Linda
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No I haven't.
I don’t think that’s a fair statement, @win231 You’re talking about empathy, (walking in someone else’s shoes, feeling what they feel) and though I’m a highly empathetic person, there are plenty of decisions people make/actions they take that I simply cannot fathom, in spite of my empathetic nature.You "don't understand why" they committed suicide because you probably don't have the ability to put yourself in someone else's shoes.
@Ronni I see a variety of reasons these mass shooters do what they do. To name a few, military PTSD, Social Rejection (Loners), addiction to mind-altering Drugs laced with bad stuff, mind-altering violent video game obsessions, sociopathic and psychopathic tendencies of course, and ease of which to steal or buy used weapons. In Texas and Ohio, it's legal to buy these high-powered firearms... the type of military-style rifles that are often used in mass shootings.Mass shootings...There is no way I will ever understand the mindset that compels a shooter to that, no matter how empathetic I am...I don’t understand why Anthony Bourdain committed suicide as another example, other than the intellectual knowledge that depressed people sometimes do. But the specifics of his life give me few insight about why he was depressed ..he seemed to have everything goin for him.
TrueActually Trade, I think your poem is well written and quite haunting
InterestingI felt like maybe Bourdain was involved in some sort of "secrets about to be exposed" since it was such a focus of interest in that episode instead of food. But that was only me overthinking...perhaps.
I read an article in Psychology Today that caused me to abandon my theory in post#56. I now think that was just some crazy coincidence.Interesting. At least that's something. Bourdain's end up has greatly puzzled me...
My daughter hung herself. She suffered from bi-polar disorder for ten years. That's about the maximum these sufferers make it with her bi-polar type. She was an intelligent girl who had herself under the care of doctors and psychiatrists and psychologists but they couldn't save her. It was very difficult for her because she'd be doing fine then everything became too loud, too bright, too much that she would just shut down for months. Holding down a steady job was impossible. When the mental disorder began to affect her body, causing physical pain on top of the mental anguish, I think that's when she decided she had had enough. Most everyone she knew, but of course our family, had no idea she suffered from a mental disorder. Please be kind to others, you really never know what they are going through. Thank you.
I read an article in Psychology Today that caused me to abandon my theory in post#56. I now think that was just some crazy coincidence.
The article was saying that Anthony Bourdain fell deeply in love with his girlfriend from Paris to the point of not focusing anymore on the love of others, like his daughter. He told people that Paris was a great place to be in love and was falling more in love with the city of Paris as well.
Meanwhile, his girlfriend was cavorting around Paris with a photographer while Bourdain was in another country shooting a show. His GF and her photographer "friend" were both in many of the pics hugging, etc. Someone sent him one or more pics. Also were dancing together etc. He told his friend at dinner and the next morning didn't show up for breakfast.
His girlfriend was questioned and said they had an open relationship and wasnt her fault but rather ABourdain's choice.
rgpI'll likely catch allot of flack for this but ..... Here goes.
I'll likely catch allot of flack for this but ..... Here goes.
If the above is accurate it furthers my view / opinion on love . I truly think some folks just take it too damn far / to damn seriously .
Look at the divorce rate & how it is, look a the marriage rate & how it has dropped. Most of this has happened since in the last 50? years people have discovered that they do not need a spouse. It is perfectly OK for a man & or a woman to live their lives completely with out a spouse, even an S.O.
When people [the gender does not matter] become so immersed in the idea of being in love ..... that's when trouble begins. I question sometimes, are/were they in-love with that person ? or in-love with being in-love? Remember the song ...[You're nobody till somebody loves you] ? One of the worst songs ever written, it implies just what the title states. Yes I now, it's only a song but ..... too some, songs are the holly-grail of life. Just like soap-operas , movies, etc. They really believe that they should follow the example set forth by theses entertainments. They have a hard time separating actual life from fictional life, and when they cannot achieve what they want for themselves they just start to unravel . They cannot grasp that they are JUST FINE as they are, just being THEMSELVES. And as such they start heading down hill.
Love / being in love, is way over hyped and has for years caused allot of pain to many,many people.
IMO if a person wants a spouse, an S.O. fine ..... go pick one ..... but do not invest your life, your very being in that person. They're not worth it, or at the very least may not be ........... we never know what is in their mind & heart ..... [yes i know the heart is a muscle that pumps blood.] it has nothing to do with emotion .....the above is just a saying. But you get my meaning.
Agree with a lot of what you say, but believe you're using the word love in some cases for infatuation and/or obsession, neither of which is love.
I'm just not sure there is love ? What is it ?
Loving someone is being concerned for them at least equal to or more than being concerned about yourself. And I don't mean saving someone from drowning or other life-threatening events, but concerned about the whole person. That's love to me. And I mean that not just for parent and child, but also for any SO's in your life.