Does Anyone Think about Death?

Mitch86

Mitch86

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I'm 89 and are thinking about death more than I used to in the past. I do not have heart disease or cancer but I am very old. So far medicine does not seem to have a cure for old age. All my former friends are dead and all my parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts and my brother are deceased.

I'd like to see what other oldsters feel about this subject.
 

I only think about death when I think about those friends, family and other people who have passed away that I dearly miss. One thing that I'm grateful for is that I believe that death is not the end. It's not because of religion but just something that as long as I remember is something that's been a part of me.
 
I'm not afraid of dying. I have been fortunate enough to have sat with my husband and both parents during their final minutes. I get a little concerned that I still haven't put my life in order yet. Wills have been made but I just want to make sure my funeral has been paid for. I don't want my boys to be burdened with those last-minute details.
 
What is there to think about.

Death comes like a thief. That is so true!
So there's no need to brace yourself. When it comes, it comes. Hopefully it comes quickly and without prolonged suffering.
Meanwhile, think about life and what it means to you.

I've seen many people die in my lifetime and in every case there wasn't much you can do about it except come to accept it as an inevitable event in everyone's life.

I like the Mark Twain quote...

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I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.
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Mark Twain
 
@ 75, I do think about it on occasion . Mostly that I need to get things in order. I for some reason, I keep procrastinating on that.

I don't fear it, it is just part of life ..... the last part. I am not religious so nothing there. all but one true friend is already gone, never had much family [one half sister] but we're not really close. So ..... just need to get my butt in gear.
 
I've always been kind of a morose person, so yes. Working at not being scared, and being successful at that. I like what @Aunt Bea said, it's all in the details of How, no suffering please, and not too much of a mess for my son to find. I really feel sorry for my son, he's lost many people in his life. He will mourn me & miss me forever, I know my death will hurt him very much and I'm so sorry for that. I sometimes think of apologizing to him in advance for the pain I will cause. Haven't done that yet.
 
I’ve thought about death since I was a little kid. It just seemed remarkable that my little pink hands would one day be old and gnarled as they are now. I’ve never feared it just realized it was there waiting. Now at a measly 71 years of age I think of it less often. Maybe it just doesn’t seem so remarkable any more.
 
I think about death too and I'm not afraid of it but I do fear a long drawn out suffering exit from life. And I'm anxious to use the time I have left usefully.
Also, I believe my consciousness will continue on its journey after my body dies. Using what time I have left in the world usefully and with some meaning is a preparation for that continued journey.
 
Pepper said:
I've always been kind of a morose person, so yes. Working at not being scared, and being successful at that. I like what @Aunt Bea said, it's all in the details of How, no suffering please, and not too much of a mess for my son to find. I really feel sorry for my son, he's lost many people in his life. He will mourn me & miss me forever, I know my death will hurt him very much and I'm so sorry for that. I sometimes think of apologizing to him in advance for the pain I will cause. Haven't done that yet.
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That's exactly how I feel. I don't worry about death for myself, but about how my son will be able to live the rest of his life. It would be different if he had a wife and children or even a close friend, but it's just me and my husband who is his step-father. His father is still alive but not in good health.

Other than that I don't think about death except when I think about getting a puppy.
 
I find it odd that in this age, where so many ideas that were previously taboo, have become main stream topics of conversation, DEATH remains one of the subjects that MOST people are not willing to talk about openly ? I think that the wealthy First World nations have a hard time deciding how to deal with what is, after all, an end that we will all face sometime in the future. In the ten years that I spent working in the Ambulance business here in Toronto, I saw a lot of deaths. Some go quietly, others not so much.

My Ambulance partner Randy, was a Salvation Army believer, and we had many long discussions during the night shift, about the "after life ". He and I were very opposite, in terms of what we thought happens, after you die. He followed the idea that " Heaven Awaits Us " while I said " You die, that is the end of it ".

Over the years that we worked together, we agreed to dis-agree on that subject. I will give Randy his due, he never ever allowed his personal religious point of view to get in the way of his patient care duties. There was one Ambulance supervisor that was well known in the job for pushing his religious views onto those employees that he was in charge of. He was eventually moved to an office job at HQ, where he wasn't able to do that. JIM.
 
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