Thanks for the encouragement, everyone.
I'm not a mean-spirited person and I avoid confrontation at all costs. I don't even "fight" with my husband because, after all, we have to live together...right???
I know you didn't ask for any details, but let me give you a little background. Maybe it's me. Maybe I'm being too sensitive...IDK.
We moved here to AZ in 2014. It was what my husband wanted to do, so that's what we did. His kids lived, at that time, in CA. I was happy that they were 350 miles away so we only saw them once a month. Right after we moved here, Jennifer (the "sniper") announced they were selling their house in CA and moving here. I asked her if she was sure that's what they wanted to do...meaning her and her husband, because he's not a person to be out of his comfort zone. He was born and raised there and didn't want to come here but she forced the situation, so they sold their home; she moved here; he stayed there for the past 3 1/2 years and used any excuse to delay his move. It's a complicated situation. He finally came the end of October.
Last Saturday (the 2nd) was my husband's birthday. They said they couldn't come because they were going to Las Vegas (we're only 100 miles away) to Ikea, so David and I had steaks on the grill and I baked him a birthday cake. She never phoned or texted her dad. He waited all day to hear from her.
They came on Sunday and while David was outside with her dog, I asked why she didn't call her dad on his birthday. She said, "Well, we were coming today. Besides, I never know who's phone I should be calling." I thought...really?...that's your excuse? Come to find out...they didn't go to Vegas to Ikea. So, we played Chicken Foot and usually we take a break about half way through and have a dessert of some kind that I've made, so I asked if they wanted some birthday cake. She said, "no thanks. We're on the Keto diet". I thought...why would you start a diet at this time of the year??? So, we played on and I ended up winning, which is unusual, because she usually wins. She said, "Well...you won again." She gets all snippy if she ends up losing a round and makes comments about me "blocking" her moves.
Her dad asked what they were going to get at Ikea and said I had just gotten a new dresser (not from Ikea) and would she like to see it? She made a comment...what, you're getting rid of some more furniture??? We had downsized when we moved here to AZ 5 years ago. She looked at it and said, "Kinda small, isn't it?" She picks at everything. She even has the nerve to ask me if I'm ever going to put anything up on one of my kitchen walls. That's really funny because she lives in a pig pen. I won't go over there unless I absolutely have no choice. She was raised like that with her mother and doesn't think any thing of it, but yet, she's always finding fault with everything I do or say.
There's a ton of things more, but you get the idea. She's always right...about EVERYTHING....and you can't give any advice or opinion because she doesn't want any.
I dread tomorrow