Finding Love in the Era of Covid

Murrmurr said:
One of the things that felt special about this relationship was that it did start slow. It had sort of an old-fashion feel because we social-distanced, and while distancing we had nothing much to do except talk. We did that for a few weeks or so and didn't get *closer* until we were both confident that it was safe. Part of the problem could be that she's only 38. I'm 65. We did talk about this (a lot), but she said the age gap wasn't an issue for her. It isn't for me, either because we do have a lot of interests in common and we were very comfortable with each other.

I sent her flowers today and will wait and see what happens.
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Wow, quite an age gap! Not that age should really matter with true love, but in this case I'm concerned for you and your well being. Be careful and keep your mind open to what is happening there. Good luck.
 

SeaBreeze said:
Wow, quite an age gap! Not that age should really matter with true love, but in this case I'm concerned for you and your well being. Be careful and keep your mind open to what is happening there. Good luck.
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tbf, when I first saw her I thought she was older, closer to mid-forties. Not so much bc of her looks but the way she carries herself, like someone who has it all together, if you get what I mean. Plus she has a couple of grey streaks in her hair (they're pretty). And she thought I was in my 50s, so apparently she's attracted to older men anyway.

Anyhow, I'm not going to let her get tied down to this old man.
 
SeaBreeze said:
I'm more concerned about the 'old' man, not so much her. We don't know each other well, but I feel I 'got your back'....don't want you to be unhappy or stressed. ☮️
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Thank you, Sea. That's very kind. Things haven't worked out as I hoped with Michelle but when she told me she's only 38, I figured we might have problems sooner or later. Not these problems, though.
 
Murrmurr said:
Thank you, Sea. That's very kind. Things haven't worked out as I hoped with Michelle but when she told me she's only 38, I figured we might have problems sooner or later. Not these problems, though.
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Had to get up and take some medicine so I peeked in and saw this. Back when I was 35 I was pursued by a 23 yr old. *Grins* I knew it would never last but I chose to just enjoy it for all it was worth until it was no more. Had a helluva good time. But it did finally end. Some things in life just aren't meant to be. And they don't always have to be. 🐚
 
Murrmurr said:
Actually, her income is quite a bit better than mine. I can see it would be pretty convenient for her if I moved in her place or her in mine, but honestly, I like my place, like my space and my alone time, plus my former foster son sometimes spends weekends with me and my 2 youngest grandkids stay up to a week a couple times a month and there's certain things we like to do; watch off the wall movies and stuff. So, nah. And yes, it moved too fast.

I like Michelle really a LOT, I just don't want to live with her.
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So you want a woman in your life but not in your house. There’s nothing wrong with that. But if that does not match her needs it’s time to look elsewhere.
 
Brookswood said:
I have a former female coworker who had suggested a FWB relationship for us. I doubt I would be her only FWB guy friend. She has told me about several of the men in her past. I gave her a polite No.
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I was talking to a group of golden girls who engage in FWBs and they said most were no BIG deal 🤣 🤭. They said the biggest advantage is not having to worry about forgetting the pill. But I cautioned them about STDs, from which they aren't exempt.
 
Just want to put this out there.

Last year, I bought myself one of those Purple mattresses. They're basically foam mattresses but the design is unique and the foam itself is too. It's kind of jelly-rubbery stuff. And it's purple. Well, I sleep like a baby on it (no back pain) so I went back to the website to see if they had kid mattresses. They don't (cuz, lots of regulations) but they had pet beds. So I ordered a large (Great Dane size) pet bed for Collin. It's like 35"x47" - something like that - so it didn't fit the youth bed I got him, but that's okay bc the youth bed was too narrow (he's a big guy for his age). I built a tent to fit over/around it and he loved it even more. Anyhow, I thought CPS would take issue with one of their kids sleeping on a pet bed on the floor but both his workers loved it.

(Put this in the wrong thread, but whatever. It's staying.)
 
hellomimi said:
I was talking to a group of golden girls who engage in FWBs and they said most were no BIG deal 🤣 🤭. They said the biggest advantage is not having to worry about forgetting the pill. But I cautioned them about STDs, from which they aren't exempt.
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Exactly. I suspect she probably had an STD or would have one eventually. She just liked men too much.

One of the great things about older women is that they don't get pregnant. A buddy of mine married a 20 year younger gal in her early 40's. At 65 he is now the father of two year old twins. Better him than me.

Another acquaintance is 70 with a newborn. Again, a 40 year old wife. What is it with those 40 year old women? Is it their mission to give children to old men?:rolleyes:
 
Kathleen’s Place said:
That is cool! Bet he will/does love it💕
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I had to move it into my room. There's a small alcove in my room where I had a large bureau - I moved that to another wall and set up Collin's tent-bed there. He doesn't like sleeping in his room anymore, so it's his playroom now. About 50% of the time, at around 3am, he'll crawl in bed with me, but the rest of the time he sleeps in his own bed until we get up in the morning. The most amazing thing is he stopped waking up screaming (maybe nightmares?) ever since I got him this bed. I used to have to jump out of bed 2 or 3 times every night bc he'd wake up screaming and/or crying...sort of wake up. Most of the time he was still kind of asleep. Anyway, that stopped after he got his new bed.
 
Murrmurr said:
I had to move it into my room. There's a small alcove in my room where I had a large bureau - I moved that to another wall and set up Collin's tent-bed there. He doesn't like sleeping in his room anymore, so it's his playroom now. About 50% of the time, at around 3am, he'll crawl in bed with me, but the rest of the time he sleeps in his own bed until we get up in the morning. The most amazing thing is he stopped waking up screaming (maybe nightmares?) ever since I got him this bed. I used to have to jump out of bed 2 or 3 times every night bc he'd wake up screaming and/or crying...sort of wake up. Most of the time he was still kind of asleep. Anyway, that stopped after he got his new bed.
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I wonder if the tent like walls make him feel safe, like a cocoon?
 

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