Do you think living alone is a big deal?

I would not want to live alone. However, for those that decide to live alone, nothing is wrong with that. My hubby takes care of soo many things around the house. Yes, he has spoiled me but I do not take it for granted. I let him know how much I appreciate him. God forbid anything happen to him before me, I would have someone in my life. I grew up with 5 siblings in the house, therefore I am use to having someone around.
 

jujube said:
I did not like living alone after I lost my husband. I was glad to have another loving relationship happen. I do best with the companionship of another person.

I CAN live alone. I just don't WANT to live alone.
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I would not want to live alone either. God forbid anything happen to my hubby... I would welcome another loving relationship. Like you, I do best with the companionship of another person. A pet just won't do for me.
 
I lived alone for a good part of my life (not considering having my son here and raising him). I like being alone much of the time, which is why, as some here know, I was not in a traditional marriage the second time around. Although I found my (half) siblings later in life, I was raised as an only child and maybe that helps me do well when I'm alone. So to answer you question...no big deal at all.
 
I think the thing is that people are all different. I have always been an introvert and when I was married the first time, I was alone during the day. My son was in school and my husband was at work. I was a stay at home mom. I could do whatever I wanted when I wanted. I was happy.

Now after three failed marriages, I feel free living alone. Of course, I live in the downtown area of a city. I am only alone when I am in inside my apartment. But I am not sitting alone watching tv and being sad. I am doing stuff. Pretty much busy all day. I am in a relationship with a man who is talks to me for hours on the phone every day. I just keep the phone on speaker and do what I am doing. I guess I have the best of both worlds.
 
Maybe the OP didn't mean living alone as much as being single. I don't exactly live alone because I live in a granny flat attached to DD's home but single because I'm widowed. I can come and go, as can my DD and her family, between The Hovel (my home) and their home.

For whatever reason, there used to be a stigma attached to never having been married, especially for older folks. In times past, it was okay for a bachelor son to live with parents and he was considered a "catch," but an unmarried daughter living with her parents was referred to as a spinster and wasn't a "catch" by any stretch of the imagination even if well-educated. Or maybe especially if well-educated!

Younger people now don't seem to give a thought to being/staying single, but unless the single person makes it known that there's an active plan of either paying off student loans or saving to buy a home, that carries a stigma.

How times have changed!
 
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I live alone for most of my life. Some days I enjoy and many I really wish for company and I don't mean the cleaning lady or a neighbor. I wonder if some of the loners who love being alone deep down would prefer a loveable companion--like "sour grapes" ??
Someone nice to talk with
 
I'd rather be alone than with just anyone. I've lived alone for segments of my life. Having been with my husband for nearly 30 years, I know that if he passes first I will be miserable for a while. After the worst is over I will see if I can find a homeless person who is in need of a place to stay for cheap, say maybe share the cost of the utilities with me. Finding the right person would be difficult, but I would hate to be the one living in the street. We need to help each other. I think I may volunteer at an animal shelter...if I'm well enough at the time. The nearest animal shelter is 37 miles away.
 
I had a good marriage and lived happily with my husband for 54 years, until his death. That became the first time in my life I've lived alone, and I found that I like it. I enjoy the independence, the ability to make all the decisions about where to go, what to eat, what to watch on TV, etc.

Of course, it's a lot less enjoyable now, with the quarantine. But I don't imagine that it's exactly a picnic for couples who are stuck in the house with only each other for company, 24 hours a day, either. I'm looking forward to getting back to normal socializing with friends and neighbors; meanwhile, it's not too bad. I can meet and converse with people, with masks on, outside of the building, and then, there's always Zoom.
 
Sunny said:
I had a good marriage and lived happily with my husband for 54 years, until his death. That became the first time in my life I've lived alone, and I found that I like it. I enjoy the independence, the ability to make all the decisions about where to go, what to eat, what to watch on TV, etc.

Of course, it's a lot less enjoyable now, with the quarantine. But I don't imagine that it's exactly a picnic for couples who are stuck in the house with only each other for company, 24 hours a day, either. I'm looking forward to getting back to normal socializing with friends and neighbors; meanwhile, it's not too bad. I can meet and converse with people, with masks on, outside of the building, and then, there's always Zoom.
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Yup, stuck in the house, 24/7, with my husband. I can assure you, it’s no picnic, although we do have ants 😂.
 
I live alone, but am surrounded by many others who also live alone. However, they are more social than I am. I have always been a dreamer and a thinker and with others around it distracts me no end. I had a terrible time convincing my son that he should have his own apartment at age 23. Since he is an only child, I guess he likes having someone around and now that his wife has passed away, he's really lost at times. He's beside himself that I'll be visiting for 2 weeks. Of course that means all his meals made, laundry done, shopping done, house cleaning done, just like the old days. I am being facetious of course, we'll have a great time together as he my best friend in this world. Besides Marley, that is. I love them both dearly.
 
My husband and I have been in the house with each other for 24/7 for nearly thirty years. We are both writers. We do not get in each other's hair. His office is downstairs in the den. Mine is upstairs in the living room. We do fine. He's a nice guy. I dumped two other husbands because they weren't.
 
There‘re a variety of definitions of ’living alone.’ If you have someone to talk to on a regular basis, whether it’s on a device or at your window, that’s not totally being alone. There are many who are truly alone. No one to talk to for days, no one to interact with.
 
Jules said:
There‘re a variety of definitions of ’living alone.’ If you have someone to talk to on a regular basis, whether it’s on a device or at your window, that’s not totally being alone. There are many who are truly alone. No one to talk to for days, no one to interact with.
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SInce I live in the boonies and my family has passed away, if my husband goes first, I will be one of those people. So I have to make plans on how to deal with it. If I go first, he will have to handle it.
 
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