How Competitive are You?

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Do you like to be right? Will you argue and debate to prove a point. Do you love to win at games? Do you get a charge out of outdoing others?
 

I'm not very competitive at all. Biggest thing I was competitive on was when one of my dogs was a puppy and I took him to obedience classes. At the end of the course we had an obstacle course where it was a race to go through and over things with our puppy. We did good and came in first place, he won a huge rawhide bone and some other goodies. Playing games was always the fun for me, it never upset me if I didn't win, and I don't bother to argue with people, I tell them my thoughts and opinions and they can take them or leave them, I don't feel the need to prove anything to others or be the one who's always 'right'.
 
I don't think I am very competitive at all. I grew up in a professional household, with a mother who was a raging narcissist. Cannot remember a time when she did not compete with me for attention, Bragging rights, etc. She was never wrong, debate was not an option. I would not wish to treat others in that belittling fashion. I compete with me, attempt to be the best human I can . Always under construction.lol. Will debate a point if I believe in it to be important enough to merit wider exposure, otherwise, at some point walk away. Have been converted to doubt, being right not necessary, being kind is.
 

I don't always have to win but if someone keeps telling me I'm wrong when I know I'm right, my hackles go up, and I'll go all out to prove I'm right. But I don't like that I feel I need to do this. I wish I could just let it go more often than I do.
 
I don't know that I am horribly competitive, but I am extremely goal oriented.. I have to have a goal in front of me to keep me going, and if you believe there is some truth to Astrological signs... I am a true Capricorn.. the goat always climbing.
 
I think I used to be more competitive than I am now. If I were having a discussion with someone I would really want them to understand my point of view and would be very keen on expressing it. The other day I was playing a board game with friends and found myself winning and getting quite energized by it. It was fun to win for a change, as I usually didn't do so well on certain games.

In my high school years, the culture was geared to be competitive, especially about grades, sports and appearance for girls. During my working years, things could get pretty competitive when people were trying to get a promotion, but generally I find that most people behave well and don't get cutthroat. I think women in particular have come a long way in this regard, being supportive of each other rather than seeing other women as a threat, as they might have done in previous decades.
 
Cookie said:
Do you like to be right? Will you argue and debate to prove a point. Do you love to win at games? Do you get a charge out of outdoing others?
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When it comes to games and such, not competitive at all. When it comes to knowing facts about issues, it is worth doing the research and debating.
 
I am competitive and always have been, both in sports and business. I enjoy winning and can handle loosing with grace. I played basket ball, swam competively, raquet ball, golf, financial sales & marketing.
 
Growing up as an only child does not prepare you for the competitive aspects of life. And so unprepared I entered every endeavor psychologically prepared to fail. I have indeed become if I may say do myself and elegant loser but at the same time genuinely surprised when something goes well.
 
Perhaps its natural to be competitive and we can spin this around to be something positive. I notice men are fine with it yet many women may believe it's not so great. I think the world is naturally a competitive place, like it or not, everything and everyone competes for survival. We compete in all areas of life - purchasing a house, getting a job, playing games, entering contests, on and on and on. I think it's a great way to get better at what we do, without necessarily being aggressive about it.
 
I've never been competitive, even less competitive now. If competition is natural, I'm an unnatural soul.
 
The natural world that Charles Darwin thought so long and hard about is all about competition for resources. Evolution took place as individuals with slight genetic advantages competed more successfully and passed their genetic advantages on to their offspring. Human society is really the only phenomenon that life has produced that has somewhat altered the competitive rules, but the basic competitive instinct is still there in our genes. Still I'm glad that our mating rituals don't involve running at full speed head first into our competition.
 
I'm not at all competitive and I don't have to win anything. I can be a bit needy for attention though.
I am an extrovert and I love engaging with people, particularly in the area of ideas.
That's why I'm on this forum.

I have some strong views that I tend to bang on about but over my lifetime I have changed my position on many things that I thought were absolutes.
Most recently I did a 180 degree turn on same sex marriage after spending a lot of time talking to some lesbian mothers on a different forum.

When I'm arguing a particular point, I am testing it rather than attempting to win against some other poster's point of view.
 
I am certainly not into competitive sports. I can be competitive in conversation if I feel strongly about something. And I'm extremely competitive at Scrabble. Yeah, at least two people I know refuse to play the game with me any more. My bad. :(
 
Josiah said:
Growing up as an only child does not prepare you for the competitive aspects of life. And so unprepared I entered every endeavor psychologically prepared to fail. I have indeed become if I may say do myself and elegant loser but at the same time genuinely surprised when something goes well.
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I grew up as a spoiled, only child but it did not seem to have any bearing on my being competitive.
 

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