I Can't Stand for People to Give Me 'Gifts.'

Remy

Remy

Well-known Member
Location
California, USA
Presents. Anything. I can't keep it. I have nothing my mother or stepfather gave me. They gave me some gold earrings and a blue topaz necklace years ago. All given to the thrift store or given to someone. I don't want them. Never wore them. The one pair of earrings I really liked. Surprisingly. I'd try them on but could never wear them. I finally gave them to a co-worker. They were real gold and diamond.
 

Remy said:
Presents. Anything. I can't keep it. I have nothing my mother or stepfather gave me. They gave me some gold earrings and a blue topaz necklace years ago. All given to the thrift store or given to someone. I don't want them. Never wore them. The one pair of earrings I really liked. Surprisingly. I'd try them on but could never wear them. I finally gave them to a co-worker. They were real gold and diamond.
Click to expand...
May I ask why? šŸ¤—
 
@Shalimar I'm not 100% sure. Regarding my mother and stepfather it's high resentment. My stepfather gave me some coins a few years back thinking it was a nice gift. I threw them on the floor of the coat closet. I finally took them to a buy gold place that had good reviews online. I took them and a ring (again) that had been gifted to me by someone else. The coins were real. I got well over a thousand dollars for everything.
 

Remy said:
@Shalimar I'm not 100% sure. Regarding my mother and stepfather it's high resentment. My stepfather gave me some coins a few years back thinking it was a nice gift. I threw them on the floor of the coat closet. I finally took them to a buy gold place that had good reviews online. I took them and a ring (again) that had been gifted to me by someone else. The coins were real. I got well over a thousand dollars for everything.
Click to expand...
I commend you for doing what was right for you. When I was able to buy this condo, outright, after my motherā€™s death, people expected me to be grateful for my inheritance. Fk no, reparations, in my book. Inadequate ones, at that.

We have triggers, you and I, and all others like us. We simply do the best we can. Do you know you have a warriorā€™s heart? Even wounded as you are, you

never give up. You endure, day after day after day. This is what courage is. This is what strength is. The love you canā€™t give to people, you give to cats, yours, and

ferals. Your spirit is bruised, not broken. Someone once said the strongest characters are full of scars. I admire you very much, Remy.ā¤ļø
 
Remy said:
@Shalimar I'm not 100% sure. Regarding my mother and stepfather it's high resentment. My stepfather gave me some coins a few years back thinking it was a nice gift. I threw them on the floor of the coat closet. I finally took them to a buy gold place that had good reviews online. I took them and a ring (again) that had been gifted to me by someone else. The coins were real. I got well over a thousand dollars for everything.
Click to expand...
It seems you like the money well enough....
 
Remy said:
Presents. Anything. I can't keep it. I have nothing my mother or stepfather gave me. They gave me some gold earrings and a blue topaz necklace years ago. All given to the thrift store or given to someone. I don't want them. Never wore them. The one pair of earrings I really liked. Surprisingly. I'd try them on but could never wear them. I finally gave them to a co-worker. They were real gold and diamond.
Click to expand...
Wanna be friends?

liv laughing 2.jpg
 
How about gifts of food, candy or flowers?

MIL gave me some odd things,, that I didn't care for.
You would have realize that MIL grew up dirt poor.
When she saw something bright it became hers or maybe yours.

Have I mentioned that my niece found a short piece MIL wrote about her childhood?
No food for days
Or how her father chased her mother though the woods with a loaded gun.
 
Today I was just thinking about this. I hate getting gifts. If I want something, Iā€™ll buy it. I feel guilty when I end up donating it and thereā€™s a 99.99% chance Iā€™ll be getting rid of it.

Former neighbours were given a house sign with their names on it. Because her name was long, they abbreviated it. She hated being called that name, yet had to live with it to be polite.
 
Gifts! I thought it was Gif's! :)

giphy.gif
 
The only present I never accepted was a yearly cheque from my mom. Iā€™d rather my mom buy me a cup of coffee and come visit than send me a cheque. I sent the cheque back to her every time. She took it as ungrateful. I took it as an easy way out of celebrating oneā€™s birthday. šŸ„³

Note/ I love getting gifts. I especially love when someoneā€™s gone way out of their way to put together something they know Iā€™d like. When someone really knows what Iā€™d like because they really know me , I feel touched to the core.

Butā€¦.. I like giving gifts much more than receiving them. Iā€™m a happy gift giver. I just love brightening up someoneā€™s day.
 
Last edited:
You must log in or register to reply here.

Back
Top