Warrigal
SF VIP
- Location
- Sydney, Australia
I am a firm believer that funerals are for the living, not the dead. I also believer that the dead are no longer present, hence the term "the dear departed".Plans made years ago. Everything from cremation & burial plot to organizing all financial information. Sons made aware of everything planned out. Wasn't fun but having covered the inevitable removes the worst part for surviving family members. That part being what needs to be done.
It is important that the dear departed's memory is honoured appropriately and there is nothing wrong with expressing our preferences before we go but I hesitate to bind my children to a wish that they cannot fulfill. With that in mind, Hubby and I have gone to the funeral parlour of our choice and made arrangements for a pretty standard cremation. I expect the service will take place at our church but when the time comes that may no longer make sense, so that detail will be left to our children. The finances are all in place and all that is still to be decided are the details of the service, including the music. I'm still thinking about those details but they should be different for each of us, reflecting our values and personalities.
There will be plenty of money left over for a big party.