How well do you handle rejection?

Mirabilis said:
Back in my corporate days I remember attending some sales seminar. I never was into Sales but I do remember they covered rejection. If you did not get a NO today you did not try hard enough. They actually told us to make it a goal to get a number of Noes everyday and BE HAPPY about it because it represented the fact that we tried. I think we need to look at life like that. On a more intimate level, it hurts, but with enough self-esteem we should be able to understand that we all have different needs and expectations and we should be able to recover and move on.
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Thanks M, I feel way better, I am getting a lots of no's, and I was worried if I was even trying, LOL!! Not now, you made may day!!
 
i_am_Lois said:
Looking for employment I'd go out and apply for many jobs. I always anticipated a high rejection rate. I wouldn't apply at just one place and be devastated when not accepted.

A more personal rejection, such as a partner in a relationship wanting to end things is much harder for me to deal with.

Applying for work is only hopeful anticipation.
A relationship is different because I've invested so much emotion, time and money. Then to deal with a broken heart.
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That's been my point Lois, certain forms of rejection are easier to brush off then others.
The more personal it is, the harder to dismiss.
 
Mirabilis said:
Back in my corporate days I remember attending some sales seminar. I never was into Sales but I do remember they covered rejection. If you did not get a NO today you did not try hard enough. They actually told us to make it a goal to get a number of Noes everyday and BE HAPPY about it because it represented the fact that we tried. I think we need to look at life like that. On a more intimate level, it hurts, but with enough self-esteem we should be able to understand that we all have different needs and expectations and we should be able to recover and move on.
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Jobhunting brings rejection to new levels and the determination and big picture factor needs to kick in. When I got a no it just spurred me on. But by nature I am extremely determined so it wasn't a big stretch for me.
 
That Guy said:
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Haaaa, spoken like a true New Yorker!
 
Fear of rejection is very powerful. It is the reason we develop various personas that hide a lot of who we really are. Then if one of these personas is rejected, it hurts a lot less than if we reveal our true self and then suffer rejection. It's the reason why we hold back some aspects of who were are, even from our intimates. Actually, especially our intimates, because they have the greatest power to wound us by rejecting us.

It takes a lot of courage to drop the seventh veil and reveal ourselves fully to someone we love but it is important to take the risk.
 
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Warrigal said:
Fear of rejection is very powerful. It is the reason we develop various personas that hide a lot of who we really are. Then if one of these personas is rejected, it hurts a lot less than if were reveal our true self and then suffered rejection. It's the reason why we hold back some aspects of who were are, even from our intimates. Actually, especially our intimates, because they have the greatest power to wound us by rejecting us.

It takes a lot of courage to drop the seventh veil and reveal ourselves fully to someone we love but it is important to take the risk.
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Well said, Warrigal! In some the fear of rejection can cripple them for life emotionally.
 
As a young boy I was bothered when somebody didn't accept or like me. Slowly learned . . . ya just can't please everyone. Being a person with deep feelings, rejection of any kind still hurts but am able to let it go and move on...
 
That Guy said:
As a young boy I was bothered when somebody didn't accept or like me. Slowly learned . . . ya just can't please everyone. Being a person with deep feelings, rejection of any kind still hurts but am able to let it go and move on...
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You do learn to deal with it better as time passes. You are less influenced by others opinions I think in general.
 
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