Got a Case of the Lonelies, Anyone Else?

Ruthanne said:
I think we all experience grief in our own unique ways. Everyone's experiences are valid and real and painful. We all deserve acknowledgement that we are valid and so are our life experiences. I didn't actually get into it what I've been feeling but I have been thinking of all the losses I've had and being without my family members, friends, and pets. There is a void for each I've lost. I haven't fully grieved my losses especially my parents who meant so much to me. I am allowing myself to just think of them and how much I've missed them. I can sort this out ok. I'm a pretty private person these days and deal the best I can.

I'm sorry you've lost so many, too. This makes life which is hard as we age even more difficult.

I try and soothe my soul with music and movies. Coming here helps too.
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Yes, the losses make life harder as we age. I'm trying not to be too needy, but every little bit of TLC helps. Today I had to navigate the real world and take care of responsibilities before the weekend, so I haven't been online too much. I'm so tired. When I sit at the table I can see and type better. When I'm in the recliner sometimes I can't see as well and won't get out to get my glasses, especially if it's unplugged due to weather. I sat at the table thinking that would help, but I'm too tired to think. It's been a long day, but thankful to have accomplished what I set out to do. I'm so glad you shared. I'll write more sometime soon.
 
Going to jump in here, while the computer is working right. Yes, Ruth Anne, I get VERY lonely sometimes. I used to want to be a single guy, and avoid all the drama of a relationship, but I have started talking a lot to a lot of women, and have asked very casually hinted about going out sometime, but haven't had any bites yet.

I had a few women ask me out a year ago, believe it or not, but I said no, due to fear of needing Vxxxxx. Maybe just ride off into the sunset and age gracefully, ha ha. I am 68.

But yeah, I get so lonely I just want to hug any attractive woman I see. And there a lots of 70 something women I I find attractive, by the way. Plus 60 something women, of course.
 
officerripley said:
It seems to be the same for face-to-face groups. Although there are few of any kind of face2face support groups around here anymore, when there were there were widowhood groups but none for divorcees.
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Around here, which is Pa, churches have face to face in person support groups. The latest one I attended was a grief support group when I lost my girl friend a few years ago.

It's true I haven't noticed any divorce support groups lately, but there was a good one, at my church, many years ago when I divorced.

I find all these in person groups enormously helpful, mainly just to have some live people to vent to, who get it.
 
So what's happening with y'all today? I'm still trying to wake up. I am taking muscle relaxers for the pain in my upper arms. I don't know what's wrong with them. They are very painful. Anyways the tablets make me sleepy.

Doggy is cuddling up with me.
 
Lest I forget.Today I am glad I'm alone. There are two horrible women here in town who phone me occassionally. They are, in reality, manipulating workers of misery. I call them the Daughters of Discord and after using me to talk their nonsense two days in a row, I was hyperventilating all afternoon. I'd rather be lonely than deal with "friends" like that.
 
Judycat said:
Lest I forget.Today I am glad I'm alone. There are two horrible women here in town who phone me occassionally. They are, in reality, manipulating workers of misery. I call them the Daughters of Discord and after using me to talk their nonsense two days in a row, I was hyperventilating all afternoon. I'd rather be lonely than deal with "friends" like that.
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I'm glad I'm living alone, too, but do still get lonesome. Don't you ever? I guess there are some who never get lonely but I'm not one of them.

Sounds like a bad experience you had with those 2 ladies. Whatever did they tell you that got you hyperventilating??
 
Ruthanne said:
I'm glad I'm living alone, too, but do still get lonesome. Don't you ever? I guess there are some who never get lonely but I'm not one of them.

Sounds like a bad experience you had with those 2 ladies. Whatever did they tell you that got you hyperventilating??
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They were trying to dump a problem they created in my lap and wouldn't take no for an answer. My life is full of problems I have to solve on my own and they together couldn't take care of one by themselves. Grow up already. Or go bother someone else. Which they did, but they wound me up good first.
 
I think we all get lonesome at times. When I was married I did too. Maybe lonesome for how life used to be? I’m a binge watcher Hulu and Netflix. I try to get out every day since I’m not working at the moment, even to just walk around a store and interact with people.
 
First, do not look disabled or even act, Likewise. The moment I pull into the disabled spot most do not even look in my direction.

Guessing a good way to not be hit on, even better, if one uses a scooter.

A scooter is too heavy for me to lift, so I just suffer, hopefully, l can find a ramp.

Having a hidden disability is my issue. Cannot stand, walk, sit or lift anything.
 
Chris21E said:
First, do not look disabled or even act, Likewise. The moment I pull into the disabled spot most do not even look in my direction.

Guessing a good way to not be hit on, even better, if one uses a scooter.

A scooter is too heavy for me to lift, so I just suffer, hopefully, l can find a ramp.

Having a hidden disability is my issue. Cannot stand, walk, sit or lift anything.All try n err BB estroyou
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I use to get lonely from time to time, but no longer. True, I don't have anyone to talk to, and I would like to discuss things occasionally, I don't feel lonely.
Maybe it's because my interests are very, very rarely the same as others. Cooking is the love of my life, and, unfortunately, I have yet to encounter a woman who shares that passion.
 
senior chef said:
I use to get lonely from time to time, but no longer. True, I don't have anyone to talk to, and I would like to discuss things occasionally, I don't feel lonely.
Maybe it's because my interests are very, very rarely the same as others. Cooking is the love of my life, and, unfortunately, I have yet to encounter a woman who shares that passion.
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Yes, you really do get lonely 🥺
 

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