If you were tired of living alone, which would you prefer, a husband/wife, or a roommate?

[rbtvgo]

Interesting topic. Does a title or license guarantee a relationship? Does it insure that when times are hard you will both work it out, because you have a title or a license? No! you either work it out because you love each other or you need each other which is the same, when you think about it.
Life is difficult, hard and there are times when you think that all your wows are because of your partner. A different partner would make it all different. Sound familiar? Got news for you, it's not your partner......it's you. You are not who you think you are. Go search for the answer and you will end up with the same type as you had before. So we are back to trying to understand who YOU are.
Most marriages that are good is because both partners recognize and understand that both have sacrificed for the other and that they have each others back. Something common to veterans which it is why they remember their service so vividly.
Sex is sex, romance is nice and something to embrace. But a marriage is not a license or title. It is a bound that defies explanation in the common understanding. There is nothing pure in a fifty year relationship for example. There are mistakes, there are indiscretions, there are mistakes, yet two continue through it all, why?
Call it quits! start over. Don't need this sh_t!
Then you end up with someone just like the one you left.
Or As I said, you look at yourself.
Just something to think about

 

[Ruthanne]

I'd prefer a nice animal but can't do that anymore because it's too expensive. I'd take anyone who was faithful, loyal and trustworthy and didn't look like Sasquach.

 

[dusty]

Maine Coons are wonderful but don't overlook all the sweet needy kitties out there.

I am the rescue person go to. For over 25 yrs I rescued, tamed and vacced cats and dogs too. I am a retired vet tech from Virginia and I never worked, just volunteered. Had a great life.

 

[Gardenlover]

A rotating room mate

 

[DailyArtsyCrafter]

A husband. Someone who shares my interests but who also has interests apart from me. Someone who knows how to take care of himself but we would help each other. We would know how to spend time together and time apart.

 

[friar]

If you were tired of living alone, which would you prefer, a husband/wife, or a roommate?

That is a very interesting question and I have no idea. Maybe a room mate male or female with a sense of humor. I have no illusions about myself and my appeal to women at my age. Maybe someone to garden and try recipes with would be nice and all animals welcome of course.

 

[Oldeagle66]

I recently ran into someone who moved into an affordable low income senior hotel type building. Nice rooms and good food. He loves it. I can see something like that but not sharing my own living space with anyone. Not a chance. Nope.

 

[Oldeagle66]

Partner, separate places, close but not too close in case things end up not working out. From there if things go well who can say?

Agreed, I always live far enough away where people just won't pop up

 

[Ruthanne]

I'd prefer a dog or cat. I live all alone now but can't afford a pet with the Vet bills so high these days. Maybe I'll get a fish

 

[smiley]

definitely a suitable female ?? they are complimentary - an equal balance to a home - excellent!!

 

[Rindee]

Partner, who has his own place. I would also have a dog.

That works for me too!

 

[Rindee]

A rich, tall, well built, handsome macho husband! It'll ne'er happen, but I can still dream!

 

[BeachBi]

Very difficult these days to find roommates. I'm open to male or female. Last few attempts disappointing. Too many with issues

 

[Nathan]

A gay roommate, who is also a good friend.

Either male or female would be OK, no romance- just friends.

 

[BeachBi]

Either male or female would be OK, no romance- just friends.

A casual romance with no drama / respect

 

[oslooskar]

How about a beautiful, young Candice Bergen look-alike android?

 

[BeachBi]

How about a beautiful, young Candice Bergen look-alike android?

There is a movie called Companion you can check out. Saw it recently at Hotel. About a Robot that becomes self-aware. Interesting plot worth seeing

 

[PurplePower]

I want my Daisy Dog back.

 

[astralcat]

What I am curious about is why a 38 year old would come to a seniors forum. Don't be offended - I am genuinely curious.

 

[OldOld]

I would just prefer someone I can get along with, and know each other well. It doesn't matter if that someone is a spouse or roomate or friend.

 

[papa tiger]

Most likely feeling out the relationship is a good thing. Self and common payments if co-habited.
I would think a Trust / living will, & things like letting them live there the rest of their lives when you
pass is a falsehood. Aging has its inescapable consequences no matter what you plan. Cool is best plan.
Everything changes with Power Chairs and Walkers +. Drastically!

 

[papa tiger]

I'm 38, and while I’ve gotten pretty good at living alone (solo dance parties and all ), I’ve also started to feel like… maybe I don’t want to do everything alone forever.

If I had to choose between a roommate or a partner—I’d definitely say a partner.
Not just for the shared space or chores, but for the quiet connection. The knowing glances. The we got this kind of feeling when life throws curveballs.

But I also know love at this stage isn’t about butterflies or drama—it’s about peace, respect, and someone you actually enjoy folding laundry next to

Roommates can be fun too (I’ve had a few colorful ones), but at the end of the day, I think I’m still wired for something deeper.

Curious what others think—especially those who’ve lived both sides of the question.
Which would you prefer these days: a roommate, a relationship… or maybe a cat and total freedom?

Yeck babe you still a hot mess. You got lots of fun ahead. Stay cool.

 

[Naturally]

I've never been married. Can't see it happening anytime soon or otherwise.
When I got tired of living alone, I got a dog

 

[OldOld]

Most likely feeling out the relationship is a good thing. Self and common payments if co-habited.
I would think a Trust / living will, & things like letting them live there the rest of their lives when you
pass is a falsehood. Aging has its inescapable consequences no matter what you plan. Cool is best plan.
Everything changes with Power Chairs and Walkers +. Drastically!

In other words you are buying relationship/companionship with your assets. I am not giving away my house in exchange for a companionship. To me, all friendship/relationship has to be based on equal footing.

 

[Tish]

The pets will do me.