How good are we at coping with being ignored, (I'm not good, just watch what happens if this thread gets ignored!)

How to cope depends on the circumstances and situation. Sometimes I’d rather just blend into the woodwork, sometimes it’s inconvenient or irritating if I’m trying to get someone to do something, and once in a great while painful. I have no easy answers to offer.
 

grahamg said:
Are you all sure you're not ignoring me?

(here is an article you should read on the topic, to appreciate the repercussions of "your actions/inaction"):

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/Feb/15/why-is-he-ignoring-me-google

(can someone successfully post the link, as I'm struggling!)
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Nope not ignoring you. Just pushing to see what you will come up with. Tried the link & got this.
Sorry – we haven’t been able to serve the page you asked for.
You may have followed an outdated link, or have mistyped a URL. If you believe this to be an error please report it.
 
My problem is that I retain a lot of trivia and seem to unleased it at inopportune moments.
What might seem interesting to me, probably other could really give a 'hoot' about.
I understand this, but for some reason I continue on.
Another take on 'Ignore'.

I just developed thicker skin.
 
Depends on the situation. If I was talking in a meeting during my working days I was very irritated about being ignored, especially by someone who talked over me. Now that I am retired, I really don't care who ignores me. In fact, I relish it.

I would imagine young people on Social Media who are ignored are devastated. Not me. I would love it if I didn't have send reactions to all the people on Facebook who wish me a Happy Birthday. :LOL:
 
grahamg said:
I was ignored recently, (may have mentioned the incident on another thread!), but it highlights a bit of an issue I guess I've got concerning my tolerance of being ignored, and I suspect, as I get older, I'll have to learn to get better in this regard! :( ( :) )
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I don't like it when I am ignored. It's a type of rejection, especially if I know the person well. However, they might be having a bad day or stressed out. I've also learned to "get better in this regard" so hang in there. You're not alone!
 
I started with ignoring people posting what felt like opposed value comments. It does feel personal, which is kinda weird. There are no REAL repercussions to posting 1's and 0's ( except in some social media arenas ), but here I don't think we are any danger. So I do not ignore anyone on SF anymore. In fact the mere action of realizing this has given me a totally different perspective on the people I HAD ignored. :)

“You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time”.”​


John Lydgate​

 
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Warrigal said:
Having been born female I have had a lifetime of being ignored.
Welcome to our world, Gentlemen. You get used to it.
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I'd argue the opposite may be true, as most females I come across experience plenty of attention from any men in the vicinity, (and know just how to get themselves noticed, but perhaps that isn't what you meant! :unsure::(:whistle::sneaky: ).
 
Pepper said:
OP sounds like it was written by a 3 year old. Do we never grow up?
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Maybe not you know, (you're obviously excluding yourself from this assessment on maturity I'm guessing?).

However, I've grown up a little over my lifetime, so much so I dont feel the need to chuck in criticisms so often as I might once have done, or be too "judgemental", (as my father would have called it).

Dont forget too we're all probably heading towards our "second childhood", as the years go by, so you may look forward to something just around the corner perhaps(?)

Quote:
Second childhood:

"a period in someone's adult life when they act as a child, either for fun or as a consequence of reduced mental capabilities."

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/1297637/

Extract:
"Throughout Western history scholars and writers have characterized old age as a period of a second childhood and childish behavior. The second childhood stereotype has endured and finds expression in numerous works of literature, in a variety of historical contexts including ancient through contemporary times. Explanations for this stereotype were linked to the humoral theory of aging, the perceived and actual dependency of older people for care, dementia, and other ties between childhood and old age. The second childhood was also interpreted as a stage of life where the lifecycle returned to its beginning. The stereotype, while predominantly viewed as negative, may also be viewed in a positive light and underscores the duality and ambiguity that characterized the way older people have been viewed in Western history. The stereotype, while enduring, may have been more prevalent during certain periods, such as those periods when older people were devalued. Cultural representations and more importantly interpretations have also varied within historical context."
 

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