Same here, I'll never forgive myself for some of what I've done. I think my past is mostly forgotten and forgiven by the few that knew me back in the day, and the people in my life the last forty five years have no idea of my past and hopefully never will.
Do you have any past mistakes from years ago you feel are still held against you?
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I always pray that those I hurt in my earlier life never think of me at all, I was nothing but a black cloud that passed by than disappeared.
Aw Honeynut, clearly nursing wasn't the right profession for her and it's good she figured that out early, and because she didn't have a lawyer she learned a lesson about consequences the other girl didn't.
Well I know two people who haven't forgiven me because one didn't answer my e-mail and the other made it clear she wanted our last phone call to be the very last.
My regret with those two ladies are about what I neglected to do not what I did and nothing compared to my more serious regrets.
This being the Lenten period of repentance, the daily devotional sites are discussing the problem of self-forgiveness. One pastor said this today:
Well I know two people who haven't forgiven me because one didn't answer my e-mail and the other made it clear she wanted our last phone call to be the very last.
My regret with those two ladies are about what I neglected to do not what I did and nothing compared to my more serious regrets.
This being the Lenten period of repentance, the daily devotional sites are discussing the problem of self-forgiveness. One pastor said this today:
Sunkist
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I don't..Oh, boy, where do I start with this one?
I think I'd better leave this thread alone. You all know my story. But I'm interested to read people's replies.
You did your part, it's on them for not even attempting. You can't force people to listen, if they have love in their heart they would have.
I do think the scriptures mention that is needed for one to be forgiven.
roman gupta
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both!Did you mean us or a street gang?
I do the same -torture myself endlessly. All I can do is keep going each day and live and try to be better in the ways I can. There are many people who hold grudges and don't use forgiveness.I’m my worst critic. I have made many past mistakes that I’m ashamed of which I think about often. It does not do me any good rehashing them over again and again but I do. Often I torture myself with my past mistakes needlessly.
I just try to endure, have supportive people in my life, I pray for my own forgiveness. I also pray for others I may have offended.
Well, on those 2 counts, you can make your own destiny, very simple!
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Well we both need to learn to forgive ourselves and move on. Torturing ourselves isn’t healthy on we know that. Its behaviour turned into a bad habit. It’s change worthy behaviour that I’m sure we can pull off if we try.
I have learned to forgive myself about some things but there's more to forgive. It's very true how the self beating has turned into a habit so the habit can be broken by practicing not doing it or replacing it with some other activities.
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Sorry, @Sunkist — I should have said something like "most of the members here," not "you all."
Long story short for you and any other more recent members who may not know: I developed a bad addiction to benzodiazepines after my 2012 divorce. I spiraled downward and downward, and 2018–2019 were particularly bad. I finally hit rock bottom in October of 2019 and getting clean after a week in the hospital. It's not a pretty story.
My youngest child, my son (see my avatar, but he is now 24) has not spoken to me in nearly 7 years. I have made multiple apologies and entreaties to no avail. He has me cut off from virtually every form of communication (blocked my email, phone number, on every form of social media).
I found his address online and sent him a birthday card this past October, simply signed "Love, Mom," and I made a poorly disguised attempt to send him an "anonymous" Christmas gift delivered directly to his work address, using a no-shipping-label option and a shortened form of his first name in an attempt to mask who sent it.
I've cried an ocean of tears over this, and I still do, every day, but I made my bed and now I must lie in it.
Pappy
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I’m sure there are plenty but the ones that stands out is…every car I have ever purchased, used or new, I leave dealership feeling like I’ve been screwed, and probably was.