and sexual encounters and claims to be attracted to both, and claims he is not gay.. He certainly doesn't look or act gay... in the way we are conditioned to think of how gays should look and act.. So I really don't know.
 
QuickSilver said:
I have heard that there really is no such think as a Bisexual... Many Gays believe a Bisexual is just someone who hasn't accepted the fact that they are Gay. I personally don't know if there is. I have a family member who has experienced both male and female relationships and sexual encounters and claims to be attracted to both.
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My O/H doesn't believe it either. There are many people who've had long relationships with someone of both sexes. Don't quite understand it although I read some study before that said few people are 100% straight or 100% gay and most of us are somewhat bisexual even though most don't act on it.
 
Ameriscot said:
My O/H doesn't believe it either. There are many people who've had long relationships with someone of both sexes. Don't quite understand it although I read some study before that said few people are 100% straight or 100% gay and most of us are somewhat bisexual even though most don't act on it.
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I believe this.. I think women are more likely to admit that they find another woman attractive or sexy than a man would admit that about another man. But women have always been allowed more physical contact with the same sex. I read a theory in a psych class that the reason for this is because a female has one more step to make in her sexuality than men do. Both sexes start off with their primary love interest a female.. ie. Mommy. Males simply have to transfer that to another female. Females have to transfer that to a male.. which is a bigger psychological leap. It may be easier for women who have had a good relationship with their father, but a bit more difficult for those who haven't. It's interesting.
 
QuickSilver said:
I believe this.. I think women are more likely to admit that they find another woman attractive or sexy than a man would admit that about another man. But women have always been allowed more physical contact with the same sex. I read a theory in a psych class that the reason for this is because a female has one more step to make in her sexuality than men do. Both sexes start off with their primary love interest a female.. ie. Mommy. Males simply have to transfer that to another female. Females have to transfer that to a male.. which is a bigger psychological leap. It may be easier for women who have had a good relationship with their father, but a bit more difficult for those who haven't. It's interesting.
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That makes sense. Women are allowed to show affection to other women. Men are afraid people will think they are gay if they show affection to a man - hence the slap on the back when hugging another man - a man hug.
 
I agree. Women have a lot more latitude in that respect. Women can hold each other and comfort one another, Women can more easily dress in male clothing.. ie slacks.. a fitted shirt.. even a tie and coat.. Women are allowed to dance.. Ever go to a wedding and see all the ladies dancing? Girls are always seen holding hands and walking along. In fact, my Grandma and her sister always held hands when they went out shopping especially in the crowded streets of Chicago...so they wouldn't get separated in the mob. These are things men just cannot pull off.. especially in Western Society.. Although men in some countries.. like Italy for example are more demonstrative toward on another.
 
Shalimar said:
I have a female friend who is bisexual. She has been married twice. Her first spouse wasa man who died in 2000. Three years later, she met a wonderful woman whom she married in 2007. She states that, for her, gender is irrelevant, it is the person that she falls in love with. Works for me, especially since her wife has a personality very similar to my friend's first spouse.
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Now someone who falls in love without regard to gender is considered to be "pansexual". That`s a new one for you,huh?
 
QuickSilver said:
I have heard that term.... but I always thought it was without regard for species as well as gender..
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Well now,with "pan" you could be right. My friend from high school has a daughter who identifies herself as pansexual. She is currently in a relationship with a woman but says gender has nothing to do with her choice of partner-that if this partner were male she would love him just the same.
 
pansexuality
One who can love sexually in many forms. Like bisexuality, but even more fluid, a pansexual person can love not only the traditional male and female genders, but also transgendered, androgynous, and gender fluid people.
 
QuickSilver said:
I agree. Women have a lot more latitude in that respect. Women can hold each other and comfort one another, Women can more easily dress in male clothing.. ie slacks.. a fitted shirt.. even a tie and coat.. Women are allowed to dance.. Ever go to a wedding and see all the ladies dancing? Girls are always seen holding hands and walking along. In fact, my Grandma and her sister always held hands when they went out shopping especially in the crowded streets of Chicago...so they wouldn't get separated in the mob. These are things men just cannot pull off.. especially in Western Society.. Although men in some countries.. like Italy for example are more demonstrative toward on another.
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All very true! One of the reasons I'm glad I was born a girl.
 
Ameriscot, I was looking up Scottish jokes on the net, and came across a picture of a sheep wearing a wig, garter belt, black lace stockings, and high heels. Caption, Scottish hooker. Too funny! Hahahahahaha!
 
Shalimar said:
Ameriscot, I was looking up Scottish jokes on the net, and came across a picture of a sheep wearing a wig, garter belt, black lace stockings, and high heels. Caption, Scottish hooker. Too funny! Hahahahahaha!
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Haha! I saw a greeting card that had a lot of sheep on the cover and it said 'which one of these sheep do you find the most attractive?'. On the inside it said 'so, you find sheep attractive?'

If you call Scots sheep shag*ers, the comeback is always, no, that's the Welsh.
 
I thought this was reserved for the Wesh only? the sheep thing.
I don't know any gay people at all, either in my family or friends, but it would not matter too much to me if there were, we only want our children and grandchildren to be happy after all.
 
Ameriscot said:
That makes sense. Women are allowed to show affection to other women. Men are afraid people will think they are gay if they show affection to a man - hence the slap on the back when hugging another man - a man hug.
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I think that there's a "Seinfeld" episode where George Costanza struggles with...whatever it is that he struggles with:

 
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