Do you have any past mistakes from years ago you feel are still held against you?

Aunt Bea said:
Probably but truth be told I’m sure that I’m my harshest critic and hold more against myself than anyone else ever could.
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Same here, I'll never forgive myself for some of what I've done. I think my past is mostly forgotten and forgiven by the few that knew me back in the day, and the people in my life the last forty five years have no idea of my past and hopefully never will.
 
Repondering said:
I've contacted three people whom I treated badly, one from the college years and two from even earlier.
I apologized and voiced regret. All three remembered me and my behavior........they told me not to trouble myself about it,
they had long since forgiven me and my misdeeds.
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I always pray that those I hurt in my earlier life never think of me at all, I was nothing but a black cloud that passed by than disappeared.
 
Aw Honeynut, clearly nursing wasn't the right profession for her and it's good she figured that out early, and because she didn't have a lawyer she learned a lesson about consequences the other girl didn't.

Well I know two people who haven't forgiven me because one didn't answer my e-mail and the other made it clear she wanted our last phone call to be the very last.

My regret with those two ladies are about what I neglected to do not what I did and nothing compared to my more serious regrets.

This being the Lenten period of repentance, the daily devotional sites are discussing the problem of self-forgiveness. One pastor said this today:

To dwell in guilt or shame is to reject the gift of grace. We might feel regret and grief; we might learn from our mistakes and strive not to repeat them. But we do not need to suffer the psychological pain of one who is tortured by a past sin. Whether our sin is as small as a sharp word we spoke to another, or as great as a murder we committed, Christ will forgive us. And if God forgives us, who are we to judge ourselves?
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Della said:
Aw Honeynut, clearly nursing wasn't the right profession for her and it's good she figured that out early, and because she didn't have a lawyer she learned a lesson about consequences the other girl didn't.

Well I know two people who haven't forgiven me because one didn't answer my e-mail and the other made it clear she wanted our last phone call to be the very last.

My regret with those two ladies are about what I neglected to do not what I did and nothing compared to my more serious regrets.

This being the Lenten period of repentance, the daily devotional sites are discussing the problem of self-forgiveness. One pastor said this today:
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You did your part, it's on them for not even attempting. You can't force people to listen, if they have love in their heart they would have.
I do think the scriptures mention that is needed for one to be forgiven.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
I’m my worst critic. I have made many past mistakes that I’m ashamed of which I think about often. It does not do me any good rehashing them over again and again but I do. Often I torture myself with my past mistakes needlessly. 😬
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I do the same -torture myself endlessly. All I can do is keep going each day and live and try to be better in the ways I can. There are many people who hold grudges and don't use forgiveness.


I just try to endure, have supportive people in my life, I pray for my own forgiveness. I also pray for others I may have offended.
 
Ruthanne said:
I do the same -torture myself endlessly. All I can do is keep going each day and live and try to be better in the ways I can. There are many people who hold grudges and don't use forgiveness.


I just try to endure, have supportive people in my life, I pray for my own forgiveness. I also pray for others I may have offended.
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Well we both need to learn to forgive ourselves and move on. Torturing ourselves isn’t healthy on we know that. Its behaviour turned into a bad habit. It’s change worthy behaviour that I’m sure we can pull off if we try.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
Well we both need to learn to forgive ourselves and move on. Torturing ourselves isn’t healthy on we know that. Its behaviour turned into a bad habit. It’s change worthy behaviour that I’m sure we can pull off if we try.
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I have learned to forgive myself about some things but there's more to forgive. It's very true how the self beating has turned into a habit so the habit can be broken by practicing not doing it or replacing it with some other activities.
 
Sunkist said:
I don't..
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Sorry about that, @Sunkist. I should have said something along the lines of "most of you" instead of "you all."

I fell into a vicious benzo addiction several years ago (been clean since 2019), and my son (in my avatar, now 24) has not spoken to me in nearly 7 years. It's a constant heartache but nobody's fault but my own.
 
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KSav said:
Sorry about that, @Sunkist. I should have said something along the lines of "most of you" instead of "you all."

I fell into a vicious benzo addiction several years ago, and my son (in my avatar, now 24) has not spoken to me in nearly 7 years. It's a constant heartache but nobody's fault but my own. (I've been clean since 2019)
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to never forgive is I believe a sin - to be able to forgive yourself is a blessing imo - we all have the choice to watch/see change and forgive - it is a holy blessing!
 
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